Signs To Watch For If You Think Your Partner Is Cheating
Before we dive deep into the red flags, it's important to remember that even if your partner is doing some of these things, they might not be cheating. They might just be changing things up or trying something different, but at the same time, you need to trust your instincts.
Suddenly taking an interest in working out isn't a bad thing, but when your girlfriend starts taking a 9 p.m. barre class four nights a week but can't give you any details about the class or the workout studio, it's understandable you might jump to the conclusion that she's cheating.
Your Routine Is Always Sporadic
Being in a spontaneous relationship where you never know when you're going to see the person next can be fun in the beginning because there's always a little excitement, but it also makes it easier for someone to be seeing more people at once.
They Have Friends Who Are Cheaters
I'm not saying that if their friends are cheaters then they're going to be cheaters, but you really do become like the people that you choose to spend your time with. At the very least, it shows that you can't trust their friends to stop them if the opportunity to cheat comes up.
Extended Period Of Radio Silence
Yes, there are some people who don't have access to their phones at work or while in class, and you don't need to be in constant communication with your partner, but long periods of unexplained silence aren't normal. You called her at 7:30 p.m. and she didn't text you back until 1 a.m.—what was she doing?
They Always Turn Their Phone Off When They're With You
It seems like a nice gesture because they're completely focused on you and don't want any interruptions, but what person in the 21st century turns their phone completely off? Do not disturb mode exists for a reason, but if they don't want any notifications coming through at all, then they might choose to turn it off.
Or They Suddenly Have A Phone Password
You know that this is a red flag. If your girlfriend has never had a password on her phone before, or your boyfriend suddenly changes his password and doesn't give you the new one (even though he knows your password), the warning lights should be flashing.
They Buy New Clothing
Your boyfriend used to complain when he had to spend more than 15 minutes at the mall, and he bought all of his clothes from Target, but now he's completely revamped his wardrobe. You've never had a problem with how they dress, but did someone else?
They Stop Posting Pictures Of You
The last Instagram she posted with both of you in it was two months ago, and last month she changed her Facebook profile to be just her. It might seem like a silly thing to be upset about, and maybe you told yourself it didn't mean anything, but it also could be a way to make it seem like they're not in a relationship.
They Frequently Accuse You Of Cheating
As a way to distract you or a way to lessen their own guilt, partners who are cheating will sometimes accuse you of being the one who is cheating, to turn the situation around on you. Don't let it distract you from the rest of their behavior.
They Suddenly Take An Interest In Working Out
She's literally never wanted to come to the gym with you, but now she's decided to join a gym—and it's not the one you go to. Getting fit is great, but is there a motivation behind it?
Their Appearance, In General, Seems To Be Different Or Improved
We're all for self-improvement, but it could be a cause for concern if your partner of many months or years suddenly decides to change their appearance completely and has never expressed interest in that before.
Your Previously Punctual Partner Is Now Late All The Time
Some people are chronically late, that's not a sign your partner is cheating. If they used to be punctual and have recently become the person who's always 20 minutes late, however, it shows they don't respect your time or you in general. Their mind is elsewhere.
They Take A Lot Of "Work Calls"
Just like how your girlfriend isn't suddenly taking a yoga class that starts at 9:30 p.m., your boyfriend taking private "work" calls at 11 p.m. isn't a normal thing to be doing either.
They Have A Complete Change In Schedule
All of a sudden, their job is demanding that they put in extra hours at the office, so he's stuck at work until 10 p.m. every night, and she decided to take that dance class at 8 p.m. on Saturdays. Those aren't real reasons.
You Catch Them Lying About Little Things
If they lie about the little things for no reason, even things like what bar he's going to with his friends or what restaurant she went to, there's a chance that they're also lying about the more important issues, too.
They're Suddenly Taking You To Fancier Places Or Buying You Presents
Even if they're choosing to cheat, that doesn't mean they don't feel guilty about it, so your partner might try to make up for it by buying you nice presents "just because" or taking you to fancy dinners because "you deserve the best."
They're Undersharing
It's pretty natural for couples to talk about, well, everything. You share things about your day, your family, an issue you're having with a coworker, and normally, they'd do the same. But now, all of sudden, they're not reciprocating.
They're Secretive About Their Finances
It could be a couple of charges on your account that they refuse to explain, or it could be a whole new card that's separate from you. When it comes to money, it's a red flag if there isn't transparency.
Your Sex Life Changes
Some people who think their partner is cheating notice a significant decrease in activity, whereas others notice a big increase. It depends on the person and the situation, but you have to trust your instincts if something feels off.
They're Irritable Or Picking Fights A Lot
It seems like you can never do anything right, and every little thing you say annoys your partner. Their irritability could stem from guilt, or they're trying to get you to break up with them before you find out the truth.
You're No Longer Spending Time With Their Friends
And they don't come to anything with your friends either. It could be that he doesn't trust his friends to keep the secret or that she doesn't want to spend time with your friends because she's not fully invested in the relationship anymore.
