Signs You’re In A Dead-End Relationship
Whether you've been in a relationship for two months or a year, there are always warning signs it's not going to last.
Sure, things can turn around if you work at it, but other aspects can work against you too much. It isn't your fault unless you don't try to recuperate from these unfortunate situations. Take a moment to learn and see if you're on any of these paths.
No One Talks About The Future
How do you expect to last if you don't plan for a future together? If all you two do is "go with the flow," how long can you keep that up before things slow down?
He Says He Isn't The Marrying Type
Marriage is usually the last milestone in a relationship that solidifies it. If he tells you that isn't in the cards for him, don't bother trying to change his mind.
Other Guys On The Back Burner
For some reason, you can't seem to shake the other men in your life. If this is so, how do you expect to take things further in your current relationship if you keep the convo going with Tom from across the street?
The Only Thing In Common Is Physical
If the only time you two enjoy each other's company is in bed, that's an issue. Where's the chemistry that allows you to bond in public and elsewhere around the house?
You've Got A Lot In Common, But There's No Intimacy
Okay, you two can do anything together, and it doesn't get too awkward. The only thing that isn't getting shared between you two is intimacy. You two are supposed to be friends and lovers.
Living Together Already?
Let's say you already have all the same perks of married life, including living together but no formal commitment. The urge to make it official might not be there anymore.
Someone's Parents Are Divorced
If someone's parents are divorced, that causes an issue too. If that person has never seen a successful marriage in person, it may be daunting to transition into one with a partner.
No Friends Are Married
Is this a bad sign? Let's go with yes, because he doesn't want to be the first one married among his friends. If none of the others are even in a serious relationship, it'll take a lot of commitment to get things going longer term for you two.
Both Acting Single
What does it mean to act single? Both of you are hanging out into late hours without the other. You're going to have to change things from a "you" mentality to an "us" mentality.
Hard Finding Time For Each Other
Putting work or other outside things before the relationship can make things rough. At some point, the link has to become the priority if you want to advance into something else.
Neither Of You Made Your Desires Clear
If she doesn't know or he doesn't understand how you feel, you might miss the fact that you want to move things forward. That's why you should always make things clear from the beginning.
Things Are Super Casual
Neither of you wants to come off too strong, so you keep it all too casual. This gives both of you the impression that you don't need the other that much.
You've Settled In
You know for a fact this person isn't the one, but that doesn't stop you from settling in with them. All you're doing is digging your grave and jumping in to it.
You Didn't Do The "Traditional" Steps
Sometimes, the talking phase will remain just that for the lifespan of the relationship. The only issue is, you two do everything you would if you were engaged and it's been years.
No Travel Time
When a couple travels together, that's a huge commitment. You both set aside free time, and bonding in a foreign location strengthens the chemistry. It isn't the end if you haven't done this yet, but all serious couples do this at some point.
You Don't Have A Life
No offense, but you should never base your life around your partner's. Making the other person feel like you have a life outside of theirs puts things into perspective, so don't lie around waiting for that person all day.
Things Stay Online
It's alright to meet someone online that you want to invest in romantically. As long as it doesn't stay virtual, then you're good. If he or she never has time to meet up, you're not going anywhere.
One Of You Isn't Financially Stable Enough
It's tough out there if you don't have your funds together and you're trying to keep a relationship together. Having a partner should be that spark that pushes someone to get on track, but if yours doesn't do that, you might not progress that much.
Avoiding Fights
Some conflict needs to live in a relationship because it nurtures growth. If you avoid the hard topics, you'll never grow from them and end up staying complacent for longer than you want.
Haven't Brought Them Into Your World
Let's say you're really into bowling, but he hasn't seen one of your games. Are you ashamed to show him how many strikes in a row you can hit, or do you not see the point? If it's the second, then your relationship might not be that important to you.
