Reasons For A Breakup That Aren’t Your Fault

As much as you want your relationship to work out and to believe that the person you’re with is the person you’ll be with forever, that’s not always the case. People break up for a variety of reasons, some understandable, some ridiculous.

While it’s important to be able to admit when a breakup might be your fault, there are also things that are beyond your control. Even if your ex wants to blame it all on you, these are some of the reasons you could break up that aren’t your fault.

They Couldn’t Manage Their Jealousy

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Polina Zimmerman

You may not have ever given them a reason not to trust you, but that won’t stop some people from feeling jealous anytime you mention a male friend or look at another girl in public.

They Claimed You Were Too Needy

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Shalom De Leon

When someone breaks up with you, they might give you a reason like you’re too needy or too much work, but the important thing to remember is that’s just their opinion. You’re “too needy” for them, but the right person won’t have that issue.

There Was No Communication

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Ketut Subiyanto

Communication is one of the main things you have to have in a relationship in order to make it work. You might communicate in different ways, or maybe you didn’t communicate at all. Your signals were crossed, and there’s not always a way to fix that.

You Don’t Feel Heard

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Vera Arsic

You can’t make someone listen to you, but you deserve to be with someone who wants to. Feeling unheard or overlooked by a partner can lead to a breakup, but there’s not much you can do differently to prevent it.

They Cheated

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Cottonbro

Regardless of the reason they try to give you for why they cheated, it is never your fault. If someone chooses to cheat on their partner, that’s a choice that only they made, and it doesn’t have anything to do with your behavior.

His Family Dislikes You

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Photo Credit: Pexels

It doesn’t matter how strong your relationship is, if your partner’s family openly dislikes you and they are close to their family, that’s eventually going to take a toll on your relationship.

You’re Not Your Best Self With Them

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Kat Jayne

You might not be able to pinpoint the reason why, but something about them doesn’t bring out the best side of you. It’s not even necessarily something they’re doing—some people just clash with each other. You want to be with someone who brings out your best side, not your worst.

You Weren’t Equals In The Relationship

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Marina Abrosimova

Just like you can’t make someone listen to you, you can’t make someone see you as an equal. If your partner doesn’t consider you their equal in the relationship, you’re always going to have a difficult dynamic.

It Was Long-Distance

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Andrea Piacquadio

Not every couple can survive a long-distance relationship. It takes hard work, and being apart for long periods of time puts a serious strain on the relationship. You’re not a failure because you couldn’t make a long-distance relationship work for you.

They Won’t Own Up To Their Mistakes

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Filipe Gomes

Admitting when you’ve made a mistake can be difficult, but it’s also essential in a relationship. If your partner has made a mistake, or a series of them, but isn’t willing to apologize or own up to it, you can’t be expected to just forgive them and move on.

Loss Of Attraction

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Photo Credit: Pexels

It’s never going to be easy to hear that someone simply isn’t attracted to you anymore or that they fell out of love with you, but it does happen. Sometimes, feelings change without a clear reason.

You Weren’t On The Same Page To Start

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Photo Credit: Pexels

If you go into a relationship with someone thinking it’s one thing, but they’re expecting something different, it’s eventually going to be an issue. You might be able to work through it and get on the same page, but maybe not.

They Haven’t Dealt With Their Own Insecurities

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Priscilla Du Preez

Someone’s insecurities are always going to find a way to seep into your relationship, and if they’re not willing to face those or deal with them, it could lead to a breakup. You’ve dealt with your baggage, they have to deal with theirs.

You’re At Different Stages In Life

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Marina Abrosimova

“Right person, wrong time” might seem like one of those relationship clichés people use too frequently, but it also can be the truth. You might break up with someone not because you don’t love them, but because you’re not the right people for each other at that time.

You Moved Too Fast Too Soon

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Toa Heftiba

Sometimes you jump into a relationship with someone because you feel some unspoken, intense connection, things progress quickly, then all of sudden you realize you need to pump the brakes a little. It’s okay to say that things progressed too quickly.

Your Goals Aren’t The Same

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Jasmine Carter

Just because you have feelings for someone does not mean that all your goals are going to be the same. If two people are looking for different things in life and neither is able to compromise on those things, it’s going to be tough to make that relationship last.

You Weren’t Ready For A Relationship

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Claudia Wolff

Maybe you got into a new relationship quickly after your last one ended, or it’s just taking you a long time to get over someone. There’s no timeline for when you should or will be ready to start dating after a breakup.

They Fell For Someone Else

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Photo Credit: Pexels

You can’t change who you’re attracted to, as much as you may want to. It hurts if you get broken up with because your partner fell for someone else while in a relationship with you, but it’s not a reflection on you.

You’re Fighting Against Unrealistic Expectations

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Ketut Subiyanto

As much as we would all love to live out a fairy tale and have the perfect relationship everyone aspires to have, it’s probably not going to happen. If your partner has unrealistic expectations for you, you were never going to be able to live up to them.

You Both Made Mistakes

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Cottonbro

If you were the only one to make a mistake, then you can feel guilty about it, but if both of you made mistakes that led to the relationship ending, there’s no point in taking on the blame.