Techniques To Try If You’ve Upset Your Man
When you upset your man, it might feel impossible to calm him down. That's the case with anyone who becomes angry at someone else who has feelings for them.
Your job is to nurture and challenge, not get that person mad. Thankfully, there are some simple techniques you can use that will help you get everything under control.
Try A Promise
If you made a mistake to get him angry, then making a promise is one way to help smooth out the wrinkles. Promise that whatever happened won't take place again because it was a one-time mistake.
Listen To Him
When he starts to cool down, he'll want to talk. That’s when all you have to do is listen to what he’s saying. Try you’re hardest not to cut him off so he has the floor to vent his frustrations and you two can hurry past this.
Find The Right Time
Sometimes, timing is everything. If he's mad at you, try not to talk to him after his day at work. That could build on any lingering stress from the day. You know his schedule best, so pick your spot wisely.
Offer Some Help
If you want to try the nurturing way, you can always ask how you can make things better. Be sweet about it, but don't compromise your character. You’re only owning up to a mistake.
Give Him Time And Space
Some time and space never hurt anyone, and it won't hurt him either, unless you messed up extremely bad. In many cases, he just needs some space to think and realize he might’ve overreacted, but you’ll have to meet him halfway once he makes this realization.
Don't Force Him To Talk
He'll tell you the issue when he’s ready, so forcing him to speak probably won’t give you your answer faster. As mentioned earlier, he’ll probably apologize to you after he has some time to think.
Refrain From Placing The Blame On Him
Trying to turn the tables will only make things worse. If you know you messed up, it's best to own up to it instead of trying to escape. As your partner, he’ll respect that a lot more.
An Apology Never Hurt
Of course, you have to apologize. Saying you're sorry after messing up is a law of life. Not only is it pretty much mandatory, but he would love to hear it.
Let Him Play His Games That Day
If you usually complain when he hops on the gaming system with the squad, today is the day you don't mind. After all, you did upset him enough to where you’re here trying to figure out how to fix things, so letting him play freely is a safe bet.
Calm Yourself First
You'll only slow things down if you get upset because he’s upset. If you catch yourself starting to heat up too, catch the temper before things escalate further than needed.
Surprise Him With A Gift
A surprise is a great way to cheer anyone up, especially if you get them something practical. This doesn't have to cost a paycheck, but make it something he can use for himself.
Cook His Favorite Dish
A man's favorite dish will soften any anger. If you know how to prepare what he likes, do it, or if he has a favorite restaurant, suggest that you two go there as your treat.
Be Kind
Now isn't the time to show your sassy side that probably got you into this predicament. Show kindness and that you care. The anger shouldn’t last very long if you don’t add fuel to the fire.
Try Not To Joke Around
Your jokes probably won't be any good during this time, so you can save them for a better moment. Unless you know his humor like the back of your hand, don’t try it.
Neither Of You Should Raise Your Voice
If he starts to raise his voice, don't mimic his actions. Instead, keep a cool head and try to get him to simmer down. Fighting fire with fire never fixed the issue.
Don't Be Afraid To Compromise
If you told him he couldn't go out with his friends this weekend because you wanted to see a movie with him, that might be a great night to give up. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t see the movie that night.
Try Cute Text Messages
A cute text message could do wonders. If the issue extends longer than expected and one of you has to leave, a thoughtful message can put a smile on his face.
Don't Try And Act Like You Completely Understand
If you don't understand, that’s fine. Don’t act like you do when you don’t. The best thing to do is to ask questions that will help you understand the problem more.
Assure Him That You Care
Part of why he's mad could potentially be because he thinks you don’t care as much as you should. This is a great chance to reassure him now and for the future that you do care.
