If You’re Wondering Why He Left You On Read, Here Are The Possible Reasons

It’s the age-old question. You know he’s seen your message and yet he hasn’t replied. So your mind spirals with all the possible reasons. You reach out to your support group so you can all try to take guesses, but usually, it all comes down to the same few reasons.

He’s Simply Lazy

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Photo Credit: Jamie Street / Unsplash

Before you spiral try to come up with what you could have possibly done wrong and act out accordingly, the reason could be much simpler than you imagine.

He could simply have been too lazy to put in the effort to look at his phone and type words. This isn’t a reflection of his feelings towards you, but rather of his character.

He Doesn’t Care Enough To

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Photo Credit: Anastasia Shuraeva / Pexels

He hasn’t built enough of an attraction to hurry to talk to you every time he hears from you.

He’s not sure if your personalities mesh quite yet, so he doesn’t feel invested enough to put in the work.

He’s Actually Busy

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Photo Credit: Bruce Mars / Unsplash

Believe it or not, even in the age of instant communications technology, people do have lives that extend beyond their phones.

He may have not felt the need to mention it, but he could have a lot on his plate, from doing the dishes to putting his kids to sleep.

He Didn’t Feel Like It Needed A Reply

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Photo Credit: Nordwood Themes / Unsplash

He didn’t mean to offend you, but he took your last text as the natural conclusion to the conversation. He didn’t want to force it by sending a reply for the sake of it that might come off sounding weird.

You should be hearing from him again soon when a new conversation is initiated. You don’t need to be in touch 24/7 to prove you like each other.

To Create Attraction

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He may be engaging in dating games and presuming that you want what you can’t have. He thinks that if he keeps you on your toes and withholds attention every once in a while, he’ll come off as mysterious and you’ll want him more.

If you made it to this article, it’s working. Don’t cave to his games.

He’s In The Hospital

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Photo Credit: Daan Stevens / Unsplash

Believe it or not, often enough, it really is because they got injured, got into a car crash, or are really sick that they didn’t get back to you.

Their health took priority, and they’ll tell you all about it eventually.

He’s Interested In Someone Else

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Photo Credit: Brooke Cagle / Unsplash

This is a hard pill to swallow, but if you haven’t made your relationship exclusive yet, he may have started to talk to someone else.

He may be feeling confused as he tried to figure out how to handle it and who he has a stronger connection with.

His Phone Died

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Photo Credit: Stefan Stefancik / Unsplash

This is an easy one to figure out. It all depends on how long it’s been since he stopped texting you back.

The average person can’t go longer than a day without needing their phone at some point. If it’s only been a couple of hours, however, their phone may just need to charge before they can answer you.

He Doesn’t Know How To Handle You

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Photo Credit: Nathan Dumlao / Unsplash

Sometimes, you do have some reason to blame yourself. As excited as you are to be talking to him, do you really want to be constantly sending him long, deep paragraphs, always checking up on him, or texting him twice in a row before he’s had a chance to respond to your previous text?

If you come on too strong, he might feel overwhelmed and push you away.

He’s Getting His Own Sense Of Revenge

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Photo Credit: Zheka Boychenko / Unsplash

If, for whatever reason, he didn’t get his way with you, he may try in his own way to “punish” you. He wants to make you feel like he’ll withdraw from you if you don’t give him what he wants.

This is actually a win for you because you don’t want that kind of man in your life.

He’s Scared Of Commitment

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Photo Credit: Nathan Dumlao / Unsplash

At this point, it may just sound like an excuse, but fear of commitment is an actually inhibiting obstacle that many men can’t get past unless they actively decide to work through it.

It’s often related back to their own baggage and abandonment issues, and they have to come to that conclusion on their own.

He’s Just Terrible With His Texting Habits

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Photo Credit: Domingo Alvarez / Unsplash

It’s nothing personal. Some people are not good with their phones. They either don’t want their lives revolving around it, or don’t give it as much importance as face-to-face interaction.

In this case, base your judgment on how they act around you in person instead of how long it takes to get a text back.

He Had A Family Emergency

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Photo Credit: Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels

You can’t control when someone you care about is going to require your assistance. Sometimes it happens so quickly that you don’t have time to do anything or let anyone know before attending to it.

This only applies when it’s a one-off occurrence. It shouldn’t be a pattern.

He Got Pulled Into A Meeting

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Photo Credit: Surface / Unsplash

If this ends up being the reason, you should be proud of him for knowing his priorities and giving them enough importance to not be distracted by his phone.

Who doesn’t want a successful man in their life?

He’s Trying To Ghost You

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Photo Credit: Tandem Visuals / Unsplash

This is definitely a him problem. If he no longer wants to speak with you, he should find the courage to give you the respect you deserve and let you know.

You could wait a few days and then ask him yourself where he stands on your relationship.

He’s Trying To Gain The Upper Hand

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Photo Credit: Allef Vincius / Unsplash

Similarly to manipulating you when he doesn’t get his way, he may be trying to assert his dominance early on.

He wants the relationship to be on his own term and his own time. Be careful as this power imbalance will only get worse over time.

He Thinks You’re Not Into Him

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Photo Credit: Nathan Cowley / Pexels

Ironically, while you scratch your head wondering why he doesn’t like you enough to text you, he may the one who thinks he’s bothering you by texting.

He doesn’t want to keep chasing someone who’s not interested. Look back on your messages to determine if you sounded too cold, moody, busy, or were trying too hard to be “cool.”

He Was Robbed

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Photo Credit: Batian Pudill / unsplash

In this crazy life, you never know what kind of chaos you might encounter next.

In this kind of situation, you need to consider all the possibilities, and while getting robbed is on the lower end of the odds, it is still possible.

He’s Not Ready For What You Have To Offer Him

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Photo Credit: Katerina Holmes / Pexels

You’re a great catch and that scares him. Things are getting serious quickly because you get along so well, and he’s simply not ready for that just yet.

In this case it’s simply bad timing and has nothing to do with your connection.

He Lost Interest

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Photo Credit: Jessica Ticozzelli / Pexels

Yes, what you fear most is definitely possible. This doesn’t mean that you should jump to conclusions.

Rather, stop chasing and see if he picks up the effort or if it fizzles out. This will give you all the answers you need.