Signs That The Biggest Issue In Your Relationship Is That You’re Not Compatible
What the modern dating world needs is to normalize breaking up with someone that you're simply not compatible with.
Sometimes, there are going to be glaring issues in your relationship or a huge problem that leads to the end, but other times it simply fizzles out because one or both of you acknowledges that you're just not with the right person.
You don't want to throw in the towel at the first sign of differing opinions, but there are a few ways to tell that you're not right for your partner, and it's better for both of you to address it now.
He Never Laughs At Your Jokes
It might not be your top priority when looking for a partner, but having a similar sense of humor is important in a relationship. You want to be with someone that makes you laugh and that you can give joy to.
You Feel Like You're Always The One Texting Or Calling Her First
Some people don't like to communicate through texts or social media, which is perfectly fine, but if you're someone who needs that in a relationship and your partner can't do that, maybe they're not the right partner.
She Has A Different Goal For Your Relationship Than You Do
When you're in a relationship for a certain amount of time, you'll start to discuss things like your future together, whether you want children, buying a house, etc. Does the vision you have for your future line up with hers, or do you imagine something different?
You Have Different Outlooks On Situations
Are you a glass-half-empty or a glass-half-full kind of gal? Opposites may attract, but if you're a perpetually positive person, you're quickly going to feel disappointed by a partner who leans more to the pessimistic side.
There Are Ultimatums Hanging Over The Relationship
If you're in a relationship where both of you are waiting for the other person to change, you're going to be left single and disappointed, so you might as well acknowledge that now. Instead of waiting for a change, you should both find someone that is right for who you are now.
None Of Your Hobbies Overlap
It's great to have your own hobbies or activities in a relationship because you don't need to spend every waking minute together, but you also want to have activities that you can share together.
Their Friends Don't Like You, Or You Don't Like Them
You become like the people you spend your time with, and you choose your friends, so if you don't like who they're choosing to spend their time with, maybe you're not the right choice for them.
Are You Your Best Self When You're With Them?
Do you like who you are when you're with this person, or do you feel like you're different? Do you feel like you have to change parts of yourself or censor yourself?
You're Losing Interest
This should be the biggest sign that you're not compatible with someone, yet we often look for more of a reason. If you're losing interest in someone, let them down (nicely) and move on to someone who keeps you interested.
You Agree On Everything
Being the couple that's never had an argument isn't necessarily a good thing. It's natural to disagree with your partner at times, but if you're too similar to each other, then it could lead to stale indifference in your relationship.
Neither Of You Is Willing To Compromise Or Learn
A relationship can't work if there's no compromise. If both of you are stubborn and refuse to acknowledge mistakes or learn from your problems, you're not going to be happy.
You Approach Spending Money Differently
Finances are one major thing in a relationship that you need to be able to agree on, unless you want to spend your relationship fighting. If you're somebody who plans for the future and saves all your money, you're probably not going to be happy with someone who would rather spend their paycheck the day after they get it.
You Have Different Communication Styles
Communication is literally the one thing that you need to have in a relationship to make it work. If you can't communicate with each other, or you communicate in different ways, how can you be expected to work through anything?
You Feel Like You're Holding Back
You can't quite figure out why you're struggling to let them in, and sometimes there isn't going to be a clear reason. The fact that you don't feel comfortable is reason enough to consider that maybe they're not the right person for you.
You're Only Focused On The Physical Connection
You can't build a relationship solely on a great physical connection, as much as you may want to. There's more than just that aspect in a relationship, but if you're struggling to move past it, it could be because you know that you're not going to like the other aspects.
You Tune Out Of Conversations—Frequently
We're all guilty of tuning out of a conversation once in a while, but where does that come from? Boredom or disinterest. If you're bored of your conversations with your partner more often than you're engaged, think about why that could be.
You Don't See Eye-To-Eye In Terms Of Your Beliefs
You don't need to be in complete agreement about every single one of your beliefs, but you do have to be willing to respect your partner's beliefs and values, and see their side of things.
She Never Sees Your Side Of An Argument
No matter how calm you try to be or how clearly you explain something, your partner struggles to understand your point of view or refuses to acknowledge it. Having differing opinions is one thing, but thinking completely differently from someone is going to make for a bumpy road and a lot of miscommunications.
He Values Time Differently Than You
The person who is 15 minutes early to everything is going to struggle in a relationship with someone who is perpetually late. It's not going to change, and it's going to be a point of contention that's constantly coming up.
You're Worried Your Family Won't Like Them
If you've been putting off introducing them to your family because you're not sure they're going to like your partner, think about why. Is it because your family never likes your partners, or is it because you pick people you're not compatible with, so they're not compatible with your family?