How To Tell If He Is Losing His Feelings For You

Reading the signs when you’re dating someone new can be a challenge even for the most experienced serial dater.

Thankfully, there are some surefire ways to tell if a guy is losing feelings for you so that you can pull the plug before he burns the house down (metaphorically, of course).

He’s Taking Longer To Text You Back

Obviously, not every person is waiting with their phone in hand for your message to come in, that would be insane.

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But if you notice that he starts letting the conversation die off, isn’t responding as quickly or for days at a time, there’s probably a bit more to the story.

He’s Not Asking You Questions

When you’re seeing someone, they should take a genuine interest in your life. That means asking questions that keep the conversation going and getting to know things about you.

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If he’s showing absolutely no interest in your life outside of him, it’s a sign he’s not invested.

He’s Not Calling You Affectionate Names Anymore

When you’re comfortable with someone, you might call them a nickname or some kind of pet name like “babe,” “hun,” or love.”

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If a guy has been calling you affectionate names like this but suddenly switches up to just using your full name, or avoiding your name altogether, it could be a small sign of a bigger problem.

He Stopped Sharing You On His Social Media Accounts

Peak honeymoon phase in a new relationship usually makes for some quality couples’ photos of activities together and meals shared.

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When he starts wiping you from his grid or noticeably stops tagging you in posts, sharing stories about you, or sending you things, he’s probably trying to distance himself or make himself appear single to other women.

He Doesn’t Make An Effort To Make Plans

Showing initiative to make plans and see each other is huge. It doesn’t take much effort to make a difference in someone’s day.

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If he’s not asking you to do things, meet up, or spend time together, remember that he’s not being forgetful but making an active choice.

He Avoids Talking About The Future At All Costs

If you bring up the future in any capacity, even something as simple as “we should go see that concert in a few months,” and he avoids the subject altogether, take notice.

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He will be against making plans because he doesn’t see himself with you long-term. Someone who cared would be excited to make future plans with you!

He Makes Sly Comments Or “Jokes” About Breaking Up

A guy who truly cares about you won’t put the idea that he’s going to leave you in your head for no reason.

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Even if he says, “It was a joke,” or, “I’m obviously not being serious,” the comments he’s making about being single may have some truth to them and those “jokes” could be his way of preparing you.

He’s Not Subtle About Being Attracted To Other Women

Relationships are about honesty, but if he’s being too honest about someone else that he finds attractive, it’s a bad sign.

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He should never make you feel like you have to compete for his attention. If he’s got wandering eyes it’s because the relationship doesn’t mean as much to him.

He’s Not As Interested In Hooking Up

If your sex life is suffering, it’s one of the biggest signs that something is off. Sex drives fluctuate for all kinds of reasons, but you should be able to work through intimate issues with communication.

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If he’s shutting you out and being distant then it could be because he’s already made a decision in his mind that he’s not in this anymore.

You’re Getting Into Little Bickering Fights

Suddenly, little problems seem like big problems. He may have a shorter fuse for things that never seemed to bother him before.

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Photo Credit: Ron Lach / Pexels

When little annoyances are blowing up into big deals, there’s usually a bigger issue behind it all. Ask him to be straight up instead of passive-aggressive.

He’s Gone Through Massive Change In His Life Lately

Big, life-altering events cause a lot of people to seek change in their identities and sometimes that means their relationship status.

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If there has been a lot of major change in his life lately, he could be feeling motivated to make changes in other areas of his life too, including his relationship.

He’s Lost Any Interest In Who You Talk To Or Who You Talk About

Most guys are naturally curious when you say that you have been talking to someone at the gym or that so-and-so has been texting you.

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Photo Credit: Keira Burton / Pexels

So, if he randomly drops interest in things like that, it probably means that his attention is focused elsewhere (or on someone else).