You’re Out! Men Spill The Beans On What Their Deal Breakers Are With Women

Every man is different in terms of what they like and dislikes about the women they’re dating. Some might be able to tolerate things that others won’t stand for. That’s just the way it is. Still, everyone has a limit. Someone on Reddit asked the guys what their deal breakers were, and they didn’t hold back. Let’s see what they had to say.

“Not Being Able To Apologize” – U/Attygalle

This is a huge deal breaker. How are you not able to own up when you’ve done something wrong?

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Photo Credit: Ayo Ogunseinde / Unsplash

If you can’t be a mature person about something as simple as a mistake, there’s no way you can last in a healthy relationship.

“Complaining About Everything” – U/Paranoides

Trust me; there’s a lot more in the world to complain about than being ten minutes late to dinner.

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Photo Credit: OSPAN ALI / Unsplash

Constant complainers are no good. They bring headaches and ruin the mood for everyone else involved.

“She Was Mad I Wasn’t Jealous” – U/FonikiPana

Can anyone say, narcist? I mean, what else would it be if a woman is upset that you aren’t jealous of her?

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Photo Credit: @lycan / Unsplash

Maybe the man doesn’t have any insecurities and trusts that you aren’t talking to other guys just to get a reaction.

“They Spend 90% Of Their Free Time Sat On Their Phone” – U/Artichoke19

The worst part about this is that they’ll get irate when they see the guy turn on their gaming system.

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Photo Credit: @nataliekortiz / Instagram

You can’t have your cake and eat it too, but that’s how they like it, I suppose.

“Being Mean To People For No Reason” – U/sproolsy5

This one is pretty self-explanatory. If you’re someone who can’t respect others, that’s not good for the long term.

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Photo Credit: Paramount Pictures

Who knows what they’re saying about their partner behind his back? Respect is important.

“Doesn’t Let You Have Time To Yourself” – U/jalo12

This one is for sure a deal-breaker. It’s basically a clingy girlfriend, and men need some “me time.”

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Photo Credit: @couple / Instagram

If she’s always in your space or face, it’s time to let that situation fade away.

“Talking About Exes Too Much” U/Ilumin159

Yeah, this is a huge turn-off. She might as well get back with her ex if she’s going to bring him up all the time.

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Photo Credit: Unsplash

It’s even worse when it gets to the point of comparison. This is something you want to avoid.

“Ask You For Every Little Detail When You’ve Been Somewhere Without Them” U/gamingninja12

Here’s a huge red flag. Men, if your lady does this, it might be time to plan an exit strategy.

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Photo Credit: yangmiao / Unsplash

You might think it’s because they really love you or care about you, but they’re insecure at the core. Are you going to help them fix that?

“No ‘Test’ Behavior” – U/Thatguyinthebottle

The user continued by saying that any girl he dates needs to be straightforward from the beginning. You’re both too old for that nonsense.

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Photo Credit: Toa Heftiba / Unsplash

If you want to know something about him, just ask, and he should tell you the truth.

“A Severe BO Problem” – U/Dervrak

This is an easy one unless you’re someone who likes smelly people (no judgment). Is it that hard to clean yourself?

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Photo Credit: @beachcleaningbum / Instagram

I understand that some people have certain conditions or beliefs that prevent them from smelling like peaches, but that means they aren’t for everyone.

“No Sense Of Humor” – U/SnarkyRogue

If you aren’t going to laugh at my jokes, then who else will? I know not every guy is funny, but come on now.

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Photo Credit: freestocks / Unsplash

If you see a comedy and don’t laugh at least once, that’s a bit scary.

“If They Are Terrible With Finances” – U/notwithagoat

This one is tough because not everyone is great with their money out of the womb. It takes practice.

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Photo Credit: Instagram

If this is a deal-breaker for you, then that means you only have time for more mature women.

“Handles Problems Badly” – Interesting_Tough926

Everyone has their issues, but it’s how they deal with them that matters. Do they meditate, talk to their parents, or have a therapist?

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Photo Credit: yoppygokil / Unsplash

Whatever they do, at least let it be effective. Taking it out on others or keeping it inside isn’t very healthy.

“When Confidence Goes Too Far And Turns Into Arrogance” – U/QuickNature

There’s nothing wrong with having confidence. In fact, it’s encouraged because no one wants someone who is afraid to be themselves.

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Photo Credit: @jazlyngenna / Instagram

Sadly, that same confidence can grow into something more and be a real pain. That’s something to keep an eye on.

“If They Treat Retail Or Service Staff Poorly For No Reason” – U/drunkworldsailor

Yeah, this one is huge. Mistreating someone who is only trying to help you is a horrible thing to do.

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Photo Credit: bbh_singapore / Unsplash

What did they do to you that deserves your poor manners? Unless they explicitly disrespect you, there should be no reason for this behavior.

“Overall High Maintenance” – U/Viisionn

Here’s another one in line with having their cake and eating it too. Yeah, some men like this, but it’s not for everyone.

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Photo Credit: @stluciasfinest / Instagram

Have some humility because the world doesn’t revolve around you, no matter how much you think it does.

“Quieting People By Lightly Hitting Them” – U/Zulias

We have something called mouths, and we know how to speak languages. It would be best to use those things when quieting people.

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Photo Credit: letanloc1941995 / Unsplash

You don’t need to hit people to get them to pipe down. This should be a no-brainer.

“For Me, That’s If They’re Pretty But Stupid” – U/Aibeit

A pretty face fades, but a mind will remain. Sure, you can have fun with someone who is only beautiful, but where’s the substance?

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Photo Credit: @venom.mermaid / Instagram

Of course, judging how smart someone is might be subjective, but it’s easy to tell.

“Lack Of Compromise Early On” – U/illini02

All relationships require a little compromise, even at the start. You’re two different people, so something’s got to give.

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Photo Credit: Wiktor Karkocha / Unsplash

If they aren’t willing to show up for you at least a little bit early on, it might be time to cut ties.

“Playing Hard To Get” – U/Bazzzzzzzzzzzzinga

This is something that some women might think is the key to attracting guys; it’s an old concept.

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Photo Credit: eliottreyna / Unsplash

Sure, some men love the chase, but what’s the point? Is it that difficult to be straight up with the guy?