When it comes to online dating, many positives, negatives, fails, and taboos can take place. A woman dating on Hinge was not impressed when one of the guys she was talking to broke an unwritten rule of online dating. But once she shared her thoughts, not everyone took her side!
Online Dating – No Longer The “New” Thing
It’s safe to say that online dating is no longer a “new” thing or a “passing fad,” as it’s now been around for a few decades.
And with the rise in popularity of dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble, online dating has become the go-to way to meet someone for a date.
The Struggles of Online Dating
There are, of course, many struggles with online dating – ghosting, hacking, catfishing, scams, stalking, and rejection.
Some problems were common before online dating, while others seemed to take off when online dating became big.
Online Dating Do’s
When it comes to online dating, you must realize that there are things that are okay to do.
Things that you should do are, stay safe, be yourself, have an open mind, and communicate!
Online Dating Dont’s
Of course, there are also things you should not do! Never disclose private information, don’t cheat, don’t meet someone for the first time at their house, and of course, don’t be rude!
Oh! And don’t do what this guy did!
Haaave You Met Abby?
This is Abby. She is a typical college girl, using dating apps like Hinge to meet her next match!
She posted a TikTok video that shows an interaction she had with a guy on Hinge, and it went viral!
Red Dress? No, Red Flags.
In Abby’s TikTok video we see the great example of “what not to do” when messaging someone on a dating app!
He messages her about a picture on her profile with her friend, “Don’t hate but I gotta know who’s in the red”.
Her response to his message is simple and blunt. Yet there is an elegance about how she delivers her message.
“She has a wonderful boyfriend… and pro tip… don’t do this.”
A Tik Tok Community Divided
Surprisingly, the comments on Abby’s Video are split on the situation. Some people join Abby’s side, saying this is a classic “dumb guy” thing to do.
While others say, it shouldn’t bother her because it’s such a normal thing to do!
Women Supporting Other Women
Some commenters supported and backed up Abby’s decision. One said, “he fumbled the bag for real, you’re beautiful.”
While another said, “I’m so confused though because you’re both equally beautiful? Like??? What.”
Best Friends Know Each Other
After going back and forth with many commenters, Abby shows off how well she knows her friend by stating:
“EXACTLY. Everyone in the comments calling me a bad friend for not giving her socials but she would never want a guy like that.”
Is It Normal?
Then there were these commenters who brushed off the situation, saying it’s normal, people do it all the time.
And one who said, “… If she were single, wouldn’t you be happy for her that someone is interested?”
The Reality Is…
Both sides have a point; on the one hand, if you match with someone, you probably shouldn’t be asking about the other person in their picture.
On the other hand, it is a common occurrence that most people shrug off and move on from.
Don’t Be Rude
After the general conversations about what had happened to Abby – out came the trolls; people saying things like abby was a 7 and her friend was a 10.
By the way – Don’t do this. It’s rude. Don’t be rude.
Shutting Down The Rude Commenters
Abby stayed strong and shut down the trolls, though! She wasn’t having any of their nonsense!
Abby commented, “If you’re coming on here to comment he did nothing wrong…I’m scared for your morals.” and “If I was insecure I wouldn’t have posted this.”
Purple For A Queen
Abby shut down this hater by making a whole TikTok video of her #SLAYING in Purple outfits.
They say Purple is for Queens – and it’s true! Because Abby you are one!
What’s that, haters? Yea, that’s right, Abby got interviewed for her viral video. And the news spread all over the internet!
Sorry, but she can’t hear you over her supporters and newfound TikTok fame!
Mom Asking the Real Question
Abby then made a video talking about how her mom asked why she was on a dating app when “there are plenty of boys at college.”
Ah mothers, always asking the hard-hitting questions!
How Can We Avoid Repeating This Taboo?
This Taboo is a norm in dating culture, and we see it all the time in media. Maybe it’s not even as big of a problem as it seems?
Sometimes you have to shrug and say, “yea, that person was cute, but oh well, they just weren’t into me!” But when it repeatedly happens to someone, it eventually does affect their mentality.
No Photos With Friends
If anything, this story is an example of why you should never put a photo with a friend on a dating profile.
People can get confused and not know who they’re talking to, or they might not like you, but maybe they like your friend!
Make The Optimal Dating App Profile
When you make a dating profile, only put pictures of yourself smiling and having fun; don’t add photos of yourself from a distance, or where people can’t see your face.
And don’t add a photo that has other people in it!