Mistakes You Make When You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Not every relationship that you're in is going to work out. In fact, most relationships you start will eventually end because it's all part of the process of finding the right person, and you can't control that.

What you can control, though, is how you choose to act when you know you're in the wrong relationship. No one enjoys going through a breakup, and most people would choose to avoid them at all costs, but don't make these mistakes when you know you're in a situation that isn't right for you.

Clinging On To Your Partner

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While some people distance themselves from a relationship gone awry, others choose to cling on tighter, which is equally as unhelpful. Smothering your partner and spending every waking moment together isn't going to be the magical fix.

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Cutting Yourself Off From Friends

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Your friends have never been shy about sharing their opinions when it comes to your relationships. They've told you they think you're in the wrong relationship, but you're not ready to hear it. Instead, you choose to cut yourself off from them.

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Using Any Opportunity To Start A Fight

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You have all this pent-up frustration surrounding the reasons you're not happy in your relationship, so whenever the chance to start an argument presents itself, you jump at the chance.

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Not Setting Proper Boundaries

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Whether those boundaries are financial, physical, or emotional, you should always have boundaries in your relationship. Not knowing where your partner stands on certain issues and not having a clear line that you're not willing to cross will only lead to more trouble.

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Placing All The Blame On Yourself

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You always need to remember that there are two people in your relationship. While some problems that are happening could be more your fault than others, not every issue can be solely on you. You both have to take responsibility for things that have gone wrong.

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Telling Everyone About Your Problems

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Talking about the occasional relationship issue with your close friends or sharing a silly argument you got into with your boyfriend is reasonable, but every conversation you have shouldn't be about your relationship problems. If you have that many problems, you should talk to your partner, not to your friends.

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Throwing Yourself Into Work

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Work should not be the ultimate escape for someone who doesn't want to deal with the other problems in their relationship. Focusing on your career isn't a bad thing, but if you're using your career as a reason to not focus on your relationship, then you're approaching it wrong.

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Seeing Other People While You're Still In A Relationship

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The relationship may be over in your head, or you know that the situation you're in isn't working for you anymore, but until you actually end the relationship, cheating is not the answer.

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If you're not getting what you need from your partner and are looking to see someone else, you have to tell your boyfriend.

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Creating Problems That Aren't There

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You know that something isn't working, but you don't want to deal with those issues, so instead, you choose to nitpick. You convince yourself of problems that don't excuse and nitpick the small things in order to legitimize your feelings of unhappiness.

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Holding On To The Past

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The relationship was so great when it started out. You were happy and in love, and all you want is to get back to that, but that isn't always possible. You can't have a relationship with a version of your partner that doesn't exist anymore. You have to be able to focus on the person you're with now.

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Starting To Act Like You're Single

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If you've checked out of the relationship, you have to actually break up with the person before you start acting like you're single again. Going out with your friends every night, not spending time with your partner, and not working on your issues isn't going to fix the problem.

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Thinking Your Time Together Means You Have An Obligation to Them

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The length of time that you've been in a relationship shouldn't have an effect on whether or not you break up with someone. If you're in the wrong relationship, there is no obligation to continue to stay in it just because you've been together for years. A time commitment doesn't mean there's an obligation to stay.

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Distancing Yourself From Your Family

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Your family members are often the people who know you better than anyone, which means they have a good idea of when you're with someone who's right for you or someone who's wrong for you. You don't want to deal with the judgment around your relationship, so you distance yourself from the people who love you.

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Making Huge Decisions To Fix The Relationship

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For example, if you're in a long-distance relationship that doesn't seem to be working out, uprooting your life and moving to be with your partner isn't always going to solve the problem. Focus on the reasons your relationship might not be right, not on the grand gestures that might fix it.

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Thinking You Can Change Your Partner

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Focusing on the possibility of a person is just as damaging as focusing on who your partner used to be. You shouldn't stay in a relationship with someone because you think they might become who you want them to be. You have to accept them as they are now or move on.

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Compromising On Your Values To Meet Their Needs

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You should be in a relationship with someone who shares similar beliefs to you, not someone who makes you alter your values in order to meet their needs. You can't be expected to alter your own beliefs so that someone will want to stay with you.

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Holding Your Partner To Unachievable Standards

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Part of being in a relationship is encouraging your partner to be the best version of themselves that they can be, but that has to be within reason. Pushing your partner to become something they're not or holding them to a ridiculously high standard is only going to end up with both of you disappointed.

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Coming Up With Reasons To Never Be At Home

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You're tired of coming home to an argument every night and whenever you spend more than a few hours together you end up fighting, so you've created reasons to not have to go home. You work out more, you've picked up a few new hobbies, you say yes to more plans, but avoidance can't be your solution.

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Not Trusting Your Partner, But Still Not Ending It

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Your relationship isn't going to work if you don't trust each other. If you come to a point where you no longer feel like you can trust your partner to follow through on what they say or to be faithful to you, you shouldn't be with them.

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Dropping Subtle Hints

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If someone is looking to get out of a relationship but doesn't know how, they might start dropping hints that they want to break up in hopes that their partner will beat them to the punch.