Woman Condemns Man Who Matched On Bumble Just To Fat-Shame Her

When it comes to our physical appearances, fewer things make us as self-conscious as our weight. With the rise of dating apps, the onus on our physical appearance is more prominent than ever before.

A woman who was bullied by a man who swiped right just so he could fat-shame her is now firing back, and she has a message for the man who bullied her and others like him.

Online Dating

Bumble dating app is seen on an iPhone.
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Photo Credit: Jaap Arriens / NurPhoto via Getty Images

Nowadays, more and more people are finding love on dating apps. While Tinder is probably the biggest app out there, others have found success as well, such as Bumble.

What makes Bumble unique however is that, much like Tinder, both users have to swipe right on each other in order to match. But for heterosexual matches, women have to be the first to send a message.

Body Shaming

Close-up of a man in a teal shirt squeezing his belly fat.
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Photo Credit: Towfiqu barbhuiya / Unsplash

When it comes to our weight and physical appearance in general, it’s something that everyone struggles with at one point or another. While many people are self-conscious about it, others use ones’ weight as a punching bag.

That’s exactly what one woman on TikTok experienced while on Bumble. Now, she’s sharing her story and shedding light on the issue.

The TikTok

Samid during her TikTok before she delves into the story.
Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok
Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

Sammid, also known as @samid123420 on TikTok, recently went viral with nearly 600,000 views for her experience with being a plus-sized woman on dating apps. In particular, her Bumble conversation with a man named Josh who only swiped right on her for a very cruel reason.

“My opening line for Bumble is always this,” Sammid says. “Your hand looks heavy, let me hold it for you.”

Opening Lines

Sammid posing with a text conversation she had with a man who was fat shaming her.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

Her “always and forever” pick-up line, Sammid wasn’t too surprised when Josh replied back “U look heavy”. She says that hurtful comments regarding her weight are something she gets from time to time. Sammid usually deletes the messages, but today, she wasn’t having any of it.

In response, she fires back “oh I know someone who’s under 6 feet didn’t call me fat”.

Conversation Escalation

Sammid with more text messages from a Bumble match in which he fat shames her.
Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok
Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

In response, Josh asked Sammid if she’s ever tried eating a salad. Suspecting the true reason why he swiped right on her profile, Sammid replies back “do you genuinely talk to other girls like this or is it just the fat ones you’re mean to?” Josh then responds that he only behaves this way to women he views as “whales”.

“He openly admitted to being mean to fat people,” Sammid says. “What?”

True Or False

Sammid posing with two more comments from her Bumble match that insult her weight.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

When Sammid says that his previous comments only prove he’s a “piece of s**t,” he doubles down on the insults further, calling her a liar because her profile says she sometimes works out.

Fed up with his hurtful and fat-phobic comments, Sammid drops a truth bomb on Josh.

The Truth Bomb

A text from Sammid that says skinny doesn't equal healthy and she's comfortable in her own skin.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

“I know your brain is the size of a pea so what I’m about to say might be shocking, but skinny doesn’t equal healthy. So yes, I do workout but I don’t do it to lose weight because I’m actually comfortable in my skin,” Sammid wrote.

She adds her weight is something she’s always struggled with, so she’s focusing on “loving and accepting” her body. That is until she started speaking to Josh who put her back “at square one”.

End Of Conversation

The end of Sammid and Josh's text conversation where he insults her again and says he hopes she'll use it as a motivator to lose weight.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

Josh’s second text says he’s going to end the conversation in hopes it’ll motivate Sammid to lose weight. When she replies back that it didn’t and she is instead going to go “bleep herself”, Josh says that would then make room for three more people. She then asks if he swiped right just to be mean to her.

Disgusted with Josh’s behavior and fat-phobia in general, Sammid ends the video with an important message.

A Parting Message

Sammid at the end of her TikTok talking directly to the camera.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

Sammid says that she did report Josh to Bumble, but the practice of men swiping right on plus-sized women just so they can fat-shame them is common.

“As someone who is learning to be comfortable in their skin, it really just set me back a lot,” Sammid says. “My whole day’s ruined, I feel like, just because of him. And I know I shouldn’t let him ruin it, but it is, and I’m worried he’s going to do it to someone else who is more vulnerable than me.”

A Follow-Up TikTok

Sammid shows a photo of the guy who bullied her named Josh from his dating profile.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

In response to her vial TikTok, Sammid had received a request from a user to turn the tables around and see what Josh looks like. In a follow-up video, she addresses this question and shows a few photos from 21-year-old Josh’s profile.

“That is the gentleman who bullied me for being fat,” she says.

Payback, TikTok Style

Sammid shows Josh's Bumble profile.
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Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

As payback for how he humiliated Sammid for her weight, she then pokes fun at Josh and his profile in her follow-up video. We see that he’s a college student, 5’11” tall, interested in working out, is an Aries, and his bio reads “came back for the vibes.”

“What vibes did you come back for, Joshua?” Sammid asks. “Aries and J name – double whammy.”

A Happy Ending

Sammid poses and smiles in front of a photo of the man who bullied her on Bumble.
Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok
Photo Credit: @samid123420 / TikTok

Sammid expresses her gratitude for TikTok users who supported her and for bringing this particular situation, and the issue of men swiping right on women just to fat-shame them, to Bumble’s attention.

She then provides a happy update. Sammid says that in response to her TikTok, Bumble banned Josh from the app, which she calls “a win”.