When you start getting into a serious relationship with someone, there are certain things that you discuss, like your plans for the future, what you want from life, how important family is to you, and finances—especially when you make the decision to move in together.
But what do you do if you find out that the person you’re with, the person you’re engaged to, has been lying to you about their financial situation in a way that has cost you in more ways than one?
Recently, A Woman Posted A Story On Reddit About Her Boyfriend
She said that she had recently had a troubling conversation with her boyfriend, now fiancé, about signing a prenup before they got married. This was surprising to her, considering she’d been supporting them financially for quite some time.
Apparently He “Never Said He Was Broke”
She had been paying for him to live his life so that he could follow his dreams of becoming a writer. Meanwhile, she’s struggling because paying for two people is a lot on one person’s salary…and they had recently had a huge number of vet bills accumulate because of a sick dog.
She Was Upset To Learn That He Was Actually Quite Wealthy
All this time, he could have been helping her pay for their living expenses, and he could have helped pay the vet bills for the dog they both loved so much. And maybe the biggest issue of all is that he hid this huge thing from her for four years!
It’s Disturbing To Know You’ve Struggled When You Didn’t Have To
She said that she’s really upset that she had to work two jobs and crazy hours to support them when he could have, at the very least, paid for his half of their bills.
They Did Discuss It
In the original thread, which has now been taken down, there were a lot of people who were asking if it was something that they specifically talked about. She said that it was, and he had knowingly let her believe he had no money.
The Post Also Made Its Way To Twitter
As you can imagine, people on Twitter had lots of opinions, but they were a lot more divided than you might think. There were people who were mad on her behalf, saying that after four years, she shouldn’t have to prove she’s not a gold digger.
Others Pointed Out They Have Bigger Issues
It goes without saying that starting out your marriage with a lie that big is a huge red flag. Is the relationship going to be salvageable after they had to go through this? Would there ever be trust again?
Some Said It Wasn’t That Big A Deal
She paid for everything because she wanted to support him, should it matter that he had money? Some even went so far as to say she was selfish to be expecting money from him.
Was It Especially Bad Because He Was A Man?
There were some people on Twitter who were pointing out that if it had been the other way around and it was her who had all the secret money, people not be so mad.
The Bottom Line Is It Upset Her
He could see that she was struggling to pay their bills and save their dog, who she had to sell her dead mother’s violin to save. It wasn’t a nice thing to do, no matter how you look at it.