Signs Your Dating Standards Might Be Ridiculous
When we start dating when we're younger, we have a whole list of things that we see our dream guy being. As we get older and have our hearts broken a few times, we start to learn that that list isn't really attainable most of the time. You start to learn what you're willing to compromise on and what you're not.
It is worth mentioning that we might be holding onto some standards that we should reconsider.
You Won't Date Someone Because Of Their Height
This one gets talked about a lot. We ladies like to think that we need a man who is of a certain height. While being attracted to your partner is important, if the only thing you don't like about someone while you're checking out their Tinder profile or meeting for the first time is that they're too short for you, consider looking past it.
You Don't Think He Has A Suitable Job
This one is tricky because you obviously want the person you're dating to have aspirations, but if they're not working the kind of job you want them to, that might not be a good reason to break up with someone. There are all kinds of jobs in the world, and just because someone might be working as a manager in the mall doesn't make them less worthy than someone who works in finance.
You're Hung Up On His Past
I get wanting to be careful about dating someone who has a tough past. You don't want to get sucked into any drama, and you want to be careful dating someone who has a history of cheating, but if it's just a case of you feeling like he might have had too many girlfriends, try not to let that turn you off. If anything, ask him about it to learn the facts.
You Don't Like How He Texts
We want someone who makes us feel like we are important to them, and one of the ways to do that is by texting. If you're seeing someone who isn't a great texter, don't write him off for that! Some people don't think it should be their primary means of communication, and that's totally fair.
You're Not A Fan Of His Style
Again, you want to be attracted to your partner, but if you meet someone and they wear a bad outfit or have a dumb shirt, know that that does not define the man! It's normal to have different tastes than your partner.
You Don't Like His Family
If it's gotten to the point where you're meeting each other's families, that's great! It might feel like a deal-breaker if you don't like his family. But it doesn't have to be! You're not dating the family, you're dating your partner, and if his family isn't super offensive and it's just a difference in personality, don't let it ruin your relationship.
You Find His Interests Too Nerdy
Everyone has a hobby, and we all have things that we like to watch or read. If you meet someone and they have interests that you find nerdy, don't let that turn you off. You might actually enjoy some of those things if you try! And even if you don't, someone's hobbies don't define someone.
He Doesn't Remember Every Little Thing
We absorb a lot of information in our day-to-day lives. So the person you're dating isn't going to remember every little thing you say. It's not a bad thing if you need to need to repeat yourself a few times. As long as it isn't a case of them not remembering the important things, that is.
You Don't Think He's Assertive Enough
OK, we have to stop putting the pressure on guys to make the first move! If you want to see someone again, if you want them to kiss you, if you want them to stay, then be open about wanting that and don't wait for them to bring it up.
You Don't Have Crazy Butterflies
We have to let go of this notion that if you don't have butterflies, you don't have any promise of a future. Butterflies aren't going to be what keep your relationship going. There is nothing wrong with love coming from friendship. That's romantic, too.
You Disagree About Some Things
You don't have to agree on all the same things if you want to have a good relationship. In fact, that would make things kind of boring. As long as what you're disagreeing on isn't your fundamental values, you should be OK.
You Think He Lives Too Far Away
Long-distance relationships can be a bummer, but if it's only long-distance for a certain amount of time, then you can make it work if you both are committed to it. It might not work if it's indefinite, but being long-distance for a while isn't so bad.
There Are Some Things You Shouldn't Compromise On, Though
As you get more into dating and you learn more about yourself, you'll learn what your deal-breakers are and what you can compromise on. There are certain things, though, that shouldn't be compromised on.
They Don't Seem To Respect You
If there is no respect in your relationship, then it doesn't have much of a chance of survival. If he's not someone who respects you and your boundaries or point of view, then the relationship is probably doomed.
They Don't Take Good Care Of Themselves
It's important to take care of ourselves, and being with someone who doesn't take care of themselves is a major turn-off. It doesn't just have to be physically, either. You want someone who is going to take care of themselves and keep growing and learning.
Your Beliefs Are Different
You don't have to see eye to eye on everything, but it's important that the things you believe about the world are similar. Otherwise, chances are that you're not going to see eye to eye on a lot of things.
You Value Different Things In Relationships
Values are a big one. It may not seem like that big of a deal, but when it comes down to it, you need someone who isn't going to make you feel dumb for having the values you do—whether it's about politics, money, relationships, friendships, or whatever.
You Don't Have Much Of A Physical Connection
Having a physical connection with someone is important. There is more to a relationship than the physical stuff, but it does play a large role in how we connect to someone and feel close to them.
You Want Different Things From Life
We shouldn't go into relationships hoping that someone is going to change their mind about something big like having kids or wanting to be married. If they told you their stance on anything that's important to you and what you want from your life and it doesn't match, it's probably best to part ways.
They Expect You To Make Too Many Sacrifices
Sacrifice is going to be a part of any relationship. That being said, there should be give and take. If the person you're with is expecting you to give up a lot of your life, ask yourself if that's actually what you want.
