There are some experiences in life that are just kind of unpleasant, and then there are those experiences that are so awful that you swear to never go through the same thing again.
A Reddit user asked women to share their “never again” stories, and the answers did not disappoint.
Stop Accepting Cheating
“I will never again accept someone’s excuse for cheating. I’m monogamous, and if you can’t be, boy… bye!”
Honestly, when it comes down to it, there’s no good excuse for cheating. I’m glad she’s not letting guys take her for granted anymore.
Always Get A Written Agreement
“Never again will I agree to take on additional roles/work with the promise of a salary increase without getting it in writing. They doubled my workload and I didn’t get paid a dime.”
Pregnancy And Childbirth Are Not Easy
“Giving birth. I love my daughter, but I’m not doing it again. I spent three weeks before delivery in the hospital (got poked with so many needles that I lost count), and she spent three weeks in NICU after. My epidural failed and I wasn’t allowed to have pain meds. I still have nightmares about it. People still ask me when I’m having the next baby.”
This Is Good To Know…
“Taking a laxative without drinking a bunch of water. I thought I was going to die.”
In her defense, no one really tells you the ins and outs of having to take a laxative. I’m glad I know to drink water now if I ever need one.
Say No To Mommy’s Boys
“I’m never dating someone who literally lives in their parents’ basement again. What was I thinking? In trying to prove I wasn’t shallow, I proved I was an idiot. He was 30 years old.”
Antibiotics And Alcohol Are Not A Good Mix
“I’m never drinking vodka again while on antibiotics when going to an outdoor concert in June. Or drinking vodka while on antibiotics in general. You know, actually, maybe I’m just never drinking vodka again.”
Take Things At Face Value
“I’m never going to read into someone’s behavior to try to find a silver lining to justify their behavior again. People show who they are by what they do, it’s really that simple.”
It’s Not Worth It
“Cold night; lamppost; tongue. Need I say more?”
Ah, yes: the sweet temptation of a cold lampost, even though you know that licking it will only lead to your own pain.
Your Job Shouldn’t Make You Miserable
“Staying at a job for 18 years because I kept thinking it would get better eventually. I finally realized I was constantly being manipulated with my former employer. I moved on and am finally actively appreciated for my contributions.”
Drive Yourself For The First Date
“I’m never letting a guy pick me up for a first date again. It forces you to stay even if you’re uncomfortable, and lets the guy know where you live, which is a disadvantage if the date doesn’t go well. I let a guy pick me up last month (something I never do) because my car wouldn’t start, and I wish I hadn’t.”
They’re Definitely Still Stuck On That Past Girlfriend
“I’m never dating someone with a tragic ‘the one that got away’ story ever again. I refuse to waste my time in a relationship where I am constantly being compared to someone else.”
Please, Just Go See A Doctor
“Google my symptoms. I diagnosed myself with stage four lung cancer and decided to die quietly at home. Eventually, I got dragged to an actual doctor and found out I had embolisms in my heart and lungs. I was lucky to survive that particular bout of idiocy!”
No One Really Wants A Pity Date Anyway
“Accepting a pity date from someone I know I had zero interest in. It was awkward as hell from start to finish and ended with him groping me.”
Never give in to the pity date. It never ends well, and it’s a waste of everyone’s time.
You Can’t Make Someone Stay
“I’ll never beg anyone to stay ever again. If you don’t want to be in my life, I don’t want you here.”
The horrible truth is that if someone wants to leave you, they will.
Stop Taking Credit For My Ideas!!
“I’m never silently accepting it again when someone repeats my own thoughts and jokes back to me as if they are their own original thoughts and jokes, especially in the workplace.”
Get An Employer Who Doesn’t Punish You For Taking Sick Days
“I will never let my employer make me feel guilty about being ill again; don’t have cover for me? Not my problem. I like my job just fine, but to ask employees to come in whilst very unwell and guilt us if we don’t is just not right.”
Some Cats Are Just Meant To Stay Indoors
“I will never walk my cat on a leash again. She made this unearthly yowling noise while running in circles at the very end of the leash, latched onto a chain-link fence, and tried to climb into the neighbor’s yard. When I pulled her off of that, she latched onto my shoulder. Her little claw started bleeding and I was bleeding from her scratches.”
You Just Need To Trust Your Instincts
“I’m never persuading myself my gut instinct is wrong about somebody ever again. I’m sorry to say I have done that more than once.”
Sometimes, you want to give others the benefit of the doubt, but you just need to trust yourself.
Every Student Has Had A Similar Experience
“Staying up all night cramming for an exam. I slept right through my alarm and missed the test.”
This is my advice for college students: never try to pull a studying all-nighter, and always double-check your exam time and location.
Friendship With An Ex Is A Slippery Slope
“I will never try to be friends with an ex simply because we have ‘history’ after years together. It ended with him being jealous because I moved on and spreading nasty malicious lies about me to our friends.”