Feelings are a difficult thing to navigate, even the good ones. When you’ve started seeing someone and it feels like love, that’s really exciting, but feeling like love doesn’t mean that it is actually love.
There are some things you can look out for and consider to try and help understand what your true feelings might be.
You Don’t Care About Their Drama
Everyone has something going on in their life that’s a little bit crazy, whether it be their working life, friends, family, or a crazy ex. In the beginning, you were hanging on to their every word, but now you just don’t really care.
It’s Normal For You To Zone Out
When they’re talking to you, especially if it’s just the two of you, you tend to zone out and listen but not really hear. This is just another way you deal with having lost interest.
You Never Thought About A Future
You don’t need to see a future right away with someone, but if you’ve been together for a while and you still don’t see this person as potentially serious material, you might be wasting both your time.
You’re Happiest On Your Own
Everyone loves alone time. There is no question about that. However, when you’re dating someone and you still prefer being on your own all the time and never really want to see your partner, that’s a bad sign.
You Can Go A Few Days At A Time Without Talking
Most people like being able to check in with their partner at least once or twice a day if they can, but if life gets busy, it isn’t that big of a deal. What is a big deal is if a few days go by and you don’t talk and you don’t really notice.
You Don’t Share Things About Your Life
One of the most important things about being with someone is the fact that you’re going to learn how to share a life with one another, and that means being open with each other. If you don’t want to share, it probably isn’t love.
They’re Not A Priority
If the person you’re dating isn’t a priority, that’s a pretty big red flag. They don’t need to be the only defining thing in your life, but they certainly should be something you take into consideration when you’re making life plans.
Your Relationship Is Moving At A Snails Pace
There is nothing wrong with taking things slow as long as they are actually moving along. Being stuck in one place with no promise of a future isn’t going to be good.
You’re Not Interested In Introducing Him To Family
Again, you don’t need to rush things, but check in with yourself and consider if you actually do want this person to meet with your family and your friends. If not, ask yourself why that is.
You Walk Out Of Fights
Fighting is never fun. No one likes to do it. That’s why, at first, it might make sense that you’re not likely to actually stick around for a fight. There is a big difference, though, between wanting to fight right and not acknowledging fights at all.
You Think About Cheating
Everyone has fantasies, that’s just human nature. That being said, having a fantasy is not the same actually making plans in your head about potentially cheating on your partner. People who cheat don’t love the person they are with.
Being Around Them Makes You Anxious
Pay attention to how you feel deep down when they are around you. Do you feel peaceful? Calm? Taken care of and loved? Or do you feel stressed out, anxious, and like you can’t wait to get home?
You’re Forcing Them To Change
You should never start dating a person thinking that they’re going to change or that you can change them for the better. If that’s going through your head, then it’s probably a good idea to just move on now.
You Don’t Touch Each Other A Lot
Physical touch is one of the things that separates an intimate relationship from a friendship. No one is asking you to be the king and queen of PDA, but if you don’t sneak a little touch here and there, it could be because you’re not feeling connected to them.
You Find Them More Annoying Than Anything
No one is perfect, and no matter who you date, there are going to be things that rub you the wrong way. If you’re finding them annoying more often than not, though, you might just think they’re annoying.
You Complain About Them A Lot
Your friends are probably sick of hearing it, but it doesn’t stop you. Your friends are there to listen to you, but you should hope to be in a relationship that is going to give you a lot of funny and heartwarming stories to share, too, not just compliments.
You Feel Relieved When They Cancel Plans
They send you a text and it says that they’re really sorry, they have to reschedule, and you get butterflies. That’s not a great sign at all, is it? You should get butterflies when they want to make plans, not when they cancel.
You Haven’t Deleted Your Dating Apps
If the relationship is new, you don’t have to be in a huge rush to make things exclusive, but if you think that you might be in love with them but you can’t part with your dating apps, is that really love? Or just a fling?
You Don’t Really Think About Them During The Day
Even the relationships that have been together for the longest still have the people in the couple thinking about each other throughout the day. Does your significant other ever cross your mind?
You’re Picking Fights Over Little Things
Maybe you’re picking fights because you are hoping that one of them is going to get big enough that you might break up over it. Fighting all the time about little things is not healthy or supportive in a relationship.