How To Get Over A Breakup Even If You Never Actually Dated

Breakups suck. Even when they go relatively “smoothly,” they can still result in hurt feelings, and sometimes things are left unresolved.

Most people would think that the longer the relationship lasted, the harder the breakup will be, but that’s not always the case.

It Doesn’t Matter How Serious The Relationship Was, The Breakup Can Still Be Painful

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Even if you never officially “dated” someone, it can still leave a hole in your life when they are gone.

Thankfully, there are some ways to help yourself get over the worst part of it and get back to being your best single self.

Emotional Injuries Can Impact You Similar To Physical Ones

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Photo Credit: Mikhail Nilov / Pexels

Relationship experts advise that treating your breakup as if it’s an actual medical issue could help you deal with it.

You have to realize that your body and mind are not functioning at 100%, and it’s okay to have a few “off” days to collect your thoughts.

Write Your Heavy Feelings Down

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Photo Credit: Lisa / Pexels

Journaling and writing down your heaviest feelings may seem daunting, but it has major benefits. It’s worth trying even if you’re not usually someone who journals.

There are no rules about what to write, just say whatever is going through your head. It will also make you feel better when you look back months from now to see what you wrote and how far you’ve come.

Force Yourself To Deal With The Stuff You Don’t Want To

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Going through a breakup can actually help you become more emotionally intelligent. Try setting aside 15-20 minutes every day to deal with the things that you’re putting off.

Maybe it’s doing the laundry, getting in the shower, talking to a family member, or reaching out to a friend. You’ll feel accomplished after you do it.

Reconnect With Things That Make You Feel Excited

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People have a tendency to lose themselves in relationships, especially toxic ones. It’s easy to forget the things that you once did alone that made you feel happy.

Post-breakup is the best time to reconnect with the things that make you feel like you. It’s time to stop pretending you’re mildly interested in your ex-partner’s things and get back to doing your own thing.

Lean On Friends And Family

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Photo Credit: Ketut Subiyanto / Pexels

Hopefully, you didn’t push away everyone close to you during your crappy relationship. And even if you did, it’s time to hit up your friends and tell them you smartened up and want to hang out again.

You can rely on good friends and family to help bring you back out of a breakup funk.

Try To Be Patient With Yourself

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One of the worst things you can do is make it harder on yourself by beating yourself up over feeling bad about the breakup.

It’s going to take time to move forward so don’t stress if you’re not as far along in the healing process as you hoped. It would be weird if you had no feelings about the whole thing.

Commit To Distancing Yourself From The Relationship

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Photo Credit: Vlada Karpovich / Pexels

This part is easier said than done, but you need to go radio silent when it comes to communicating with your ex.

You can mute them on social media if you’re not ready to delete them, but it’s best to avoid seeing each other online or IRL.

Put Away The Pictures And Memories

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Photo Credit: Lisa / Pexels

If you and your ex had some things at each other’s place, it’s time to throw them in a box and get them out of sight, out of mind.

Change the wallpaper on your phone and set aside anything that reminds you of that person.

Lose Their Number

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Photo Credit: @saramorseyy / Twitter

If things ended badly, you should go for a swift block and delete. If you’re not ready for that, you don’t have to delete them completely, but start by deleting them from your recent messages.

Life will be easier with no contact, and losing their number is a good way to start that process.

Try Going On Dates With Yourself

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Photo Credit: RODNAE Productions / Pexels

No, seriously. Choose somewhere you have always wanted to go and go there.

You could invite a close friend or family member or just go alone. The best part is that you choose all the elements and get to soak up every moment knowing that you’re doing something just for you.

Don’t Keep Tabs On Your Ex

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This means not asking mutual friends what’s going on in their life or lurking their social media to see what you can find.

Sometimes, you may find something you don’t want to see and it will cause you to want to reopen that communication door. Stay strong!

Take A Break From Dating If You Need To

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Photo Credit: Sasha Kim / Pexels

Jumping into a new relationship immediately after getting out of a different one can get emotionally exhausting.

If you’re feeling more negative emotions than positive ones, you’re probably not in a good headspace for dating. Spend time with yourself, and maybe some plants.

Don’t Wait For Closure Before Letting Yourself Move On

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Photo Credit: @kenzzzzdanielle / Twitter

If you spend all your time waiting to feel a sense of closure or hoping to talk things out with your ex, you may end up stuck between relationships.

It’s best to accept things for how they are and move forward as soon as you’re able.