Ways To Treat Yourself After A Breakup Because You Deserve It

After a breakup, it’s easy to get stuck in that place of feeling sad and like you’re never, ever going to get over it. Well, reality check, you will get over it, and while it is OK to be sad, you should be focused on using this post-breakup time for what it’s for—working on yourself to make your ex jealous.

Hopefully, by the time you run into them again, you won’t even care anymore.

Binge-Watch Your Favorite Rom Coms

a still from Legally Blonde where the main character is sitting on a recliner reading magazines with her dog
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Photo Credit: Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer

The first thing you have to do is cry it all out, and the best way to do that is to get in your PJs, take your duvet off the bed and bring it to the couch, and get all tucked in and ready to heave-sob at the end of all your favorite rom coms.

Don’t forget the tissues!

Give Baking A Try

some cute little cupcakes
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Jennie Brown

Maybe in your post-breakup Netflix marathon, you decided to take in a few baking shows and you feel a little inspired to give it a try yourself. I think you should do it! You’ll have some sweet treats, you’ll be occupied for a short amount of time, and, worst case, they don’t turn out but you can still eat the icing.

Purge Your Wardrobe Of The Clothes You Don’t Wear

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Sarah Brown

Out with the old and in with the new! In every woman’s closet, there is a pile of clothes that are just collecting dust because they don’t fit anymore or they aren’t your style. You got rid of your garbage boyfriend, so you’re strong enough to let go of these outfits too.

Make Yourself Feel Like A Snack With Some Body Frosting

containers of body wash that is whipped and flavored like birthday cake
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Photo Credit: Amazon

Using something luxurious while you’re in the shower can be a little thing that goes a long way to making you feel special and sexy. These body frostings are the kind of treat you need that will make you feel like the tasty snack that you are! You might even feel ready to get that Tinder profile ready after using this.

Give Yourself A Little Makeover

Tweet: I love that moment post breakup when girls start posting fire selfies
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Photo Credit: Twitter / @nicolemilfie

Don’t stop at the face mask. Really, a breakup is the best time to do a makeover. Get those bangs you always wanted to try. Try out that really moody eyeshadow palette you’ve been eyeing up at Sephora. Go all out.

Don’t forget to post a bunch of thirst traps on your Instagram after.

Get Some Exercise

a woman doing yoga
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Kari Shea

Getting a workout in seems like the worst thing ever, and it kind of is. But once you do it, you feel so good after and there is a ton of science to prove that the mental benefits of getting a little physical are great, too. A bit of yoga might be exactly what you need to cheer you up.

Spend Some Time Without Your Phone

a woman sitting in her living room reading
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Seven Shooter

It’s shocking how hard it is to disconnect from our phones, but it’s something that will pay off if we can do it. Stop lurking your ex’s social media, put the phone down, even turn it off, and do something quiet like reading or watching some of those chick flicks we talked about.

Order Your Favorite Take-Out

McDonald's and Bubble tea that looks extra tasty
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Photo Credit: Instagram / @mskitty_pink

It’s important to take care of our bodies, blah blah blah, I know. However, a breakup seems like the perfect time to let yourself indulge a little bit in some of your favorite take-out. You dated your ex for however long and he was bad for you, some chicken nuggets once in a while won’t hurt.

Soak Up Some Quiet Time In The Tub

a very inviting bath with lots of candles and a stand that has a book and some fruit on it
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Photo Credit: Instagram / @ritualswithlove

There is nothing like sitting in the bath and enjoying the warmth while listening to the water that clams you down like nothing else. I think it’s because you’re kind of limited in what you can do in the bath, so the time spent being quiet is refreshing.

Distract Yourself With A Grown-Up Coloring Book

a coloring book of Disney scenes
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Photo Credit: Amazon / Kim

If you’ve got the TV on and you’re scrolling through the phone, but you’re still feeling restless, a great way to make your mind settle down is to bust out a coloring book and some pencil crayons or markers and go town on those blank pages.

Do A Little Photoshoot

a woman taking a selfie
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Apostolos Vamvouras

You’ve done your makeover, you’ve rededicated yourself to that skincare routine, and you are looking so good! (You always did, but I know the way it feels after a breakup.) So it is time to take some of those cute little selfies that will have your DMs blowing up, and more importantly, make you feel confident again.

Try A DIY Project, Even If It’s A Small One

someone embroidered flowers around their bag
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Photo Credit: Instagram / han_de_craft

Little DIY projects are a great way to make you feel like you’ve accomplished something even though you’ve been relaxing the whole time you’re doing it. Something simple like embroidered flowers or some tie-dye.

Go To A Museum Or Gallery

person standing in front of some art at a museum
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Derick McKinney

There’s nothing that’s going to make you feel sophisticated and cool like going out to get some culture. It will also introduce you to new ways of seeing the world, and you might even learn something cool about yourself along the way.

Learn To Make A Signature Drink

a homemade cocktail
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Photo Credit: Instagram / @longshakes

After a long day of keeping busy so you don’t get too sad, you certainly deserve a tasty drink that’s more than a White Claw. Spend this extra time that you have to yourself luxuriating with a signature drink that you learned to make yourself.

Splurge On A Pedicure

a woman after getting a pedicure
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Photo Credit: Instagram / @nail_master.natallia

There’s just something about having freshly manicured feet that makes you feel like you’re worth a million bucks—which you totally are! They might seem expensive and silly because no one is seeing your feet, but you will know!

Rewatch Your Favorite Shows

characters from The Office looking at a computer
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Photo Credit: NBC Universal

There is something about rewatching a show that is so comforting. Maybe it’s because you already know everything that is going to happen and that reduces anxiety, or maybe it’s like spending time with an old that feels so awesome, but it’s certainly something to do right after a breakup.

Try Some Meditating

a woman who is meditating
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Conscious Design

Meditating is an excellent way to clear your mind and check in with yourself. As much as we might want to avoid our feelings, it isn’t healthy to leave them in the back of our minds and hope that they go away. Meditating will quiet the mind and help you find some clarity.

Kick Back With A Face Mask

woman wearing a face mask that makes her look like a cheetah
Photo Credit: Amazon / Jenni Renee
Photo Credit: Amazon / Jenni Renee

There really is nothing like a good face mask to get you feeling like yourself again. It’s like when you take it off and dry your face, you’re a whole new person who is wiser and stronger than before, and that person has amazing skin, too. Unstoppable.

Redecorate Your Living Space

a nice freshly decorated bedroom
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Photo Credit: Instagram / @my.dream.hooome

Refreshing your room or apartment is a good way to feel like you’re having a fresh start. You don’t have to go crazy, but there are certainly some little things like lights or a new bed set that might give it the refresh it needs.

Try Some Writing

a journal and some tea on a bed
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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Carli Jeen

Writing, like meditating, is a great way to work out what’s on your mind. You don’t even have to know what you’re going to write about. Just sitting down and putting the pen to the page and seeing what happens can be liberating.