Changes You’ll Notice When You’re Newly Single
Getting out of a relationship comes with a ton of mixed emotions. The central conflict is between wanting to feel free and missing your ex.
It's tough to find a middle ground, and that's why you feel a wave of things during this time. Continue reading to understand what goes through one's mind post-breakup.
Looks Of Pity From Coworkers
Assuming your coworkers know that much about your love life, the moment they find out you and your "forever thing" called it quits, you'll get some looks. They won't be looks that you like or make you feel better.
Either Too Many Or Not Enough Invites Will Come
Your friends will either invite you out too often once you're out of a relationship or not bother you that much. Depending on how you feel, either of these situations can be bad. You don't want to be alone, but you don't want to wreck your liver, either.
Permission To Be A Slob
Whatever your tolerance is for a mess, now is the time to test it. Sure, you'll mope around for some time, but you can also wear sweatpants every day and leave your clothes everywhere free of guilt.
You'll Eat Anything You Want
Your partner was the one who you wanted to look good for, so you would watch your diet. Now, nothing is holding you back from eating bowls of Cookie Crisp all day.
Feeling Like You Can Get With Anyone
That girl from your Intro to Communications class, Ashley from high school, and anyone else you can think of is now an option. That's not a bad thought to have.
Then You Realize You Aren't Attracted To Anyone...
Sigh. It isn't your fault you aren't attracted to anyone. Your last relationship probably desensitized you for a while. You'll recover soon enough, so don't let it get you down so much.
More Alone Time
One thing you'll notice is that you'll have tons more alone time. You can capitalize on this by working out more or focusing on yourself more in general. It should help you feel better in those moments.
You'll Take On Interesting New Hobbies
You never cared a day in your life about photography, but now you have an eye for it. Maybe you might start bowling, who knows? As long as you're aware that this is a growing phase, you'll be fine.
You'll Have A Drunk Night
There will come a night where you don't remember what happened past 9:16 p.m. Don't worry, your friends will fill you in if you're with them. If you're alone...good luck.
You'll Romanticize Your Memories
Soon enough, you'll begin to reimagine what you thought you had with your ex. Remember when we hiked to the waterfall and he kissed me as the water splashed near us? Oh yeah, that didn't happen.
You'll Experience Hate And Fond Memories
One hour, you might think about how cute their smile was, and the next, you're remembering how the toilet seat was always up. It'll be a roller coaster of feelings, and that's for sure.
You'll Become Philosophical
This is when you try to rationalize everything that went down with you and your last boo. You might even start reading books about it, like Why Do Fools Fall In Love?
You Find Out How Terrible Tinder Is
Any of the folks who make Tinder sound like the best app out are probably lying to themselves. It's not fun going from an in-person experience to hoping that someone likes your bio.
Having To Explain You're Okay
You'll have to get over it, but if people care about you, you'll have to repeatedly explain how you're okay. Put on a smile and keep your chin up, pal.
Maybe Now You Can Do That Thing You Couldn't Before
She didn't want you going anywhere near that jump while snowboarding, but before you met her, it was your favorite thing to do. Feel free to do a 180 off of it now—the world is your oyster.
Weird Resentment Towards Happy Couple Moments
You might as well stay away from weddings and your friends in relationships for a while. You might not mind at first, but the kisses and cute compliments will get to you.
Friends Will Become Cliché
Your friends might start saying things you hear in all the movies. "Don't even worry about it, it's their loss!" "There's so many more fish in the sea, keep fishing when you're ready."
Texting With Friends Will Sky-Rocket
You might have texted your friends like this before, but the group chat won't stop going off now. Laughs mixed in with the occasional thought of your ex. Let your friends help take your mind off things.
Your Social Media Presence Will Evolve
If you had a Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, or anything else before you entered the relationship, you probably paid them less attention as things progressed. Now, you're liable to post five times a day.
Unprompted Crying
You're telling people you're okay one moment, then the next moment, you have a stream of tears coming down your face. It's okay, you miss what you once had, and that's how it goes.
