If You’re Single And Not Doing These Things, Sorry, But You’re Missing Out
Being single is great. It doesn't have to be the way you spend your whole life, but being single is kind of made out to be something bad that happens to you. In reality, being single can be an incredible way to nurture your relationship with yourself.
There are some things that we should try to do when we're flying solo.
Live On Your Own
This one might not always be financially feasible, but if it's possible, living on your own can teach you so much about yourself and how to be a functional adult.
Taking A Girls' Trip
Even if you only go away on a camping trip for a weekend getaway, spending some time away from home with your friends is a great way to unwind and do some bonding. Your friends are always going to be people you need in your life.
Visit Another Country
If you ever get the chance to take a trip somewhere out of the country, you should! Maybe this could be your girls' trip, or maybe this is something that you would gain more from by doing it alone. Learning how things work around the world and being far from home is a great way to put things into perspective.
Figure Out What Makes You Happy
Figuring out what makes you happy is always going to be a lifelong process, but when you're single, you can really narrow it down in some senses. What are things about yourself and what you want from your life that you don't want to compromise on?
Go On Dates
This may seem like the opposite of what you should be doing when you're spending time being single, but no one is telling you to take yourself off the market completely. Going on dates and talking to different people might help you learn what you do and don't want in a serious relationship.
Date Yourself
At the end of the day, you're going to be the person in your life who has your back more than anyone else. So it makes sense that you should spend some time falling in love with yourself. Take yourself out, spoil yourself, buy things you don't need. You know, be your own partner.
Keep A Journal
If you're doing all this growing and self-discovery, it's probably a good idea to keep track of it all! Keeping a journal will help you cement the things about yourself that you're learning and will also help you process things and reflect on them.
Treat Yourself Right
While you're having a great time dating yourself, make sure you treat yourself right. Don't beat yourself up about past mistakes. Let yourself be comfortable with the fact that life is just a long learning process, and take as many baths as you want.
Spend Time With Couples
Spending time with couples is a great way to see other people in relationships and get an outsider's perspective. We can ask for advice all we want, but being able to see a healthy or unhealthy relationship in action can teach you a lot.
Reconnect With Friends And Family
When you're in a relationship, you're not going to be able to keep up with everyone in your life, and that's a bummer. That's why when you're single, you should reconnect with people and make sure they know that they're still important to you.
Try At Least One New Thing
Change is the spice of life! Since being single means you've got extra time, spend it learning a new skill or trying something you've always wanted to try. Take a cooking class, take a free course online, or pick up a new hobby.
Let Yourself Have Crushes
Having crushes is totally normal and healthy, so if you want to have all the feelings for your favorite actor or lust after a fictional character, let yourself! These things keep life interesting and spicy when we're riding solo.
Reinvent Your Look A Little
One thing that every girl does after they go through a breakup is to reinvent their look a little bit. Maybe you get a haircut or switch up how you do your makeup, or maybe you're one of those girls who does a total wardrobe overhaul. These things are therapeutic.
Do A Purge
If you're going to redo your wardrobe, it might be a good time to also do a purge of your closet and your home. Get rid of things that hold you back, like clothes that don't fit, things you don't use anymore, and all your ex's things.
Do Something Nice
Nothing in the world is going to make you feel better than doing something nice for other people. Sign up to volunteer somewhere. If that's not your style, go on Instagram and like people's selfies or support a friend's side hustle. These things make a difference.
Hibernate A Little
When you're single, especially if you are newly single, it's important to let yourself have some time to be sad and feel all your feelings. Let yourself have some down days, sleep in sometimes, and look after your mental health.
Catch Up On Things You Put To The Side
When you're in a relationship, the things that you love sometimes get pushed to the side. Catch up on those Netflix shows you haven't seen in a while, or read all those books you've bought but haven't looked at yet!
Make Some Plans For The Future
Decide what you want from your life and figure out how to get there on your own terms. Start a savings account, decide what you might want to do when you grow up!
Unplug A Bit
Changing the relationship you have with your phone and social media is a healthy thing to do no matter if you're single or not. But being single is a great time to develop new habits, and signing off once in a while is a great one to adopt.
Enjoy Being Single
More than anything else, enjoy being on your own for a while. Do some of the things on this list or do none of them, but no matter what you do, make sure that you are happy and whole, and don't sell yourself short.