Signs That You Might Be His Side Piece
Men keeping select women as the lady on the side isn't anything new. Think about Noah from The Notebook: he had a woman he didn't have many feelings for hang around until Allie came around.
For anyone out there dating a guy, there are ways of telling that he's ranked you as a side piece and nothing more. Continue reading to find out more.
You Don't Know Much About His Personal Life
He sure knows how to compliment you and contact you when he needs something, but have you heard him talk about anything personal?
Probably only his favorite sports team, but not much outside of that.
He'd Hate The Idea Of Meeting Your Family
Even the thought of meeting your family makes him lose his mind. That's the last thing you'd catch him doing if he's treating you like a side piece.
Pay attention to his reactions.
No Rush To Meet Your Friends
Someone who doesn't see a future with you won't make an effort to be more in your life. That includes meeting family and friends.
If he's thinking of you as a fling, then he won't really care about meeting your friends.
You Have No Mutual Friends
Having no mutual friends plays a significant role as far as moving forward goes.
The less attachments he has to you, the easier it is for him to leave when he wants.
Snapchat Is Your Means Of Communication
Why doesn't he want to text you like a regular human being who likes someone would? Oh, that's because you're only on the side, and he doesn't want more than that.
It's up to you to decide how to handle that.
You Aren't Even Best Friends On Snapchat
If you two mainly keep your conversations on Snapchat and you still aren't best friends, this man probably has a handful of others lined up.
How does he find the time for all of this?
You Don't Have Any Inside Jokes
Having inside jokes isn't the make-or-break element of a relationship, but they show you have chemistry going for you.
It adds depth to things, and that's something he doesn't want if you're not his forever-girl.
You've Never Been On A Real Date
Does "Netflix and chill" sound familiar? That's probably all you two ever do, and he doesn't mind one bit.
He doesn't want to take things a step further, so having sorry "dates" is his best move.
Most Of Your Interactions Are Drunk
It happens to the best of us. Maybe you met him at a wild party and both of you were tossed.
You hit it off and now you really only see each other when it's time for a good time.
You Only Talk On Weekends
He has more important things to do during the week that don't involve communicating with you when he has free time.
He doesn't want much to do with you, clearly.
He Only Wants To Do The Nasty With You
The only time you ever hang out is when he wants to get in your pants.
Even if that's something you're for, you will hold the position of a side piece until a more emotional bond forms.
He's On His Phone When He's With You
Have you ever seen someone on the phone more than this man?
He pays more attention to it than he does to you when you're alone with him! That says a lot.
Been In Many Relationships, But Hasn't Formally Asked You
He's had no issue in the past asking someone out, but he still hasn't with you. If you aren't expecting that, then fine.
If you are, then you probably need to stop holding your breath.
"Now Is His Time To Be Single"
If he tells you something like now is his time to be single, then he has no plans of making you his girlfriend.
He wants to test all the waters and hope to keep you around.
Everything Is On His Terms
Where you guys go to eat, how often you see each other, and pretty much everything else is on his terms.
He doesn't want any loose ends while keeping you as his side piece.
The People Around Him Have No Clue Who You Are
He barely mentions you, if at all. His friends have probably heard your name once and don't remember who you are.
You probably have no way of finding this out unless you ask.
He's Shady Around His Phone And Laptop
Being secretive around his phone and a laptop is a clear sign something isn't normal. What does he have to hide that's so important?
Perhaps it's another woman he's entertaining.
He Doesn't Remember The Things You Tell Him
For some reason, he doesn't remember that you told him to text you at nine.
He also doesn't recall when you told him that you don't like rice in your burritos, and still orders them the same way.
He Only Tells You Tidbits About His Life
He only tells you a bit about his life, but you know he's holding back. You don't know if he's had a troubled past or if he's a prince from another country.
He wants his side piece to know just enough.
You Always Wonder Where You Stand With Him
If you have no clue what you two are and it's been that way for a while, you might be his prime side piece.
Go ahead and ask, but when he starts to deflect, that should confirm.
He Usually Leaves Right After Sex
If he tends to head out not long after you guys have hooked up, it's probably because he has somewhere he needs to be.
This is especially true if he always has some lame excuse about why he needs to go.
He Never Stays The Night
In all the time you've been seeing him, he's never spent the night with you at your place. You've probably never spent the night at his place, either.
If you both wanted a serious relationship, isn't that something that should come with the territory?
He Never Pays For Anything
Yes, we know that the guy shouldn't be paying for everything all the time, but if he constantly wants to split the bill and never treats for anything, it might be because he needs to be careful.
This is especially true if you notice that he's always using cash.
He's Super Against PDA
Not everyone likes PDA, and that's fine. However, you can usually tell when two people are a couple or not.
If the guy you're seeing doesn't want you even remotely closer to him than a friend would be, if he's that against PDA, he's hiding something.
He Cancels Plans A Lot
You find that he's flakey. A lot of the time, when you make plans, you make them on the day that they happen. There isn't a lot of pre-planning.
He likely has another schedule he's trying to work around.
You Only Hang Out At Your Place
If you're always hanging out at your place, and you're not even sure where he lives, is that normal?
He might even talk about how he has an annoying roommate or say that his place is never clean enough.
He Never Uses Any Words Of Endearment
So what, he hasn't said I love you yet, who cares? Well, depending on how long you've been seeing him and how you feel about him, you should.
Does he ever call you anything remotely relationship-like, like babe? Any nickname at all?
He Never Wants To Take Pictures Together
Never wanting to take a picture together is weird. Someone can say they don't like their photo taken all they want, but every couple likes to have one or two together.
This is a huge red flag if he won't let you post anything on his Facebook wall or tag him in anything.
He Won't Follow You On Social Media
You don't have to be overly affectionate on social media. No one wants to see that. But, if you're dating someone, you should at least be following each other.
Has that friend or follow request been sitting pending for a long time? When you ask him about it, he probably says something like, "Oh, I never go on it."
He's MIA On Holidays
To some people, the holidays are a big deal. Most of us want to do something festive with the person we're seeing.
If he's never free over the holidays, or worse, somehow unreachable, he's probably ignoring you because he's with her family.
