Most Men Need These 8 Things In Order To Truly ‘Fall In Love’

Obviously there is no one-size-fits-all rule when it comes to dating and finding the right partner.

But there are some similarities that a lot of men tend to look for in the right person.

Physical Attraction

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This one seems obvious of course, but that's why it's at the top of the list. It might seem shallow, but most men are typically visual creatures.

Meaning that the first stage of falling in love is often having a physical attraction. Once an initial attraction is established, things can start to build from there.

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Spending Quality Time Together

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Quality time is one of the five major love languages and it rings true for a lot of guys.

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It feels less like a "head-over-heels" falling in love, and more like a realization of "hey, I really love being around this person."

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A Sense Of Humor That Matches Their Own

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A shared sense of humor (at least for some things) is a huge turn-on for a lot of men, even subconsciously.

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Knowing that someone can laugh with them about the things they find ridiculous is reinforcing that they found someone they can be themselves around.

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The Ability To Make You Happy

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Men are encouraged by the feeling of making you happy—it's a way that they can feel useful and appreciated in a relationship.

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It can also make them feel more connected to a relationship because they feel a sense of being needed.

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Acceptance Of Their Flaws And Challenges

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It's no secret that the "perfect" man simply does not exist, nor does the perfect woman. We all come with strengths and weaknesses and flaws of our own.

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It's important that a man dates someone who is willing to accept his flaws and work through them together. Feeling acceptance from a partner makes it much easier to fall in love with them.

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Feeling Like A Priority

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This one rings true for both men and women—you want to feel like someone's top priority instead of an option.

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Men aren't as great at picking up on subtle cues so it's worth being straight-up and telling them when they are important or special to you. This will help cement the feelings he was already experiencing.

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They Can Envision A Future With You

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Most practical guys need to be able to envision a future together before deciding to commit 100%.

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This isn't exactly something you can help with, it's more about him coming to the realization on his own. But it is important for men to be able to visualize a future with you.

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They Recognize An Equal Effort

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There's always room for give and take in a relationship, but a lot of guys feel like they take on the sole responsibility of being the one to plan dates and activities.

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If a guy notices you are taking on some of the early relationship "heavy lifting," they're more likely to envision a future with you.

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He Needs To Feel Supported

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A lot can change for a man when he feels inspired and supported to chase his goals.

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Sometimes all it takes is a tiny push from a partner to feel motivated and supported enough to tackle goals they have been putting off. If he can find this in a relationship, he'll be well on his way to falling in love.

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Chemistry

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A lot of men are initially driven by lustful motivations, and it's not entirely their fault, some of it has to do with basic biology.

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That being said, the men who are focused on attraction usually feel that chemistry is a big part of a relationship early on. If they feel a strong pull to you in the bedroom, it's more likely to spill over into life outside the bedroom.