Signs Your Ex Isn’t Trying To Get Back Together And Is Just Being Friendly

As much as you want it, there are some things you just can’t manifest because they’re not meant for you.

All those signs that you’re reading into, and wondering if they mean that your ex wants you back, are just your way of seeing what you want to see. We’re about to break them down for you, to help you see the truth.

They Tell You About Other Dates

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Photo Credit: Priscilla Du Preez / Unsplash

While there’s a chance they’re trying to make you jealous, it doesn’t mean it’s for the purpose of getting you back.

They might just be trying to keep a hold on you to feed their ego and show you that they can be fine without you.

They Leave You On Read

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Photo Credit: Chris Yang / Unspash

They’re not playing hard to get, they’re just not to be had. They entertain your conversations in an attempt to be friendly, or perhaps simply out of boredom.

However, if they don’t bother replying or texting first, even though it only takes a couple of seconds to do, it’s because they don’t care enough to talk to you.

They Won’t Meet Up In Person

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Photo Credit: Sinitta Leunen / Unsplash

It doesn’t matter if they’re calling you on the daily and swear to you that they want to be friends, if they wanted to see you, they would have made the time.

Chances are they’re either still confused about what they want or are only talking to you out of habit or comfort.

They Gossip About You

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Photo Credit: Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels

This doesn’t mean that they can’t stop thinking about you, it just means that they’re trying to tell their side of the story before you do.

They don’t want to look like the bad guy. They don’t even mind making you look like the bad one in the process.

They Keep Dropping Off Your Stuff

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Photo Credit: Ketut Subiyanto / Pexels

You might be interpreting this as them finding excuses to see you, but you’re just seeing what you want.

The truth is they’re trying to get rid of your stuff so they no longer have any reason to stay in touch with you.

They Ask If You’re Seeing Anyone

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Photo Credit: Eduardo Simões Neto Junior / Pexel

Call it curiosity, but toxic exes just like knowing that they have power over you by keeping tabs, and feeling like they still have a grip on you, even if they don’t want you.

This is a way to feed their ego while making sure that you won’t be around to bother them.

They Friendzoned You

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It doesn’t matter if you haven’t gotten rid of your pet names for them yet and still wear their shirt to sleep if they won’t even hug you. They make sure to keep the conversations platonic and avoid any kind of physical touch.

Be careful not to interpret their behavior at more than face value.

They Keep Giving You Silly Reasons For Not Getting Back Together

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While your instinct is to fight them back and feel as though you can get past these reasons, they’re nothing but excuses.

Your ex likely doesn’t want to hurt your feelings and is attempting to give you closure. They’re trying to let you off easy instead of simply rejecting you.

They Don’t Want To Remember The Past

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Photo Credit: ian dooley / Unsplash

You might wonder if it’s because the past meant so much to them that thinking about it hurts, but in reality, it’s because they don’t see the point.

They’d rather move on and wonder what’s next in their future and take steps backward from you.

They Avoid Your Friends And Family

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Photo Credit: Pille Kirsi / Pexels

It may seem unfair to punish others who built a connection with them, but this is quite common.

It’s your ex’s way of cutting all ties that lead back to you, so that they have the space and freedom to truly move on.

Your Ex Refuses To Try To Change

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Photo Credit: Derick McKinney / Unsplash

If they refuse to change and grow then what’s the point of getting back together anyway? You’ll just face the same issues again and never break the cycle.

You’ll end up right back where you are now. You might as well deal with the heartbreak only once.

They Have Changed Significantly

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Photo Credit: Milan Popovic / Unsplash

On the other hand, if your ex has changed too much to the point that you don’t even recognize them anymore, it’s because they’re using this breakup as a fresh start.

Watch out for a change in their attitude toward you too. They may try to make it clear that they don’t want you to be a part of their new chapter.

They’re Defensive And Angry When You Talk

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Photo Credit: Vera Arsic / Pexels

It doesn’t matter how many times you apologize, they won’t let it go. All your conversations turn into arguments. This shows that they need to be alone to work through their feelings.

They need space to process and come to their own closure.

They Keep Playing The Victim

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Photo Credit: Alex Green / Pexels

If they insist that the breakup is all your fault, then you shouldn’t want them back anyway.

They’ll just always find a way to blame you, and will blackmail you with their reasons for the remainder of the relationship.

They’re Already On Dating Apps

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Photo Credit: Mika Baumeister / Unsplash

While Tinder seems like the next step after a breakup, it also shows that they’d rather find a rebound and enjoy their new single status than put in the effort to try to get back together with you.

That might be your sign to do the same.

A Piece Of Advice

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Photo Credit: Becca Tapert / Unsplash

If there is a lesson to be learned here, it’s that when you choose to wait for one person, you are inadvertently rejecting another.

Even if your ex is the only person you can picture yourself with, go out there and make sure. If it’s meant to be, they’ll come back when the time is right.