Ever Wondered Why Attractive People Are Always Single?
What do you call someone who is aesthetically pleasing or beautiful? By definition, the answer is physically attractive.
There are many misconceptions out there regarding those considered more desirable strictly based on the genetics they had no part in choosing (or they paged Dr. Jackson Avery).
Whatever the case, doesn't it seem odd that many of those in that category are single? If they're the belle of the ball, why isn't anyone with them? Well, we've solved that mystery.
Crushes A Lot
Let's get this one out of the way. If many others think you're good looking, you're probably going to have a phone filled with numbers depending on your moral compass or lack thereof.
More Money
Whether you're a man or woman, you can relate to this. Paying for your significant other when you go out to eat, renting from Redbox, buying a movie ticket, and more can all add up! Why not spend that extra money on yourself? With all the attention they get, attractive people may have just decided playing the field is not worth the expense.
No One Holding You Back
If one of your close friends decides that you and everyone else needs to go out and have fun, there isn't anyone stopping you. Canceling dates while single is much easier than bailing on one with your girlfriend or boyfriend.
Focused On A Hobby
Sometimes, a hobby can get the best of you in more ways than one, and that includes consuming your time. It's usually nothing personal, but the hobby takes precedence over a relationship.
Personal Growth Is A Thing
If you aren't ready for a relationship, it doesn't matter how attractive you look. Getting into a situation where your mental health isn't all the way there can be detrimental, so it's best to work on yourself before appeasing others who want to pursue you.
Past Relationship Damage
Having luggage from past relationships is a real hassle. Until you overcome it, you put yourself and potential partner at risk of further damage. The best thing to do here is to heal first, because attraction can only take you so far.
Nothing To Worry About
When you're single, you don't have to worry about your partner sleeping with others. Sometimes, people only want you for your looks, which makes you expendable. Nobody deserves to worry while in a relationship.
Dealing With Others' Emotions
Being in a relationship means leaving the door open to potentially having to deal with their past or current traumas. No level of attraction will numb emotions well enough to make you forget them.
Maybe They're An Introvert
Introversion isn't something to take lightly. Approaching anyone or having people come up to you is a scary idea for some. Even being around anyone new can instill some discomfort. If the confidence isn't all the way there as an introvert, looks won't be enough.
Recent Breakup
Chances are high that someone attractive can get into as many relationships as they wish. That leaves the possibility that they've recently gotten out of one as well. If they're single due to that, it might be a while before they're back on the market.
Too Choosy For Their Own Good
We understand you need to have standards, but don't set them so high that you miss out on everything. Even when someone might be a fantastic match, if they didn't "graduate from college in four years," then it won't happen.
A Giant Goofball
Being socially awkward or a giant goofball can prevent anyone from getting into a relationship. It's a trait that tricks many into thinking they aren't adequate for someone, no matter how harmless and silly their goofball-ness is.
Focused On A Career
Focusing on your career can be a beautiful and ugly battle. It's also very draining and time-consuming if you're determined. This leaves little to no time left for a significant other.
Can't Keep A Person
Yeah, you're good looking, but can you keep up a conversation? Are you aware of your environment and what's going on in the world in some capacity? Those biceps might get you some looks, but can you keep them interested in the long-run?
The Confidence Isn't There
No matter how many likes on Instagram, compliments from family, and self-help books you get, if the confidence isn't there, neither is a relationship. Like a deepening odor, people can sense low self-esteem, and it deducts all of your physical attraction.
Something Called An Unfavorable Personality
Being moody, obnoxious, snarky, sarcastic, or any combination of the former won't always be tolerable. If it's at a point of no return, no one wants to commit to those nagging traits.
No Wasted Time
Unfortunately, many embark on a journey which reaps no fruit. Getting into an extended relationship only to have it fail is tremendously heartbreaking, and you can't get that time back.
Insecurities Take Over
If you're insecure, no matter your looks, you're going to get in the way of yourself nine times out of 10. Getting past that issue will solve so many problems.
Can't Get Over An Ex
If your ex was the best you ever had, it might take some time to get over him or her. For some, it takes weeks, but for others, it could go on for years.
Simply Not Interested
There's so much world out there, why waste time in a relationship? You can do so much, and being with someone might slow you down more than you would like.
Their Looks Don't Match Their Lifestyle
People often associate good looks with success, so if an attractive person has an average job, it can seem like a disconnect, and suddenly they're not as attractive, even though they haven't physically changed.
Unrealistic Expectations
Relating to their lifestyle not matching their looks, people might attach certain expectations to someone that is better-than-average looking, and they are left disappointed when they find out that the new guy they're talking to isn't actually Prince Charming, just a regular human being like the rest of us.
People Assume You're Taken
There's an assumption that anyone who is good looking must already be in a relationship because of that, so you don't even bother putting in the effort with them, assuming you'll just be shot down.
They're Only Wanted For One Night
A lot of people approach a beautiful person because they're interested in a physical relationship, but they never make the effort to push it further than that or get to know them. Things never progress to the relationship stage.
Wary Of Someone's Motivations
Good looking people might be warier of someone's motivations or reasons to want to get to know them because people before have used them for just their looks, and they don't want to expose themselves to that again.
Even Experts Have Weighed
If you don't want to listen to us tell you all about how difficult it is to be an attractive person in today's society, there are experts who have weighed in on it too.
Harvard Has Decided It's Tough To Be Attractive
Social psychologists at Harvard found in a recent study that it's not difficult to find a partner when you're attractive, but they're less likely to maintain a long-term relationship than someone who isn't as attractive.
The Connection Between Beauty & Breakups
The study found that attractiveness gives you more options for potential partners, but the problem is those options don't go away once you're in a relationship. It's harder to protect your current relationship from "outside threats" when you're attractive.
There Is Such A Thing As Too Many Choices
The results of the study determined that having too many choices is likely not going to be beneficial for making a relationship last. The researchers also determined that if an attractive person wants to be truly happy in a relationship, they have to make sure they're not just relying on their own appeal.
So Basically, Everyone's Got Their Issues
Where does this leave us? That's hard to say. Basically, what you can take away from this is that yes, in some ways, being extremely handsome or classically beautiful would make your life easier, but it's not all butterflies and rainbows.
People Are Afraid To Approach You First
If you’re an attractive person, then it’s a safe bet that people are probably too afraid to approach you. They think that you’d never be interested in them, or they assume that you’re probably taken.
If people think you’re out of their league, they’re not going to approach you.
People Might Think You’re “Marriage Material”
You have a great job, good friends, cool hobbies, a place of your own, and you’re attractive. That all sounds like you’d be a great partner, right? Well, yes, but that might work against you.
If someone sees you as marriage material, they might be hesitant to be with you if they’re not ready to settle down. You’re the kind of person they date later, not now.
You Give Off A “Not Looking For Anything” Vibe
Sometimes being confident means that you come off as unapproachable. If people think that you’re not looking for anything, then no one is going to come up to talk to you.
It sucks that that’s the case, especially because people keep talking about how they want to date a confident person, but here we are.
You’re Not Putting Yourself Out There Enough
It might be nice to think that you’re going to meet your true love out there in the world, but as time passes, that becomes more and more unrealistic.
Are you doing your best to find someone? Have you tried Bumble or Tinder? Do you go to places with meeting someone in mind? You have to put yourself out there.
People Think You Look Like You Know How To Reject Someone
It’s common to think that attractive people are also going to be mean. Someone can’t be pretty and nice.
If you’re objectively good-looking, then the general assumption will be that you’re not nice, and you’re a pro at rejecting people.
You’re Not Willing To Change Your Routine
Getting into a serious relationship means that you’re going to have to change your routine. Letting someone new into your life means sacrificing certain things that you might not be ready to give up.
If you’re not willing to compromise and share your time, then that could be the real reason your single.
People Might Think You’re Snobby
If you’re attractive, then people generally think that they’re going to have nothing in common with you. It isn’t fair that we assume that about good-looking people, but we’ve been made to think this is true, especially with the rise of the Influencer.
If people think they have nothing in common with you, what are they going to have to talk to you about?
Maybe You’re Not Attracting The People You Want To Date
Something that everyone deals with while they’re dating is not attracting the kind of people you want to date.
When you’re attractive, you’re going to attract many people, and it very well could be that they’re not the kind of person you want to be with. People always think that attractive people should be with other attractive people, but that might not be the most important thing.
Your Expectations Are Way Too High
There is nothing wrong with having high expectations, but you need to know that compromises need to happen sometimes.
If your expectations are too high, it’s going to make you seem undateable and stuck up.
You Assume People Should Approach You First
Attractive people might assume that other people should approach them first. After all, they’re good-looking, so people should want to talk to them, right?
If you see someone you’re interested in, go up and talk to them! They might never have had the nerve to do it themselves.
