People On TikTok Can’t Stop Talking About Manifesting Their Love Life, But What Does That Actually Mean?

Manifestation has become a super popular concept on TikTok lately, especially when it comes to manifesting your love life.

Although manifestation is being talked about more and more, it’s not actually a new concept. Let’s learn a little bit more about manifestation and how it can impact your personal life, including your love life.

So, What Is Manifestation?

“Manifesting” is the practice of thinking aspirational thoughts with the purpose of making them real.

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Manifesting is about turning your dreams and desires into reality, and this latest internet wellness craze partly consists of thinking your way to a better life.

The Law Of Attraction

The process of manifestation is built upon the Law of Attraction, which basically means that every movement you perform and everything you think about creates a tiny magnetic field around it. This makes YOU a massive energetic center in the universe.

If you think about something that you want to happen or a personal goal, you are attracting the energy of that particular emotion or feeling toward you.

Is There Evidence For Manifestation?

According to Srinivasan Pillay, founder and CEO of NeuroBusiness Group, one of the most convincing pieces of evidence of the Law of Attraction has been the discovery of “mirror neurons.”

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Think for a moment about how amazing it feels to watch a high-speed car chase or someone doing something really brave. Your own brain sets up a simulation as though you are actually doing these things.

Still Not Sure About It?

Research by Dr. Carol Dweck shows that believing you can do something makes it more likely that you’ll successfully do it.

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That means that our beliefs about our ability to learn, grow, and succeed—our growth mindset—can indeed affect whether we effectively manifest what we desire. Our beliefs bring about behaviors (and responses from others) that lead to the outcomes we desire.

How To Manifest Your Love Life

If you want to try to manifest an incredible relationship for yourself, then you have to believe you can have an incredible relationship, and you must align your energy toward making it happen.

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Think about who you want to be with and what you want the relationship to feel like. Open yourself up to the possibility of meeting new people.

So, What Are The Rules Of Manifestation? (Or Lack Thereof?)

One great thing about manifestation is that you can go about it however you choose.

Manifestation is all about channeling energy and focusing on your goals, and there are so many different tips and tricks to do this.

Just Think About It

Even though the rules of manifestation are not fully agreed upon, it’s about the Law of Attraction, and the first step is to be clear about your goals and what exactly you wish to manifest.

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So, what’s YOUR goal when it comes to your love life?

The Scripting Method

You can write a letter to the universe, but some say the proper method is to write down your goal in one sentence 33 times for three days, then finish it with “all this manifests and better,” just in case the universe decides to send even more than what you asked for.

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You may also know the 369 method, where you write down what you want three times in the morning, six times in the afternoon, and nine times at night for 33 or 45 days.

Asking For What You Want

Once you’ve pinpointed exactly what you currently want in life, you need to ask the universe for it. Even repeating your goals to yourself every day in the morning can help you find the motivation and energy to achieve them.


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This can be done in a variety of ways, including writing your intentions down, meditation, visualization, speaking your intentions out loud, or even a vision board. All of these methods help you put your wants and desires into focus.

Loving Yourself

Many people believe that loving yourself is the number one part of manifesting your love life, and also the hardest part. By feeling more self-love, you connect to the most potent attractive force there is.

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Asking someone to love themselves on demand is impossible, but self-love is simply feeling and acknowledging the essence of love that lives within you.

Taking A Form Of Action

According to motivational speaker Gabrielle Bernstein, manifesting is also known as co-creating because it’s a collaboration between you and the universe.

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Manifestation works best when you take small steps to achieve your goals.

Positivity Is Key

A general good piece of life advice is to have a positive attitude as much as possible. This can be hard, and it is sometimes easier said than done, but if you want good things to happen to you, having a positive outlook on life really does help.


The universe doesn’t understand words like no, don’t, never, etc. always affirm with the positive #manifestation #tiktokpartner #learnontiktok

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When it comes to manifestation, be positive! Don’t use words like “no” or “never.” Belief in yourself and in your goals really does matter.