Maybe they were never taught any better, or maybe they were allowed to get away with it too many times, but whatever the reason, there are some things men think they can say to women that would make any woman want to pull her hair out.
These women took to Reddit and are putting it all out there so that you don’t have to.
Blaming Their “Time Of Month”
“Assuming I’m on my period because I’m annoyed.” —Tatzou
What a great way to deflect. Maybe before putting the blame on the fact that you have the gift of giving life, he should actually try taking accountability for his behavior that caused you to be annoyed.
Driving From The Passenger Seat
“Unsolicited advice about driving and parking. I’ve been driving a manual car for 6 years now, I’ll ask for help if I need it.” —CopperBoom03
The funny thing is they’re usually not any better. It’s my car, I’ll break it if I want to.
Maintenance Is Apparently A Man’s Job
“Suggest I should have my husband handle it when discussing any home repair or maintenance.” —yesIdofloss
How bold of him to assume she’s even married. Let her be a strong independent woman who can repair her own home.
So Skilled…For A Girl
“Oh wow, you’re really good at xyz…for a girl.” —ahalfdozen6
Thank you for lowering the standard so much for us women—now it doesn’t take much to impress you. Adding qualifiers to compliments like this shows that the person undervalues your actual skills because of their preconceived notions. We’ll just use it against them and bypass them, and they won’t even see it coming.
Who’s Going To Win The Pain Olympics?
“If I say I’m tired or need a good night’s sleep or in pain. It’s like a competition to see who is the most tired or in pain.” —Sorcha232
Why is this a competition anyone wants to win? If they want to be in more pain, go ahead, take my pain too.
Expecting Them To Act More “Like A Woman”
“Reprimand me for not being feminine enough… I was raised with only brothers, so I think I kinda walk, talk, sit, and behave like them. Especially when I just try to relax. But apparently, that’s scandalous and not ladylike.” —Lillin-Firechat
If you’re a woman by birth, aren’t you automatically ladylike or womanly just by definition?
Giving Being Single A Bad Rep
“Thinking I need to have a boyfriend and making it a big deal when I say I prefer being single.” —username_username_12
Believe it or not, some women don’t feel the need to seek out a relationship to feel complete, and they do a fine job of living a fulfilled life all by themselves.
Dismissing Their Concerns
“If you’re a woman, you can’t complain at all about the number of creepy dudes on dating apps. If you do, you’ll get dozens of men saying they get ignored on Tinder, so you should be grateful to even be messaged.
“I really do sympathize with men who don’t get any messages and who are lonely, but I wish in turn men would be sympathetic to women’s struggles.” —FluffyFatFriendlyCat
Asking Them “To Smile More”
“When I bartended, men would tell me to smile or ‘you’re prettier when you smile.’ I would hear that one 10 times a night.” —Gooncookies
Who cares if you’re smiling or sobbing? It’s your face to do whatever you want with. You’ll smile when you feel like it.
Treating Their Sons And Daughters Differently
“My dad has always taken the time to show my younger brother how to how to fix things, but when it came to me, he’s always assumed I wouldn’t be able to do it properly and preferred to do it himself.
“Now that I’m in college and living by myself, I sometimes wish I could be able to unblock the U-bend in the sink or restart the battery in my car without having to look it up on the internet.” —Emmazingx
Why not equip everyone with the skills that would make their lives easier?
Constantly Interrupting Women
“Cut me off. Be it involuntarily or not. My dad and my friends both do it, and when they see that I’m annoyed they wait for me to take it back to the start, but…don’t interrupt in the first place.” —ConfusedAndFluffy
The worst thing is that you get so caught up in being annoyed, then when it’s finally your turn to finish your thoughts, you don’t even remember what you were saying anymore.
Assuming Women Are Nagging Them Instead Of Considering They Might Be Right
“My dad constantly ignores my mom’s concerns about like literally anything until it’s too late. Especially the car. For example, she’ll point out the tires are starting to deflate! ‘No, they’re fine.’ Then the tires proceed to be practically flat a week later.” —NightsThyroid
Ruining Food And Body Image
“Commenting on my weight and/or how much I eat.” —Orimeia
As if women didn’t feel enough pressure to look a certain way. There’s no reason to make us extra self-conscious. The lifestyle choices we make are ours and ours alone, and it’s not a man’s job to watch out for them.
“Get Angry When I Tell Them They’re Wrong”
“A coworker accidentally used the wrong word to describe something, and the customer was confused. I just casually used the correct word and continued the conversation.
“My coworker was livid and pulled me aside later to say I’d embarrassed him in front of a customer and he knew exactly what he was talking about and I was undermining him. Not the first time or workplace this has happened in!” —mairelon
It’s called teamwork! Let it make the dream work!
Taking Credit For Women’s Ideas
“Repeat what I’ve said back to me, but as if they just thought of it.” —oehoe21
Where is the satisfaction in knowing you’re stealing someone else’s idea and passing it as your own? Does it make them feel better to steal someone else’s thunder?
This One’s Just Rude
“Shush me mid-argument. Like, actually put a finger to their lips and say ‘shush’ when I’m halfway through a sentence.” —mkm577
In Stefanie Tanner’s words, “how rude!” How can a conversation be had if one of the parties can’t even have a voice?
Double-Checking And Questioning Women
“Question when I say something is broken or doesn’t work. They ask if I’m sure that I did everything correctly, and only after trying themselves, they believe me.” —HonigMitBanane
As if we don’t all live in the 21st century and have access to Google. You think I didn’t google the same recovery steps you have?
Nothing About This Is Flattering
“When I go for a run, it regularly happens that male strangers honk when driving past me. Even if I’m wearing long clothes. It’s just really irritating.” —martianruby
I have yet to see the day that a woman gets catcalled, takes it as a compliment, and walks over to the guy to thank him. If it’s never worked, why keep trying?
Everything About Trips To The Mechanic
“Not being taken seriously when I take my car to the mechanic unless I got a dude standing next to me.” —TheBunnyFiles
A grown woman shouldn’t feel the need to still call her father still to double-check that the mechanic isn’t trying to upsell her and take advantage of the fact that she’s a woman and probably knows nothing about cars, but here we are.
The World Doesn’t Revolve Around Men
“Expecting me to want to hear all the details of their lives, then give them praise. Meanwhile, they rarely take interest in the parts of my life that aren’t directly connected to theirs, and the praise I get is too tied up in my looks rather than my many other charming qualities.” —ggc4
Men and women are both living in this world, so until they start acting like it and stop making everything about them, we’ll continue to be annoyed.