Signs He Might Be Terrified Of His Feelings For You

I’m sure that by now, you’ve ended up in some kind of situation where you feel like someone is totally into you, but you can’t tell for sure. Sometimes, it’s a friend you’ve always had a spark with, and other times, it’s a new guy you’ve started seeing who you don’t quite know how to read.

Believe it or not, guys feel their feelings as intensely as we do, which we all know is freaky. Before writing him off, you should ask him about it, but if you want to be sure, there are some ways you might be able to tell he’s feeling it.

He Always Jokes About Dating

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / One Zone Studio

If he’s your friend and he makes jokes about if you guys were together, or that you’re basically an old married couple, then you’d better believe there is some truth behind those jokes.

He Backs Off When Things Start Feeling Serious

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Time Foster

On the other hand, and most frustratingly, if things do enter feelings territory and he backs off and becomes distant, that could be a bad sign, but it could also be a “good” one. He could be putting those walls up without even knowing it.

He Talks About Past Pain

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Priscilla Du Preez

Whether they are your friend or a new romantic partner, someone who talks about their past traumas and relationships is someone who is basically saying, “Look, I’ve done this before and it worked out so poorly…how do we know this won’t be the same?”

He’s Sometimes Vague About The Future

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Freestocks

He might joke about being together, but when it comes time to have serious talks about what’s going on between you two, he might put it off or avoid it altogether. It’s likely because he’s working out how he feels. If you’re friends, it could be because he doesn’t want to ruin what you already have.

He Is Open With His Feelings, But Not About Labels

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Priscilla Du Preez

If he’s a little more open about his feelings and working through them, but he’s still hesitant about labels (but not in the shady way where no one knows about you), then he is probably trying not to rush things.

He Gets Jealous

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Photo Credit: Reddit / Jack Finnigan

This is a big one. If you start bringing up someone who you could potentially be seeing, or you’re laughing about your Tinder matches and he’s getting worked up about it, you can pretty much count on him having feelings that he’s exploring.

His Ex Is Still In The Picture

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Duri from Mocup

It’s frustrating to have feelings for someone who still has their ex in the picture. He likely still needs closure from what happened. If he’s trying to get away from that relationship and put it behind him, it’s for his own good, but also because he is feeling those feels for someone else.

He Finds A Reason To Talk To You Every Day

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Jonas Leupe

In this day and age, there is no shortage of ways to stay in touch, but that doesn’t always mean that you’re going to talk to someone every day. So if the guy you’re interested in is texting you every day, that’s a certain sign of feelings.

He Calls You His Friend…Often

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Vince Fleming

If he does this thing where he jokes about you being his bro or talks about how you’re like his sister, it could be that he isn’t feeling it, but it could also be because he’s trying to convince himself that he isn’t feeling it. He’s trying it out to see if those things will be enough for him.

He’s Trying To Create Some Distance

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Allef Vinicius

If he’s pumping the breaks and being weird, then it could be because he needs some time to work through how he’s feeling. He could even be subconsciously trying to see what it would feel like not to be so close to you and if he’s comfortable with that.

His Friends Really Like You

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / LexScope

First off, if he brings you around his friends, then that’s a huge clue that he’s feeling you. But it’s even better if his friends really adore you. It’s a sign that they’re probably expecting to see you around more often.

His Friends Tease You About Dating Each Other

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Helena Lopes

His friends not only like you, but they might even poke fun at the two of you for being basically a couple already. It’s because his friends know he likes you, maybe even before he does.

You Catch Him Staring

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Toa Heftiba

Sometimes, it really is the little things that are the biggest signs. If you catch him looking at you all cute and with puppy dog eyes when he thinks you’re not looking, that’s coming from a place of big feelings.

He Remembers Weird Little Details About You

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Everton Vila

Anyone who remembers the little things about you is interested in who you are as a person. So if your guy is asking questions to get to know you and remembers the random little things, it’s because you’re making an impact.

He’s Asking Your Advice A Lot

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Davids Kokainis

We only ask the advice of people whose opinions we trust and genuinely want. If he’s asking you for real advice about his life, it’s because you are someone he thinks understands him and his goals…he might even use it as a way to drop hints.

You Spend A Lot Of Time Together

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Milan Popovic

If you’re honest with yourself, how often do you hang out with your friends? A few times a week? If you’re seeing this guy more often than not, it’s because you want to be around each other. You have to really like someone to want to spend that much time together.

He Never Makes The First Move

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Sept Commercial

Maybe you’re in this weird purgatory where the chemistry between the two of you is so intense that sometimes, it feels like you’re just waiting for him to kiss you…but he never does. It could be because he’s afraid of making the move from friendship to relationship.

He Compliments You Sometimes

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Suzana Sousa

He’s giving you compliments about things that he knows matter to you. He notices when your hair is a little bit different, or you changed your makeup, or that he loves the way you smile.

He Has A Hard Time Keeping Eye Contact

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Matheus Ferrero

Even though he’s sneaking glances at you when you’re not looking, keeping real eye contact is intimate, and if he’s struggling to maintain it, he might need to work through his feelings, or it could be that he feels them so deeply that it is overwhelming.

He Gets Nervous Around You Sometimes

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Joanna Nix-Walkup

Even if you’ve known one another for a while and you notice he gets a little flustered around you, it’s because he’s got a crush on you. Crushes are cute, but they do make those palms sweaty.