People Who Got Burned Share Subtle Signs You Shouldn’t Trust Someone

There is nothing worse than looking back on a relationship you had with someone and seeing that it was a hot mess before it even really began, you just didn’t really notice the signs. The irony is that, often, these things aren’t clear to us until after the fact when we talk it out with our friends and spend way too much time thinking about what went wrong.

Luckily, and sadly, it isn’t an uncommon thing, and people are sharing the signs they wish they had noticed before things got too serious.

They Shouldn’t Have To Convince You

Reddit Post: If they feel a need to repeatedly remind you of how much you should trust them, you probably shouldn't.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Epyon214

If someone is trustworthy, then they should be able to show you that with their actions, not by constantly telling you that they’re trustworthy with only their words. If they tell you too often, it’s almost like they are drawing attention to the fact that they aren’t.

They’re Projecting, Big Time

Reddit Post: The only person who has ever hammered home to me that loyalty and honesty were the most important things to them...was a liar, a loudmouth, a narcissist, and a cheater, who gaslighted me to the point of tears when I tried to be honest with them.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / AntiCorpse

It’s like they always say, someone who is guilty of something is always going to project that onto the other person and make them feel like they’re guilty of something they haven’t even done.

Secrets Don’t Make Friends, OK?

Reddit Post: They say 'this is between just you and me' too often
Photo Credit: Reddit / ilsehen
Photo Credit: Reddit / ilsehen

It’s OK to have secrets and stuff with someone you’re seeing. Really, you should want to tell them things and confide in them, but if they’re constantly telling you that everything you’re talking about is a secret…red flag? I think so.

Here Is The Biggest One Of All

Reddit Post:
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Photo Credit: Reddit

We all pretty much know this one, but it bears repeating…anyone who tells you that every one of their exes is crazy is probably the crazy one. It’s probably a lot more likely that those exes were just reacting to some pretty questionable behavior.

It’s Human To Be Wrong Sometimes

Reddit Post: They never say
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Photo Credit: Reddit / chocolatejellyfish1

If someone can never admit to being wrong, or they always have an answer for everything, even something you’re sure they should know nothing about, then they’re probably making things up. Then how can you trust what is real or not?

If You Have To Say It….

Reddit Post: They say
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Photo Credit: Reddit / ElegostElkai

Anytime someone would say this to me when I went on a date with them, in the back of my head, I would always think, “Who are you trying to convince? Me or you?”

Liars Are Always The Same

Reddit Post: When you catch them lying about little, inconsequential things all the time, or if they tell you stories about lies they've told to other people. You might be tempted to trust them if none of their lies has ever affected you and they are willing to confide in you, but it’s only a matter of time before they lie to you about something important.
Photo Credit: Reddit / elezraita
Photo Credit: Reddit / elezraita

If someone is bragging to you about the things they have gotten away with in life because they could lie their way out of it, it’s only a matter of time until they do it to you.

Grudges Help No One

Reddit Post: They form large grudges over stupid small petty things like someone no longer wanting to be their friend on Facebook.
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Photo Credit: Reddit

It’s always been a red flag for me if I’m talking with someone and they have a whole list of people they don’t like for various reasons, none of which seem like reason enough to hate someone.

You Never Know What They’re Thinking

Reddit Post: They talk excessively about others behind their back. You're not special - they’ll talk about you to others, too.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / oneonefourone

OK, we all like to gossip a little bit with the people closest to us, but there is a big difference between talking about your life and talking crap about literally everyone they know.

Here Is Another Big One

Reddit Post: When they make a
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Photo Credit: Reddit / doot_d0ot

It would make sense that if someone promises you not to do something, they wouldn’t do it again, would they? But guess what? Some people don’t look at it that way and will keep doing whatever they can get away with.

No One Likes A Selfie Person

Reddit Post: People who always talk about themselves, mostly presenting themselves in a good light or when they can't do that, act the victim. Those are selfish people.
Photo Credit: Reddit / JMilosevic04
Photo Credit: Reddit / JMilosevic04

Is it just me, or are those people who can only talk about themselves kind of the worst? Especially the people who are always talking themselves up and trying to make themselves the coolest person in the room.

There’s A Difference Between Sharing Stories And Being A Jerk

Reddit Post: When it comes to stories, they try to one-up everyone instead of enjoying the conversation.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / idontunderstandjava

We all know at least one person who literally has to always get the last word in, no matter what is being talked about. They’re the kind of person who will say, “you think that’s bad…”

People Who Try Too Hard

Reddit Post: They come on really heavy with the compliments and flattery from the get-go. This person is probably trying to get you to join an MLM scheme and/or is a sociopath.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / banginthedoldrums

If I meet someone and they’re overly flirty and a big smooth talker, I always think of that right away as a sign that this person isn’t to be trusted. They’re going to say whatever they think they need to to get what they want.

Some Jokes Just Aren’t Funny

Reddit Post: When they constantly say hurtful/snake-type stuff all the time but play it off as a joke.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / RWBIAD

Someone who is going to say mean things to you under the pretense that they’re making jokes and you shouldn’t be so sensitive are not only untrustworthy, they’re disrespectful and care about no one other than themselves.

No Respect For Your Time

Reddit Post: When they cancel plans but don't bother to tell you, so you show up, wait, and play the fool.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / scratcher-cat

It’s really disrespectful to take advantage of someone’s time, right? If someone is making plans and then canceling them or just not showing up, ditch them. It’s only going to get worse.

Paranoia Isn’t Cute

Reddit Post: The people I have found to be the least trustworthy have had a hard time trusting others. I've dated a few people who were constantly accusing me of cheating and paranoid about it. It turns out they were cheating on me the whole time.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Jackthejew

Someone who always has their guard up thinking that someone is going to take advantage of them is likely so worried about it because they do it to other people and know that it’s wrong.

Over-Sharing, Especially In The Beginning

Reddit Post: They over-share. Like
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Photo Credit: Reddit / suedy

You obviously want the person you’re dating to feel like they can tell you what they’re going through in life, but there are times when you just know that they’re lying, or it’s way too early to be sharing that kind of information.

They Can’t Keep People’s Secrets

Reddit Post: How they talk about others in front of you. They will most likely talk about you in the same way.
Photo Credit: Reddit / misterdabson
Photo Credit: Reddit / misterdabson

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone, there are just some things that you don’t share with them, like your friends’ secrets, especially if they’ve asked you not to.

Safety Is Important

Reddit Post: They don't use their turn signal. I think it is a perfect way to see how they feel about everyone around them.
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Photo Credit: Reddit

It isn’t even just not using the turn signal, it’s the same thing as someone who leaves their table a mess when they go out for dinner or someone who doesn’t put things back in the grocery store where they belong—they just don’t respect anyone else.

They Have Expectations That Are Too High

Reddit Post: They expect things from others that they aren't willing to expect from themselves. They judge people for lying, but it's okay for them to lie—stuff like that.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / ItsMrQ

They want to be treated fairly and with respect and whatnot, but they’re allowed to be as awful as they want to be if it is going to make their life easier.