If you’ve survived a toxic relationship, it can be hard to figure out what a truly healthy relationship actually looks and feels like.
There are some things that your partner should do for you without you having to ask. When you find someone who does all of these things simply because they want to, you’ll realize just how enjoyable a relationship can actually be.
They Call Or Text When They Say They Will
If your partner makes a habit of communicating poorly and leaving you hanging, it’s never a good sign.
They should want to check in with you and see how your day or week is going, and you shouldn’t have to wonder why they are avoiding talking to you.
They Take Initiative To See You
Invest your time in somebody who is willing to invest their time in you. If someone is always coming up with reasons to bail on plans, they’re not the one for you.
On the contrary, they should be eager to spend time making memories with you, and asking you to do things is the first way to show it.
They Miss You When You’re Not Around
You should never feel like your partner could “take it or leave it” when it comes to spending time with you.
They should be excited to see you and miss you when you’re apart for a few days.
They Communicate Their Feelings
This is a huge sign of emotional maturity.
If your partner is able to communicate with you when something is bothering them and why, you will have a much healthier relationship because you can work on things together.
They Show You They Care Through Their Actions
Realistically, not a lot of guys are great at explaining their emotions.
Sometimes they may show their love and affection in other ways, such as acts of service or buying you small gifts. These are important manifestations of love as well.
They Genuinely Care When You’re Upset (Even If They Are The Reason)
Knowing that someone is upset and actually caring about it are two different things.
Even if your partner was the one who caused the disagreement, they should be there to support you and help you work through the negative emotions.
They Are Proud Of You And Want To Show You Off
If you notice that the person you’re dating isn’t inviting you to meet any friends, family, or go on any public dates, it’s a major red flag.
You are worth showing off and being proud of and your partner should know that better than anyone.
They Support Your Life Goals
Whatever your life goals or vision of success may be, your partner should be the first person to support and believe in you.
A partner that undermines or belittles your accomplishments is downright toxic and won’t help lift you up.
They Are Willing To Stand Up For You
Choose someone who will always have your back in life when you need it.
They should be willing to stand up beside you when things get a little weird or rocky and stand by you through whatever the situation is, as your teammate.
They Compliment You And Embrace Your Insecurities
Whether you’re dating a guy or a girl, they deserve compliments! And they should also be vocal about the things they love about you.
They can even take it a step further by truly embracing the parts of your body that make you insecure.
They Contribute Good Energy To Your Life
Waking up angry and moody is not the way to start the day. Being with someone who brings you down or has a tendency to be overly negative is not good for your mental health.
That’s why it’s important to choose a partner who brings positive energy into your life and helps you maintain it.
They Are Willing To Make Sacrifices For You
In a perfect world, everything runs smoothly and nobody has to sacrifice anything they want.
But in reality, sometimes compromises must be made and it’s best to have a partner who is willing to shrug off those sacrifices because they know you would be willing to do the same.
They Care About Your Interests
You don’t have to love all the same things and have all the same hobbies as your partner. That would be boring.
But it is nice to be with someone who genuinely makes an effort to learn about your interests.
They Want To Be Around Your Family
If family is important to you, it’s not unreasonable to hope that your partner has the same values.
If they are comfortable being around your family and make an effort to attend family events, they are showing you that they want to be a part of your family life.
They Are Willing To Take The Time To Get To Know You
Figuring out whether your partner has all these qualities is going to take some time, but that’s why it’s worth getting to know someone.
You can decide if it’s a good match based on just how much your partner is willing to give to the relationship.
The Right Person Is Out There
Being single for a while does not have to mean that your standards are too high.
It can be because you’re waiting to find the right person who is willing to see your standards and then go above and beyond them, because that person is out there!