What Makes A Guy Fall In Love? We’ve Got Some Answers
When we are dating, we all have this list in the back of our minds about what we want our ideal partner to be like. We talk about having a type and what our deal-breakers are, but sometimes we fail to consider how viable a candidate we are.
A man doesn't prove your worth, and you're perfect the way you are, but we can all learn a thing or two about what qualities make a man fall in love. Some of them are going to go without saying, but others might surprise you.
Someone Who Makes Them Feel Safe
We've grown up in a time that's made men feel like being emotional is a weakness. Luckily, we're taking great strides to break that mentality, but the stigma is still there.
An important quality in a partner that a man looks for is someone who isn't going to judge them or make them feel bad for expressing how they feel.
Someone Who Is Independent
We all want someone who wants to be around us, but guys also look for someone who has their own life and their own priorities. Having your own separate lives is going to go a long way toward keeping a relationship healthy because becoming too reliant on the other person can turn toxic.
Someone Who Is Kind
It seems silly to say that kindness is an attractive trait because it seems pretty obvious, but there are people who don't come by kindness so naturally. Men don't want to be with someone who is especially critical or gossipy.
Someone Who Appreciates Them
This one goes both ways. Finding someone who appreciates them is going to make a guy feel supported and like this is a relationship worth working at. Make sure that they appreciate you, too, though!
Someone They Feel They Can Trust
Being trustworthy goes with making someone feel that they can feel safe around you. Trust is one of the main building blocks of a good relationship, and without it, you don't have a chance. Are you going to be someone who will keep their secrets? Will you stay faithful?
Someone Who Knows What They Value
Growing and learning are a part of being human, so no person is going to know everything that they want all the time. But finding someone who is confident in what they value and how they want their life to look gives a lot of stability to a relationship.
Someone Who Is Passionate
It's a really attractive quality when someone has something in their life that they are passionate about. It could be the nerdiest thing ever, but seeing that you've got something in your life that you're super into is adorable and makes you interesting.
Someone They Have Great Chemistry With
This is one that goes without saying. If you're not attracted to one another, then there isn't much hope for you. However, looks can't be the only thing you like about someone because people's looks and bodies are going to change over time.
Someone Who Is Always Honest
Being honest is tough. Guys want someone who is going to be real with them, even if it's going to hurt their feelings. Honesty is one of the qualities that build up the trust you're looking for in a solid relationship.
Someone Who Takes Care Of Themselves
Taking care of yourself is a great quality for someone to have, even if they aren't looking for a partner. Taking care of yourself applies to all parts of yourself—physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Someone He Can Take Home To The Folks
Not everyone is close to their family, so this counts for someone they want to bring around their friends, too. Being someone that they can see sitting around the table with their loved ones is a swoon-worthy quality for men and women.
Someone Who Is Confident
We all struggle with confidence from time to time, but just like we should know who we are, we should also know that we are worthy of being loved and treated well. If you're always second-guessing yourself, your man might start questioning you, too.
Someone With A Great Smile
It's so cheesy, but there is really nothing like a great smile. Now, before you go worrying about your smile, you should know that any genuine smile is an incredible smile, so just make sure you only smile when you mean it.
Someone Who Doesn't Take Everything So Seriously
There is so much serious stuff in life that wanting someone who can have fun is key. You're OK with poking fun at yourself sometimes, and you also know when to let loose.
Someone Who Is Smart
Not everyone is book smart, but everyone is really smart in some way or another. Don't be afraid to put those smarts on display to impress your man. Trust us, he'll be into it. They need someone smart to help them learn and challenge them.
Someone With Good Manners
There is a shocking number of people in the world who don't have good manners. Don't be one of those people. Say please and thank you, be nice to waitstaff, and always wash your hands!
Someone Who Is Supportive
Let's be honest, sometimes, guys have some pretty crazy ideas, so it's OK if you don't always see eye to eye. But, having a partner that is going to support them when they're struggling or help them reach their dreams is ideal.
However, make sure that they do the same for you!!
Someone Who Is Also Their Friend
People greatly underestimate how important friendship is to a relationship. You have to enjoy being around one another when you're just watching TV or arguing about your new favorite conspiracy theory.
Someone Who Is Self-Aware
Being self-aware is a trait that comes with a lot of self-reflection and growth. We aren't always going to be able to catch ourselves being ridiculous, but being able to do it most of the time is something we should all be good at, single or not.
Someone Who Doesn't Play Games
No one wants to be involved with someone who plays games. Who has time for that? Always be upfront about what you need and what you want, and trust that your man will do the same.
