What Is A ‘Twin Flame’ And How Do You Find Yours?

You’ve probably heard of soulmates, but have you heard of twin flames? It’s the idea that there is someone out there only meant for you, as they will mirror your soul. In fact, they say they’re the other half of your soul. Unlike false twin flames, these are the people you’ll never have doubts about and with whom relationships will feel easy. Here’s how to tell them apart.

What Is A Twin Flame?

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A twin flame is a person who connects with you beyond just physical and emotional levels. You feel like your souls and spirits somehow know each other.

These people tend to reflect all our worst fears and baggage like a mirror, just as much as they reflect our best selves. In fact, they’re the people who open you up and help you grow.

Soulmates Vs. Twin Flames

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Soulmates are described as two souls that are intensely linked. They say twin flames are even more intense. Twin flames make the two halves of one soul. It’s an immediate completion and attraction of two people who are very much alike.

Twin flames are part of the belief that everyone is meant for someone and that our relationships are somehow cosmically guided. Whether you agree or not, the possibility is both exciting and romantic.

Be Careful Of False Flames

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A false twin flame may look a lot like the real one, but it’s still not quite it. Although false flames might help you grow and become better, they are only there to serve a need.

You’ll come to realize that these people aren’t actually the right ones for you, as something will always still be missing.

It’s Not Quite Love At First Sight

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While many relationships start off with strong passion and attachment, twin flames are more of a natural progression.

Rather than fall in love at first sight, you’ll feel an instant connection. You’ll feel like you’ve known this person for a long time.

They’ll Have The Same Issues As You

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They say that often your twin flame will have experienced similar childhood trauma as you. While some people think of it as having your soul split in two, like soulmates, others look at it more like a mirror.

Them having similar issues allows you to reflect back on yours and process them together.

It Feels Like Coming Home

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Those who believe they have found their twin flames describe it as “coming home.” As soon as they met their flame, they felt at peace.

This person allows you to be yourself and never tries to change, control, or judge you.

There’s An Inexplicable Synchronicity

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Twin flames often have a sense of synchronicity. Not only will they be amazed at how much they have in common—often blurting “me too” at each other—but their experiences will have plenty of weird coincidences.

Take this married couple for example, who happened to be photographed years prior at the same place at the same time.

You’ll Balance Each Other Out With Your Differences

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Even though you’ll share a lot of similarities, the differences they do have will only compliment yours.

These are the ways that you will balance each other’s lives and fill any voids that you might have felt leading up to that point.

You Won’t Be Joined At The Hip

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Contrary to flings that start out strong and fizzle out, you won’t be infatuated by your twin flame. You’ll be okay spending time apart.

This mature connection will make you feel drawn to spend time together while still giving you the space to work on yourself. It’s because you feel secure that at the end of the day, you can always go back home to them.

They Can’t Always Last Forever

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Due to the intensity of the relationship and the way it challenges you to deal with unresolved issues, it can end up being too overwhelming.

This can make these relationships hard to maintain. Once each person becomes aware of what they need to work on, they might need the time to do it alone.

It Will Amplify Your Insecurities

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This might sound counterintuitive, but here’s why it makes sense. The purpose of your twin flame is to support and help you be your highest self and to find your purpose.

That can only happen if you face your deepest and darkest issues so you can surpass them.

You Always Find Your Way Back To Each Other

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Even if one of you walks away, either out of fear or anger, you’re likely to always get back together. In fact, the “chase” becomes part of the appeal.

The on-again-off-again relationship will keep bringing you back together in the strangest ways.

It’ll Feel Like The Universe Has Your Back

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Photo Credit: Priscilla Du Preez / Unsplash

Some believe there are cosmic powers at play when it comes to bringing two twin flames together. It can feel like you met out of fate and like the universe keeps bringing you back together.

Even when things get hard, you’ll find that somehow they fall back into place eventually, like a puzzle piece.

You Feel Like You Have A Psychic Connection

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You feel like you can communicate with them without words. They can read the way you look at them and your body language to know exactly how you feel.

You’re not fighting to read their mind because you can just tell. You might even feel pain when they do or share their happiness.

It’s Filled With Passion

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Not only are you attracted to each other physically and emotionally, but on a spiritual level.

When you look at their eyes, it’ll feel like they’re looking through you. Your bodies will feel like one. This also means your fights will feel more intense with passion driving them.

The Relationship Has Its Downs

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This is not a “rainbows and sunshine” kind of relationship. In fact, it’s bound to be rocky and chaotic.

It’s because you’ll see each other at your worst and face parts of yourselves you don’t necessarily like. Nothing is off-limits.