If You’re Thinking About Texting That Guy Again, Here Are Easy Ways To Remember Men Ain’t Worth It
I feel like we've all been there before: it's been a few weeks or months since you decided to let go of that one guy because he was all wrong for you, but in the lonely times following a few subpar dates, you think about texting him again and letting him back into your life.
Here are some of the best (and some of the most ridiculous) ways to remind yourself not to hit send that actually work.
Make Yourself Wait 24 Hours From The Time You Think Of The Idea Vs. When You Actually Send It
Most times, the desire to text that person who you know you shouldn't text is an impulsive decision. By forcing yourself to wait, you're more likely to realize that it's actually not the best idea.
FaceTime A Friend As A Distraction
If your phone is already in your hand and you want to type out that text, instead try FaceTiming a friend or family member to take your mind off him and focus on someone else.
Watch HBO's Entourage
Less serious, but watching a few episodes from season one of Entourage will have you losing your desire to text any man. Season one of the show epitomizes men being the worst toward women and will cure you of any lonely feelings.
Go Out Somewhere Busy/Exciting
It's hard to miss a guy when you're going hard on the dance floor with your favorite gal pals, going for a bowling night, or doing anything you find wildly fun.
Remind Yourself Why You Stopped Talking To Him
It's hard, but make a list of reasons why you stopped talking to him in the first place. Whether there was no future, he was not respectful of you, he refused to commit, or anything else, you know there's a reason you shouldn't reach out.
Go To The Gym
Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don't feel overwhelming urges to return to parts of their past. Jokes aside, exercising does help you feel better and can curb those urges to text the wrong guy.
Ask Yourself If Future-You Would Be Proud Of Current-You
It might sound cliché, but seriously consider if the future version of you would be proud of you for texting this guy or if they'd look back on the act as embarrassing and stupid. It can help you put down your phone.
Ask Your Friends About It Before Hitting Send
If you have good friends, they'll know you well enough and the situation well enough to let you know whether your desire to send that text is valid or if it will leave you feeling worse than before.
Write The Text Out In Your Notes App Instead
Rather than texting him, write out what you would say to him in the notes app or even on paper. It allows you to get the feelings out without the actual consequences of sending that message.
Make A Playlist Of Powerful "Men Suck" Anthems
Music, just like any art, can have a powerful effect on our emotional state and help guide our decisions. Listen to Beyoncé's "Don't Hurt Yourself" and Pink's "So What" a couple of times and you'll entirely lose the urge to hit "send."
Sis! Just Block His Number!!!
Blocking someone's number if you're not used to taking the action can feel extreme, but it also keeps you from sending and receiving messages that will only make your emotional situation worse.
Watch Legally Blonde
Legally Blonde is an iconic film for many reasons, but one of the best things is how Elle, the main character, changes from trying desperately to pursue a man to becoming a powerful, smart lawyer. Losing him hurt, but it was the best thing that ever happened to her.
Go On Dating Apps Instead
I'll be honest: this is probably not the healthiest outlet, but that doesn't mean it doesn't work. Swiping for 15 minutes on dating apps can help curb the desire to text that one guy.
Take On An Extra Project At Work
This is kind of a win-win because not only will you be too busy to think about texting him, but you'll also put yourself in a position to advance your career and accomplish something solely for yourself.
Give Your Phone To Someone Else
This isn't a long-term solution, but say you're intoxicated and feeling reckless enough to text him. Relinquish control of your phone to a trusted friend who won't let you do the deed.
Do Something Nice For Yourself Instead
Rather than putting effort into hitting him up, treat yourself with something you don't normally do: get your nails done, get food from that one expensive restaurant, or buy something new.
Avoid Cute Couples/Romantic Vibes At All Costs!!!
The feelings of loneliness naturally creep in when you hang out with a really nice couple you know or watch a cheesy rom-com like The Notebook. Don't let yourself indulge in things that will make your willpower weak!
Watch John Tucker Must Die
This hilarious film about a cheater and the women who take revenge on him is the perfect rom-com to remind you that the guy you liked probably wasn't all that great for you in the long run.
Delete His Contact Information
You can't contact a guy if you have no way to contact him. It might sound drastic, but deleting him off of social media and getting rid of his number will help get rid of the temptation to text him. Out of sight truly is out of mind.
Honestly Ask What You'll Gain From It
Sure, you might think in the moment that texting him is what you really want, but ask yourself if there's really anything to gain from doing it. Is it really going to benefit you, or will it just undo some of the progress you've made since letting him go?
It's hard, but sometimes we have to admit that he was not and will never be good for us.
