Relationship Green Flags That Say ‘Go For It’
We talk a lot about relationship red flags and the kind of person to avoid dating. Those are important things, and it's good to be aware of them, but maybe we should spend just as much time talking about what the relationship green flags are.
What are the things about someone that validates your feelings for them and helps you know that they're worth committing to?
Not Having To Worry Is A Relief
Not feeling like every time you hang out with your partner might be the last time you hang out with your partner is so refreshing. It doesn't feel like it's about to expire, it feels safe.
You Don't Always Need To Be Talking
Being able to spend some time in silence with your partner is a sure way to know that you have a real connection. There are no awkward quiet moments, and you just genuinely enjoy each other's company.
You've Got To Love Yourself
When you're in a bad relationship, it's easy to become a version of yourself that you don't like. That's why, if you're in a good relationship, you're going to like who you are with them because you're going to feel safe and nurtured.
Things You Hate Seem Not So Bad
There are things that we have to do while adulting that feel like the worst things ever. Being able to get through it more quickly because your partner is helping, and having their company to make it seem less horrible is a blessing.
Never Go To Bed Angry
It's a cliché and an old saying, but never going to bed angry is a sign of a good relationship. Not because you don't have serious fights, but because even in the heat of those moments you still care that the other person is OK.
Snacks Are Important
The little things are just as important as the big things! Knowing that you're with someone who is going to help you eat your fries while they are still warm is a beautiful thing.
We Learn And Grow Together
It's natural for people to get defensive sometimes, but when you're in a healthy relationship, you don't have to worry about any of those conversations turning into a showdown of who it is that's worse.
It's A Simple Question
When was the last time someone asked you how your day was going and actually cared about the answer? When you love someone, you want to know all the mundane things.
Small Gestures Win Big Points
When your partner remembers a little thing about you and can put that knowledge into practice, it makes you feel like they actually pay attention to you and get you in a real way.
You Need To Know They Care
Even if it's only a little thing, those little things are what makes you feel like the person you're dating really cares about you and wants to take care of you.
There Has To Be Trust
Knowing that your partner is comfortable with you being around their things and that they trust you helps you understand that what you have is a real connection. They want you as part of their space and surroundings.
You Can't Love The Same Things
Being able to respect that you're two different people who are into different things will go a long way to keeping you guys connected to one another. Plus, how fun is it to recommend something and be spot on?
Love Doesn't Have To Be Hard
A lot of people think that to really be in love, it has to hurt a lot of the time. That just isn't true. Quite often, real love comes slowly and softly and without much of a thought.
Family Matters
Wanting to meet your family and your friends is an incredible feeling. It adds to the sense that they're going to stick around and that being a part of your life matters. So much so that they're going to put up with your weird uncle.
Who Doesn't Love Confidence?
When someone can let their guard down enough to be goofy around you, it's such a rewarding feeling. In some ways, being able to be silly around one another is a deep form of intimacy.
Being Interested Is A Form Of Love
It feels good to be telling someone about yourself and have them be genuinely interested. It's going to help you feel confident in yourself, which is going to help you open up some more.
"I Don't Deserve You"
Of course, you both deserve to be happy with someone who treats you well, but there is something to be said about being with someone who makes you feel in awe of how amazing they are.
No More Games
Can we all agree that being able to take your partner's word at face value is a huge relief and a strong foundation to build a relationship on? No one has time for mind games.
Everyone Loves To Dream
Hearing that you're not the only person who sees your relationship going somewhere is an incredible feeling. It's not a weird thing to want to discuss your future if you're in a good relationship.
A Little Thing But A Big Thing
It's an age-old saying, but anyone who is mean to a waiter is almost certainly a mean person. Same with if they don't put their grocery cart away after they're done shopping. Both these situations show you how they act when they won't suffer consequences, so it shows their true colors.