Sometimes when guys are trying to flirt, they do this weird thing where they can playfully tap you on the shoulder or the arm but they won’t let you do it back. Talk about mixed signals.
When You Put Them Down
Urgh, negging. I don’t know who ever heard about this and thought that it was something that would work, but I am here to tell you it does not. Putting a woman down is not the way to get her to like you.
When You Try Too Hard To Impress Them
It’s fine to be proud of yourself and your accomplishments, in fact, someone who is into you would be interested in that stuff. But there is a fine line between being confident about your accomplishments and bragging.
When You Tease Them In A Mean Way
Teasing is fine, as long as it’s just, like, inside jokes and things that you know aren’t going to hurt the other person’s feelings. A lot of guys think that teasing in a way that will make you feel bad is a good way to win someone over.
When You Like Everything They Post
For some, this might be a dream come true—who doesn’t want a clingy boyfriend? But for most of us, it might come off as a bit stalkerish. Now, algorithms and all that might just bring them up in your feed all the time, but make sure you’re not coming on too strong.
When You Talk About Other People You’re Seeing
No one likes to hear about your current dating life. Opening the ex files is interesting, it’s good to know someone’s past, but no one cares about the number of women you’re seeing or all the girls who want you. Sorry about it.
When You Tickle Them
Don’t ever play-tickle someone. It’s weird, it’s gross, and it’s a throwback to middle school when boys with greasy hair wanted to try and kiss you but didn’t know how to do it.
When You Make A Lot Of Sexual Jokes
Sure, let someone know you find them attractive, but don’t go all out and make a bunch of super sexually charged jokes. That’s going to make you look like a perv and the whole situation will get uncomfortable.
When You Act Disinterested
Let’s not play games. This whole “they’ll like me more if I ignore them” thing is not a thing. It doesn’t work, it just makes for a really frustrating, untrustworthy start to a relationship.
When You Say Something Accidentally Sexist
There are a lot of guys out there who think that it’s a great compliment to tell a woman she’s not like other women he knows. That just makes you seem questionable, it doesn’t make her feel good about herself.
Here Are Some Ways To Flirt That Might Get You Somewhere
Maybe you’ve tried some of these things and they work for you. There are lots of different kinds of people in the world. All I’m saying is that there are some more constructive ways to flirt that might be more successful, more often.
Here are some.
Hold Eye Contact
Eye contact can seem really scary, and it kind of is. There is something really intimate about looking someone in the eye, especially when you’re getting to know a person in the way you’d want to before dating. But it’s one of those things that are sexy and noticeable.
Smile! It’s A Real Thing
Everyone has an amazing smile, these are just facts, especially when it’s a genuine one. If you’re feeling happy and engaged, then show them with that big gorgeous grin. Remember, act natural, though.
Give Genuine Compliments
Don’t go overboard with compliments and don’t give compliments that are followed up by a teasing or nasty remark. Just simply mention something that you’ve noticed and compliment them on it. For extra points, compliment them on something that isn’t sexual.
Make Them Laugh
It’s cliché, but boy does it work. Making someone laugh is one of the ultimate aphrodisiacs. It means you know how to have fun and also that you have the depth of personality to enjoy things.
Use Your Body Language To Show You’re Interested
Body language is key when it comes to flirty. Make sure your feet and shoulders are pointed toward them, lower your head so you can hear them when they talk, and don’t forget about that eye contact we talked about.
Stand Up Straight
Everyone loves confidence, it doesn’t matter who you are. That’s why when you’re with someone you like or approaching someone for the first time, it’s important to stand up straight with your shoulders back. They’ll notice, I promise.
Make Ever So Slight Contact
Don’t go grabbing at them, that’s weird and uncalled for. But the slightest brush of your foot against theirs or tapping them on the arm if they make you laugh might send the sparks flying.
Ask Them Questions
This one is huge! If you want the person you’re flirting with to actually feel like you’re interested, be interested! Ask them questions, remember what they say, and keep the conversation going.
Let Them Ask You Questions
It can seem like the right call to make flirting all about them, but if they’re feeling you, then they’re going to want to get in there too with some of their own moves. Keep conversations and questions open so they know you want to talk to them.