You don’t have to be in a long-term relationship to decide that you want to “break up” with someone.
Some couples never fully define exactly what their relationship is, which can make it more complicated when it comes time to end things.
You Don’t Have To Be Exclusively Dating Someone To Go Through A “Breakup”
Regardless of whether you’re newly seeing someone, long-term dating, or in a weird situationship, you might reach a point where things start to feel a little too comfortable.
There are usually some telltale signs that begin to surface before it’s time to jump ship.
Single Life Can Be Awesome
Not every relationship or hookup is worth salvaging, and let’s be honest, there are other fish out there in the metaphorical dating sea that might be fun to swim with for a while.
A lot of people thrive when they’re single—maybe that’s the journey for you.
There Are Ways To Tell If He’s Worth Your Time
It shouldn’t be very hard early on to tell whether a guy is worth your time, as long as you’re looking for the right things.
If you’re noticing any of the following signs, it might be time to cut ties.
He Struggles With Being Consistent
When someone is into you, they will make an effort to show you that they are interested all the time, and not just when it’s convenient.
If he’s showering you with constant attention some days but then completely AWOL for the next week, it could be a sign of worse things to come.
He Regularly Bails On Plans With You
Every now and then, something is going to come up that causes plans to fall through and that’s completely understandable.
If it becomes a regular habit that you’re getting ditched, he’s not worth your time. You deserve someone who looks forward to seeing you.
He Can’t Be Clear About What Your Status Is
Sometimes it can be hard to define hooking up and figuring out at what time it becomes a relationship.
But you do have a right to ask and know whether you’re the only person he’s seeing. If he can’t answer basic questions about that, how will you know if you’re on the same page?
He Downplays What You’re Doing When You Meet Up
If you’ve been on six or seven dates and he still insists on calling it “hanging out” or “chillin’,” he’s not exactly communicating that he wants something serious.
You’re not in high school hanging out between classes! You’re an adult who is dating—if he can’t call it what it is, you should bail.
He’s Hanging Onto His Dating Apps
If you’re on the same page that you’re both seeing other people, great, but if not, you should probably make sure you’re not the only one who is committed.
If those Tinder match notifications are constantly popping up, it means that he’s active on the app. Run, sis.
He Still Lives At Home With No Plans To Change It
Living with Mom and Dad has its benefits and can be great when you’re in a financial pinch.
That being said, if the guy you’re dating is long-term living at his family home, it could be a sign that he doesn’t have much ambition to get out and support himself.
He Gets His Mom To Do Everything For Him
If you are genuinely considering pursuing a relationship with this person, it’s worth noting how his relationships with his mom and other women work.
If he relies on his mom to do everything from laundry to cooking his meals, it could be a glimpse into what he expects from a partner. Thanks but no thanks.
He Has Cheated In All His Past Relationships
It’s good to be open about these things early on so that you know what you’re getting into with someone.
If he seems casual about the fact that he has cheated, or worse, lies to you about it, it’s a major red flag.
He Has Racist, Homophobic, Misogynistic, Etc. Tendencies
Men who have close-minded and hateful opinions about certain things are absolutely not worth your time.
The first sign of this behavior shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s important to have a partner who isn’t a terrible person.
You Have To Play Teacher In The Relationship
Maybe when you first started dating you thought that it would be a lot easier to manage than it is.
If you’re constantly having to explain to this guy proper dating etiquette and how to be a good partner, he’s not worth your time. That can be someone else’s project.
He Has An Unpredictable Temper
Okay, this one almost seems obvious but anger can take a while to rear its ugly head.
When someone does show you their uncontrolled anger emotions, pay attention to whether they are destructive. We all get angry, but aggression is not a personality trait you need in a partner.
He Makes Deprecating Jokes About You
When you’re dating someone new, there is cute humor and inside jokes, but sometimes a line is crossed.
He should never be “joking” in a way that makes you feel self-conscious, uncomfortable, or embarrassed about yourself.
He Makes You Feel Like You’re Being Annoying Or Clingy
It’s a terrible feeling when someone makes you feel like you’ve bothered them or been annoying.
The fact is, the person you’re dating should never make you feel like you’re bugging them. They should want to talk to you and make an effort to do so!
He Doesn’t Like Your Friends
Your friends are a big part of your life, so if the person you’re dating can’t get on board with them then it’s probably better to end it now.
As the great philosophical group the Spice Girls once said: “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.”
He’s Jealous And Overbearing
Jealousy can be a big red flag. If it surfaces early in a relationship, it almost always will be a problem down the road.
Controlling behavior and constant questions about who you’re talking to, who’s texting you, and who’s photos you’re liking will get exhausting fast. Better to deal with it early on.