Men Share Secrets That Women Might Not Know About Them
As much as we may like to pretend that we've got the opposite gender figured out, there's a lot that women don't understand about men, and vice versa.
There are so many things that men do that women don't understand or can't understand the logic behind. While there's still a lot left up in the air, a few men took the time to share some secrets about men to help women better understand.
Some Men Like Physical Touch
"Guys like being touched. I like it when a lady keeps her hand on my thigh when we're driving, or rubbing my head when we're lying on the couch. Pretty much just any contact. My wife is the opposite and it sucks sometimes." —Reddit / im2old_4this
Insecurity Isn't Reserved For Women
"I think it's not often addressed that guys, just like girls, also deal with their fair share of insecurities, body dysmorphia, and pressures from society to act and look a certain way. It's just that openly talking about it and dealing with those emotions is more shameful and less accepted." —Reddit / donpedromontezuma
Arguments Never Last Long
"After you and your bro argue, as soon as you hang out again it's all good, no issues." —Reddit / Hothroy
"If there's a problem, we settle it and draw a line under the whole thing. It only becomes an issue if there's unfinished business." —Reddit / PM_me_ur_navel_girl
You Can Be Too Subtle
"We don't pick up on subtle hints that you are interested in us. If you want to get a guy's attention, you pretty much have to either hit him over the head." —Reddit / LodgePoleMurphy
What I Said Is What I Meant
"There is no underlying message in what I just told you. What I said is what I meant." —Reddit / Whysenberg
"If I had gold I'd give it to you. Stop trying to read between the lines and just believe what I said!!!!" —Reddit / jtaylor807l
Men Get Their Feelings Hurt Too
"Sometimes, men can be emotional too. It does hurt when a girl leads you on, and it does hurt when she doesn't tell you the truth. A lot of girls try to play it off as something a guy just has to take, but it can actually affect us." —Reddit / toto1812
They Really Are Thinking About Nothing
"Sometimes we really are just thinking about nothing important. Just staring off into space imagining what we'd do if ninjas suddenly attacked this room." —Reddit / Raneados
"The 'nothing box,' it does exist. And I open it and leave it open often. It allows me to literally not think. There's also the 'Battle Box' were I daydream space, naval, land, air, whatever battles. Guns, explosions, star destroyers blasting pathetic rebel scum. My own personal cinema. For the Empire!" —Reddit / aether_tech
Body > Face Compliments
"Not sure if it's a secret, but I feel guys appreciate body compliments infinitely times more than facial features and they will possibly remember the body one forever." —Reddit / TL3490
He Actually Is Fine
"'I'm fine' doesn't necessarily mean I'm fine right now but that I will be and if you keep bring it up it's going to make it worse." —Reddit / gramathy
"'I'm angry, but I recognize that my anger is irrational/unreasonable/unjustified and/or not worth fighting over, and I need time to process my emotions and want get over it on my own.' Or, the other 70% of the time, I'm actually fine." —Reddit / monkeyfetus
Random Acts Of Kindness Are Always Appreciated
"We love cuddling. We love someone thinking about us, too, and doing random acts of kindness. We appreciate help with things even though sometimes we may not ask for it." —Reddit / CowboyBebopcrew
You Asked For Help, Now You're Stuck With Us
"When you ask us to do something difficult for you (open a jar, fix a thing, move something heavy, drive a long distance, etc.), and we seem to struggle, don't stop us. At that point, we have to get it done. Let us slay the dragon for you (and for us).
"The exception is finding stuff. You lost your phone. You'll most likely find it. I have no idea where it is, and I'd rather be fixing a thing." —Reddit / wakela
We Don't Talk About Anything With Our Friends
"If a guy goes out with other guys, chances are when he says they 'talked about nothing' they actually did talk about nothing interesting.
"No gossip, no 'how's the family,' it just tends to be talking about some sort of shared interest or hobby and a lot of banter, and when you ask him, I can almost guarantee that he remembers almost none of the content of the 5-hour conversation they've been having." —Reddit / Bibbgers95
"Dude" Could Mean Anything You Want
"The word 'dude' has something like 150 different meanings, depending on how you say it. It is a genderless term and is applicable in almost any situation." —Reddit / TheKevinShow
Presents Don't Always Mean We Did Something Wrong
"If we randomly surprise you with flowers or some gift for no reason, it doesn't mean there is an ulterior motive or that we are trying to get forgiveness for something. So when you make a big deal and try to roast us with questioning, or say things like 'Wow, why can't you be more like this more often?' all you are doing is sending the signal to the man's brain 'Do not do the thing again that brings her suspicion on you.'
"Besides, we know if it becomes expected, then it becomes a chore and we are treated as some sort of failure when we don't do it." —Reddit / Batholomewvanbooger
The State Of The Bathroom Tells All
"If you come to our house and the bathroom is spotless, including the sides and area around the back of the toilet: you can rest assured that you are well-liked and high in the pantheon rankings. If the bathroom is half-assed, you are low ranked and just passing through." —Reddit / SnavlerAce
Trash Talk Means They're Friends
"The closer we are with another dude, the trashier and worst we talk to each other. I.e: Once a friend suffered an accident (smalls bruises in his arms) and the nicer text he got was 'You even suck at crashing a car!'" —Reddit / rgm480
Quality Time Doesn't Need To Involve Conversation
"Intentionally have side-by-side time with him. Pick an activity or hobby that he enjoys and just do it with him. Don't ask him if he's enjoying himself, or what he's thinking, if you have to, literally just sit next to him on the couch and watch the game with him.
"If he's comfortable with it, quietly watch him build his computer, or ask him how it works. Keep the conversation about the activity. Avoid asking him how he's doing unless he brings it up. Literally just be there with him." —Reddit / chives177
He's Not Fishing For Compliments
"When we tell you we're trying to lose weight, we aren't asking you to compliment our bodies.
"We're bringing it up because our uncles have quadruple bypasses and the doctor told us we have high blood pressure." —Reddit / xkcel
Men Like Compliments Too
"Almost nobody ever compliments men. A simple compliment can make a guy's week. We're starved for it." —Reddit / Asmor
"I walked into Best Buy last weekend and one of the employees at the door said 'nice shirt' and I've been thinking about it all week because I bought that shirt in March and I thought it was a nice shirt, and it felt so good to hear someone that wasn't my mom say that." —Reddit / atomiku121
Not Every Guy Is A Car Guy
"We will open the hood of the car and stare at the engine even if we have no clue where that noise is coming from or what it means.
"After a couple of minutes of that, we'll announce that it might be a random part we remember the name of and it should be checked out by a mechanic." —Reddit / Sea2Chi
