Reasons Why Guys Cheat—According To Guys

Being cheated on is a terrible feeling, and most of us have experienced it at one point in our lives. Either we’ve been cheated on, or someone we love has been cheated on. Cheating is probably a lot more common than you might think, especially because there are so many different kinds of cheating outside of just sleeping with someone else.

But Why Do Men Cheat?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Henri Pham

Being cheated on brings up all kinds of different questions and makes you wonder what is it that’s so hard about being faithful? What are the reasons that men cheat? We did some research and found some of the most common reasons men cheat. Some of them may be surprising—and some of them, not so much.

“I Cheated Because I Could”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Jakob Owens

One of the most obvious and infuriating reasons that men say they cheat is because they saw an opportunity and they just went for it. We might want to think that there is more to it than that, but sometimes there isn’t.

“I Cheated Because I Wanted Out Of The Relationship”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Hannah Busing

A lot of men say that they cheated because they were looking for something or someone else. Cheating could be a symptom of a relationship that is long overdue to end, and he just didn’t know how else to do it.

“I Cheated Because They Cheated On Me”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Brooke Cagle

Sometimes, men act out and cheat because their partner cheated on them. They did it as almost an act of revenge thinking that it might make them feel better. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t.

“I Cheated Because I Wanted To Be Liked”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Seth Doyle

Some guys are so deeply in need of the validation from other people that they will go out of their way to make themselves likeable to whoever will pay attention to them. One easy way to do this is to cheat.

“I Cheated Because I Felt Like I Could Get Away With It”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Mohammad Faruque

Men have said that they feel we live in a society that has made cheating kind of commonplace, and because of that, it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal.

“I Cheated Because I Was Confused”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Brooke Cagle

Just like some men cheat because they can’t find another way to end the relationship, some men cheat because they’re confused about what they want from you, their relationship, and from themselves.

“I Cheated Because I Was Drinking”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Seth Doyle

OK, this is by far one of the worst excuses out there. However, there are a lot of men out there who stick by the fact that if they had been sober in some of those situations, they would have been able to keep themselves from giving in to the situation that led them to cheat.

“I Cheated Because I Wasn’t Satisfied In My Relationship”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / JUNHØ

It’s hard to find someone who can meet all your needs, especially when it comes to dating. Sometimes, if men aren’t getting the satisfaction they need, then they go looking for it somewhere else. Can you say “selfish”?

“I Cheated Because I Felt Like I Deserved It”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Raghav bhadoriya

If you’ve been with someone who is a narcissist, then you know that there are people out there who feel like they are entitled to whatever they want, when they want it. More guys than you might want to think say that this is a reason they cheat.

“I Cheated Because I’m Immature”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / theroyakash

There are guys who have cheated and deeply regret it, and with the clarity that comes from looking back on something, they see that the only reason they cheated was because they were immature.

“I Wanted To Make Sure I Had Someone After I Left My Current Relationship”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Aejaz Memon

In life, there are basically two types of people: people who need to be in a relationship, and people who are OK not being in one. When asked why they cheated, some guys said they did it to make sure that they were going to have someone lined up for them when they broke up with their current partner.

“I Cheated Because I Didn’t Have Good Friends”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Derick McKinney

The influence that good people can have in your life is outstanding, and some men who’ve cheated in the past say it’s because they didn’t have the right people in their life to tell them that what they’re doing is sleazy and unfair.

“I Cheated Because My Expectations Weren’t Realistic”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Silviu Beniamin Tofan

It takes a big man to admit when they are wrong, but some men who’ve cheated say that they ended up in a situation where they cheated because they weren’t realistic about what they wanted from their partner or their relationship.

“I Cheated Because I Don’t Like Relationships”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Atikh Bana

Being in a relationship isn’t for everyone, and try as they might, some men just can’t commit. One of the biggest reasons men claim to cheat is because relationships just aren’t for them and they don’t believe in monogamy.

“I Cheated Because I Didn’t Know I Was Cheating”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Chris Benson

As frustrating as it may be, different people have different definitions of what cheating is. There have been many guys who have said they’ve cheated because they didn’t know what they were doing was cheating. For example, some people don’t think just a kiss is cheating, or that flirting counts.

“I Cheated Because It Was My Ex”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Romain Lours

We all have an ex that haunts us and has made their way well under our skin. If we’re lucky, we shake them, and if we’re not, then we feel ready to do anything to be with them, including cheating on someone we’re dating.

“I Chated Because It Was Exciting”

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Allef Vinicius

Putting it simply, some guys like to cheat because they like the thrill of it. It might not even be that there were any feelings involved, they just wanted to do it for the rush.

How To Make Sense Of Being Cheated On

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Jared Sluyter

When you get cheated on, it can be really difficult to make sense of what happened and why it happened. Hopefully, you’ll be able to get some kind of closure and be able to ask the questions you need to ask to make sense of everything.

Should You Forgive Someone Who Cheated?

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Ayo Ogunseinde

Then there is the age-old question of if someone cheated once, will they do it again? Really, that’s up to you and what you’ve discussed with your partner. If they feel genuinely upset that it happened and have the emotional intelligence to understand why, then you can consider discussing it.

If he’s one of those people who think they cheat because they can or they deserve it, it might be time for them to hit the road.