Guys Share Signs That You’re A Bad Girlfriend

As women, it’s easy for us to talk about all the bad boyfriends we’ve had in the past—they didn’t communicate enough with you, they didn’t listen to you, they took you for granted. However, it’s much harder to know when you’re acting like a bad girlfriend in the moment or even in retrospect.

Guys came together to share signs that you’re being a bad girlfriend, and some aren’t super obvious.

You Keep Him From Hanging Out With His Friends

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Matheus Ferrero

It can be as simple as trying to steal his time from them; for example, he wants to have a boys’ night out, but you complain until he cancels on them or takes you with him. It’s important for your boyfriend to maintain friendships and have a life outside of you.

You Go Through His Phone

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Photo Credit: Sean Gallup / Getty Images

He’s in the shower and you know his passcode, so what’s the harm? It’s unhealthy for you to go through his personal messages without his permission, and it shows that you don’t care about his boundaries.

You Never Offer To Split The Bill

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Photo Credit: FRED TANNEAU / AFP / GettyImages

Of course it’s okay to let him pay for some dinners, but you shouldn’t always expect him to, especially if you’ve been dating for a while and you’re on similar financial grounds. It can leave him feeling a bit used.

You Pick Big Fights Over The Little Things

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Vera Arsic

You take every molehill and turn it into Mount Everest—it’s never just a conversation: it has to be a fight. You find new things to fight about all the time, which can leave your boyfriend feeling emotionally exhausted. He shouldn’t have to feel like he’s walking on eggshells around you.

You’re Unreasonably Jealous

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Judeus Samson

A little bit of jealousy here and there isn’t a problem, but too much is a total mess. If you catch yourself interrogating your boyfriend over every woman he talks to or asking him to stop hanging out with female friends, you’re being toxic.

You Sulk When He’s Happy

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Priscilla Du Preez

It could be that he’s recently received a promotion or he’s merely had a good day: you find a way to undermine his happiness by being miserable throughout it all. You should be celebrating his good times rather than trying to drag him down to your level.

You Flirt With Other Guys

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Frankie Cordoba

Perhaps you just want to feel desired, or maybe you’re trying to make him jealous every once in a while. At best, it’s manipulative and vain; at worst, it borders on cheating.

You’re Not Appreciative

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Hemk Mul

Even when your boyfriend puts in his best effort to do something for you, you find something to complain about it. You never go out of your way to say thank you or praise him, but he needs to feel appreciated too.

You Purposely Appear Single On Social Media

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Photo Credit: Robert Alexander / Getty Images

While you might insist that social media isn’t that much of a big deal or that your relationship shouldn’t be online, there’s still something wrong about continuously refusing to post pictures of your boyfriend or actively trying to look single online.

You Don’t Say What You Mean

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Andrea Piacquadio

You tell him certain things hoping he’ll read your mind and figure out what you want—you say that you don’t want flowers but then get mad when he doesn’t surprise you with them anyway.

You Think You’re A Princess

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Alice Alinari

Listen up: you are not a princess and you don’t deserve to be treated like one. You shouldn’t treat your boyfriend like a servant who’s supposed to get you everything you want and pamper you 24/7.

You Play The Victim In Most Situations

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Anthony Tran

You find a way to turn situations around so that you’re the victim, even if you’re in the wrong. At the end of a fight, you’re the “right one” and he’s left apologizing every time.

You’re Selfish In Bed

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Romina Farias

During bed activities, much like other things in a relationship, one person shouldn’t be expected to do all the work. You should try to take the lead sometimes rather than always assuming he will.

You Hold Him To Different Standards

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / JD Mason

It’s okay for you to have exes on social media still, but you get angry with him when he does the same. You shouldn’t be holding your boyfriend to standards you don’t even follow.

You’re Always Angry With Him

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Craig Adderley

More often than not, you’re in a bad mood and you go out of your way to make him feel like it’s his fault. It’s natural to have your off-days and annoyances, but they shouldn’t be constant.

You’re Too Controlling

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Artyom Kim

You want to choose what your boyfriend wears, who he hangs out with, and always choose what you’re going to eat for dinner. You shouldn’t try to be controlling your boyfriend’s life and choices.

You Bring Your Friends Into The Middle Of Your Relationship

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Photo Credit: Pexels / ELEVATE

Naturally, you want to talk through relationship problems with your friends. However, you shouldn’t be taking your friend’s thoughts and opinions about your relationship at face value without trying to talk things through with your boyfriend.

You Constantly Take More Than You Give

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Photo Credit: Unsplash / Elena Mozhvilo

Take time to think about it critically: are you constantly taking his time, emotional energy, and money? Does he end up giving you more than you ever return to him? If you catch yourself being a “taker” all the time, you’re likely a bad girlfriend.

You’ve Cheated

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Pixabay

This should go without saying, but cheating on a boyfriend, regardless of the situation or state of your relationship at that time, makes you a bad girlfriend. Even if you’re in the worst fight of your relationship, you shouldn’t break your boyfriend’s trust like that.

You’re Not Invested

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Photo Credit: Pexels / RF Studio

When it comes down to it, he’s way more invested than you are in the relationship. You clearly don’t care as much as he does and you don’t reciprocate his efforts. It’s unfair to keep him in a relationship you’re not fully invested in, and you should either go all-in or let him go.