Sometimes in a relationship, you’re going to have that obvious epiphany moment where you realize you want to be with someone, or it might be a smaller moment that you look back on and say “that’s when I knew.”
Women might be more up-front about those moments or more willing to share how they’re feeling, but that doesn’t mean that men don’t have those moments too. Here’s the moment that these men knew the person they were with was “the one.”
It’s All About The Quiet Moments
“When she and I first hung out, sitting in her driveway at 3 in the morning watching the stars while she lay in my lap telling me about her dreams.” —TikTok / Kaleb Xavier Kastner
You Can Pick Your Nose And Your Partner, But Don’t Pick Your Partner’s Nose
“When we were going home after a long night of partying and I need to pick my nose due to some super sharp and annoying boogers. I look over to her to see if she is looking just to see her picking her nose for the same reason. Truer love has never been found.” —Reddit / komiroya
Listen For The Wedding Bells
“When the thought of getting married one day actually came across my mind, I never wanted to get married until I met this girl and fell madly in love” —TikTok / Jmercs
She Fits In With The Family
“I step back and see she is having a great time with my family, my sisters and brothers, and being so comfortable with them and also with me.” —TikTok / Cruz
Sometimes You Just Need To Hear Them Say It
“I received a hand-written note in the mail after our third date saying, ‘This could be the start of something BIG—I’ve never been so happy!’
“That really touched me and confirmed the feelings that I, too, was having. (I still have that note!)” —Reddit / Back2Bach
You Can Be Exactly Who You Are
“The time where she actually brought out my real self and I was able to actually not be embarrassed of who I was cause she was there to make me happy.” —TikTok / Chris_floresxx
A Little Bit Of Darkness Doesn’t Matter
“When she sees your darkest side but still looks at you the same, she doesn’t see a monster, she sees struggle and tries her hardest to keep the monster away.” —TikTok / joshjelderfield
A Shift In The Dynamic
‘When the ‘I’m coming over’ turned to ‘I’m coming home.'” —TikTok / Gavin Starnes
When you pick up on those little shifts in the conversation, you can know that she’s feeling the same way you do.
Building A Strong Foundation
“She asked if she could help construct a Lego set with me, and I let her. That is ‘the one’ material in my book.” —Reddit / defmid26
Ah, Legos, the building blocks of every strong relationship.
A Fight Doesn’t Mean A Breakup
“No matter what fights we got into or how hard it was for both of us she still looked past those moments and tries even harder to keep our relationship.” —TikTok / Daniel Bae
A Lifetime Together Or Breaking Up? Easy Choice
“When we both said breaking up is childish and we grow as people together. there’s no such thing as giving up on each other.” —TikTok / John Scarpino
If you both decide that you never want to break up with each other, your only other option is staying together forever.
Your Body Knows Before Your Mind
“Just to be clear—mentally you will not immediately be like ‘this is the one’—but your body will know, and your mind will eventually catch up with you.
“We were compatible on every level and fell for each other very quickly. It was like I had found the missing other half of my brain, the part that brought a lightness to the world.” —Reddit / toast24
It’s About The Person, Not Just Having a Girlfriend
“When I met her, everything I presumed about girlfriends went out the window. Here was a person I legitimately enjoyed spending time with. Someone whose humor matched so much with my own, and whom I felt incredible comfort around despite knowing each other for such a short time and considering my awkwardness with women.
“We became very close very quickly. We both noted that the pace was faster than is usually considered acceptable, but we felt so strongly about each other that we didn’t care. It’s been a great 4 years.” —Reddit / ProtoJMan
She’d Do Anything To Keep You
“When I realized she was willing to go through hell and back for me and do anything in the world to keep our relationship together no matter what.” —TikTok / Yousif Abou
She’s There For Support When No One Else Is
“When all the people that I thought were my friends turned against me, she was there for me and never turned her back on me, she always defends me.” —TikTok / xavier_ahmon
“When she let me in on all her secrets, like in the online games we played together she revealed that all the enemy guilds were also under her control and she was inventing all this intrigue just to make the players and other guild members excited… my mind was blown. I thought ‘This girl functions on levels I never imagined, I have to be around this person always and life will never be boring.’
“Married 15 years today.” —Reddit / AMeanCow
In Sickness And In Health
“Four months into dating, she was spending almost every weekend at my place. One weekend she went on a trip with her family. The following weekend she stayed over again, but got violently ill on Friday night, so I took care of her for the next two days. When she finally felt well enough to go home, I realized it was a better weekend having her there (even sick) than the previous one when she was away.
“We got married a year ago.” —Reddit / misteresock
There’s A Waiting Period
“For those of you who just started a relationship, you will know for real when you get past about the 18–24-month mark and still feel they are The One. I’m not saying immediate clicks don’t ever work out to be The One, but, generally, infatuation can last anywhere from 6 to around 18 months.
“Theory goes, this is how long it takes people to reveal who they really are (the good, the mediocre, and the bad). You can’t keep putting nothing but your best foot forward for longer than that.” —Reddit / oldnewgirl
Straight Out Of A Rom-Com
“We were sitting on a ledge of rocks overlooking the water. We watched the sunset holding each other close and when we made eye contact I felt it.” —TikTok / Eli Frank
When You Know, You Know
“She walked into my apartment. I knew before she even said anything I would marry this woman. Which was a weird feeling because at the time I was a big ole man wh*re.
“We met, first date the following weekend, moved in together at week three, engaged by month six, married by month nine. Still alive and kicking with two kids and our 12th wedding anniversary is a month from today actually.” —Reddit / Super_Midget