Signs He’s Going To Break Up With You So You Might Want To Beat Him To The Punch

There is an inevitable point in every relationship where you have to accept that it might be over. It sneaks up on you, and it’s not a fun feeling, but it’s one you have to learn to see more clearly than just in hindsight.

If your boyfriend is doing some of these things, he might be seriously thinking about breaking up with you. If you’ve noticed any of these signs, think about whether or not it might be time for you to pull the plug first.

He Makes Lame Excuses About Not Being Able To Hang Out

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Sofia Alejandra

This is probably the biggest one, so we will start with it. If he’s not wanting to spend time with you anymore, it’s likely because he doesn’t want to, and not wanting to spend time with the person you’re dating is a sure sign that relationship is over.

He Starts Fights For No Reason

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Kaboompics .com

If he’s starting fights for no reason, it could be because he’s hoping that if he does it enough, then you will be the one who breaks up with him. He could be trying to force you to do what he doesn’t feel strong enough to do.

He Isn’t Open With You Anymore

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Photo Credit: Pexles / cottonbro

No one likes the feeling that your partner isn’t being honest with you anymore, or that you aren’t in a relationship where you share things. If he’s shutting down, it’s probably because he’s trying to create distance between the two of you to make the breakup a bit easier.

He Never Wants To Talk About Your Relationship

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Photo Credit: Pexles / Odonata Wellnesscenter

What’s the point in talking about your relationship if there isn’t even going to be one? If he’s been dodgy about talking about your future or doesn’t even want to have any conversations about how to fix your relationship, he’s probably checked out.

He Doesn’t Appreciate You

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Rafael Barros

If he’s not appreciating you anymore, then you’ve got to leave, if only for your own good. You deserve someone who is going to be respectful and treat you right, and part of that is breaking up with you when they feel like the relationship is over, not dragging it out.

He’s Being Really Hard On You

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Photo Credit: Pexels / cottonbro

If he’s handing out criticisms left, right, and center and not giving you any compliments or constructive feedback, then he’s trying to make you feel less-than and alienate you from the relationship so that you might break up first, or not put up a fight when he does it.

There’s No Nostalgia For When You Started Dating

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Photo Credit: Pexels / freestocks.org

When things are feeling tense, it can feel good to look back on when you started dating and remember why you’re in this to begin with. But, if you’re looking back on those times either with your partner or on your own and the magic is gone, then the relationship is probably gone too.

The Intimacy Is Gone

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Kristin Vogt

This another one of those big ones that should be a huge red flag. If there is no more intimacy in your relationship, it could be an indicator that the feelings and the connection are fading between the two of you.

You Always Feel On Edge Around Each Other

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Ketut Subiyanto

He might always be in a mood, or you never know when he’s going to snap, and it’s making you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around him.

He’s Slowly Taking His Stuff Back

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Tony Schnagl

I once dated someone who I recall took back his CDs one by one over a couple of weeks. It felt like things were kind of off, but didn’t think much of it. Well, guess what? I should have seen it as a sign that he was about to end things!

You Don’t Feel Like You’re Friends Anymore

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Samson Katt

If he’s doing a lot of these things, then there is probably a good chance that you’re not feeling like you’re friends with each other anymore. That’s likely a part of what he is trying to do.

All Your Serious Conversations Happen Over Text

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Ivan

He’s avoiding talking to you in person, especially if you’re trying to get him to have some serious conversations with you. It’s a way he avoids having to take responsibility, and it shows his true character.

He Is Constantly Complaining About Aspects Of Your Relationship

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Craig Adderley

All you hear coming out of his mouth are complaints about you or your relationship. There is something that’s bothering him all the time and it’s no longer constructive, it’s just petty.

He’s Doing Things Without You

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Pixabay

You’ve noticed that he’s starting to do things without you like seeing mutual friends, or going to his work Christmas party without you as his plus-one. He’s trying out what his life is going to feel like without you in it anymore.

He’s Giving You A Lot Of Ultimatums

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Vera Arsic

“If you don’t do this…” does that sound familiar? Ultimatums are not fair, and they’re just a way that he’s trying to bait you into picking that breakup-inducing fight with him.

You Feel Like Nothing You Do Is Right

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Andrea Piacquadio

Maybe you’re still trying really hard to make things right, but he isn’t having it. Do you really want to feel like nothing you do is right? Do you want to stay with someone like that?

His Friends Have Gotten Distant

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Andrea Piacquadio

You’ve noticed that his friends don’t like your stuff on Instagram and they’re awkward when you run into them in public. It could be because he’s been talking to them about wanting to end things.

He’s Just Generally Distant

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Min An

He’s far away, physically, mentally, and emotionally. He just isn’t in it anymore, and he’s acting like he doesn’t want anything from you. It’s uncomfortable, and it isn’t fair to you.

So, What Now?

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Catherine

If you’ve read through this list and feel like some of them are hitting a little too close to home, you might have to ask yourself some serious questions about the future of your relationship.

If The Relationship Feels Over, It’s Probably Over

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Ike louie Natividad

It’s a tough thing to admit, but if your relationship is feeling like a struggle, if it’s feeling like it’s over, then it’s probably a sign that it actually is. As always, you should trust your gut with these things.

If he’s going to drag his feet and just make your life miserable, then you need to put your foot down and end the relationship instead of waiting for him to.