A Guy’s Perspective On Why We Prefer Casual Relationships

Women often blame us men for leading them on and never being able to settle down for something serious. There are two sides to every story and if we choose to stay single or date casually, as long as we’re honest about it, I don’t see what’s wrong with it.

If feelings get caught then we can break it off. If you encounter a man who tells you he can’t commit, perhaps first consider his reasons.

I Already Have Too Much On My Plate

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Photo Credit: Saulo Mohana / Unsplash

I’m not looking for anything serious because I just don’t have time to nurture it and grow it in the way it deserves.

Would you buy a plant if you were never able to be home to water it? Assuming your answer is an obvious no, then why do that to a person?

I Come From Divorced Parents

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My idea of love has been tainted. I have seen the consequences of a failed marriage and I don’t think it’s worth it.

I have nothing against others doing it, but it’s just not a risk I personally want to take when I have other options.

I Have Been Cheated On

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Photo Credit: Adrian Swancar / Unsplash

It’s not like I’ve never tried to be in a serious relationship. I’ve been there, I’ve done that, and got my heart broken in the process.

I worked too hard to mend the pieces back together and I can’t stand the thought of having to do that over again.

I Plan To Move

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I have no plans of staying at my geographical location forever. I can’t make someone else move for me, especially if we don’t have a lot of time to build that foundation first.

I would rather take care of what I want first without worrying about how it affects another person.

I’m Too Invested In My Career

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I’m an entrepreneur and I work a lot. This takes time away from relationships and women end up resenting me for it, so really a casual relationship is for their sake.

Women will tell me that they’re okay with it at first, but it always turns into a fight where they feel neglected.

I Need The Release

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Photo Credit: we vibe wow tech / Unsplash

This might sound selfish but I’m human and I crave affection and long for contact with others.

I don’t mean just a physical release, I look for a way to fill the void of intimate human connection even if I don’t want it with the same person forever.

I’m Afraid Of Being Stuck

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Life already puts us in so many boxes. I live in a box in a building, I am bound to give at least eight hours of my life every single day to a job, and I have to abide by a bunch of rules, laws, and regulations.

It doesn’t feel like there’s a lot of space left for even more boxes, like the ones of a relationship.

I’m Interested In More Than One Woman

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Photo Credit: Jeremy Banks / Unsplash

I know how this sounds but I truly connect with more than one woman. I don’t understand why I have to limit myself to one connection without exploring how far the other one can go.

I understand that not all women will be on board, however.

It’s Harder And Harder To Get To Know A Woman These Days

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It seems hard to get to know a woman nowadays. It seems like every woman has her DMs flooded with messages and I don’t even know how to compete.

I have a hard time breaking down her walls to always “prove” that I’m not like all the other guys.

I’ve Already Gone Through One Divorce

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Photo Credit: Matheus Ferrero / Unsplash

Did I mention that I happened to already be married when I was cheated on? I made an exception despite seeing my parents’ divorce and yet I suffered the same ending anyway.

I’m not saying that everyone will do the same thing to me, but I also don’t want to find out.

It’s Less Effort

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Photo Credit: Tiraya Adam / Unsplash

I don’t expect a woman to lower her standards for me but I don’t have the energy to climb mountains for anyone anymore. I barely have the energy to get through my day.

Instead of taking the easy way out, I choose casual relationships because they take a lot less time and energy.

I Don’t Actually Know What I Want

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Photo Credit: Austin Distel / Unsplash

The truth is I don’t even know what I’m looking for and I don’t know if I would recognize it if it hit me in the face.

It wouldn’t be fair to be with someone without finding that out first because what happens if I realize they’re not it?

It’s Better Than Playing Games

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Photo Credit: Freestocks / Unsplash

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I find that casual relationships hold a lot more honesty.

I make the other person aware of my intentions, I tell her about hooking up with others, I tell her when I need space, and since there are no expectations, I’m not afraid of how she’ll react.

I Value My Freedom

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I can’t spend every day worrying about how every single one of my thoughts, actions, and decisions impacts another person.

If I want to pack up and go one day, I need to be able to do that without having to ask for permission. If I make a mistake, I want to only have myself to blame.

I Want To Experience As Much Of Life As Possible

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Photo Credit: Farsai Chaikulngamdee / Unsplash

Every new person I meet brings a new experience, teaches me something new, and brings out a new side of me.

Life is short, and I want to be able to live it fully every day.

I’m Honestly Just Lazy

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Photo Credit: Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels

Some days I don’t actually have a good reason why I prefer casual relationships other than that I’m lazy.

A casual relationship is good enough for me. I’m pretty low-maintenance and this allows me to live worry-free.