Woman Proves The “If He Wanted To He Would” Theory

Dating can be tricky, and we all have different experiences, both good and bad. A woman on TikTok has gone viral for sharing her thoughts on a common thing that people in the dating world say.

She says that she has proof that if a man wanted to, he would.

If He Wanted To He Would

Grace posted a TikTok video where she said she has some proof that the common expression is absolutely true .

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

She said that she was going to be proving the saying, “if he wanted to, he would.”

She Doesn’t Know Him

She then shared a screenshot of an Instagram conversation with a man named Eric.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

She says that she does not even know who Eric is. So what is it that Eric is doing?

Goodnight Queen

It turns out that Eric has been sending her nightly direct messages on Instagram.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

His message is short and sweet, and just says “Goodnight queen” followed by what number the message is.

They Keep Coming

She showed that he was very committed to sending these messages.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

She said that they have been coming every night for months. She said that she had become a little attached to it now.

Sometimes She Responds

She says that if she does not get a “goodnight queen” message from him, it will hurt her feelings.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

The majority of the time she does not respond, but sometimes she will send him a thank you.

Wants It To Get To 200

The messages have now been going on for months.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

She does not want him to stop sending them, given how far he’s come. She thanked him for the good work and wanted to see him get to 200!

Leading Him On

The video received millions of views and some people commented that they thought she was leading him on.

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In a follow-up video, she thinks that it’s just funny and it makes her laugh. She doesn’t think he cares.

She Can’t Believe It

In another follow-up video, she said that she couldn’t believe what has happened.

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The initial video received millions and millions of views, which apparently gave some other people the idea to also send her a message.

More People Messaging Her

She shared how her direct messages were blowing up.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

There were now tons of people sliding into her DMs and calling her a queen and wishing for her to have a goodnight.

They Never End

The message in her direct inbox went on and on with no end in sight.

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Photo Credit: @gracejohanna / TikTok

She now had a ton of people calling her a queen, even though she never asked for it!