No relationship is perfect and every couple will go through some ups and downs at some point over the course of their time together.
Dating someone with anger issues can make minor bumps in the road feel like cliffs that need to be navigated.
Anger Issues Are Not Uncommon But Can Be Hard To Deal With
Anger issues can stem from a number of things including a traumatic childhood, past abusive relationships, and bad familial relationships.
Whatever the reason, dating someone with anger problems can cause complications that often escalate.
The Signs May Not Be Overly Obvious At First
The signs that someone could have anger problems may only start to surface weeks or months into a relationship.
Usually, a partner will reveal this behavior at the first big fight, disagreement, or inconvenience that arises.
People With Anger Problems May Have A Habitual Way Of Showing Them
Angry people may have habitual ways of expressing it, especially if it’s a response to dealing with uncomfortable emotions.
When these emotions arise, they may choose to leave the room, put in headphones, shut you out, or have a knee-jerk reaction and say something rude.
They Use Cheap Insults And Speak Condescendingly
If a disagreement or discussion arises that makes them uncomfortable, they may resort to trying cheap insults and a condescending tone to try to put you down.
Insulting is never a valid form of communication and it’s certainly not productive or healthy.
They Gaslight You And Make It Seem As Though You Are Always Overreacting
Some people with anger issues have become skilled at making other people—especially their partners—feel like they are the one being irrational during a fight.
It makes it easier for them to excuse their own behavior by pinning the blame on someone else.
They Are Reactive To Strangers And During Tense Situations
Anger issues may manifest in situations that have nothing to do with your relationship, but they are important to pay attention to.
For instance, a person with anger issues can easily become triggered by incidents that cause could cause road rage or verbal disagreements with strangers.
They Have A Bad Attitude When Losing Any Type Of Competition
Another example of this behavior is when a person gets physically aggressive either during or after losing a game or sport.
Friendly competition is supposed to be friendly. If your partner can’t keep their cool when they lose something as simple as cards, a video game, or a sports match, imagine how they will react to a more serious problem.
They Tell You They Don’t Trust You And Constantly Bring It Up
Lack of trust is not a sign of anger, but it can spiral into aggressive behavior if your partner pushes things too far.
They will be pushy, reactive, and want to know who you’re texting or following on social media. It’s never a good sign if they freak out over hypothetical situations.
They Won’t Apologize After A Heated Incident
Outbursts are going to happen now and then, we’re all human after all.
But if your partner has regular freakouts and then they are either overly apologetic or never acknowledge their outbursts at all, it’s definitely a red flag.
They Don’t Take Responsibility For Things That Happened While They Were Angry
During an outburst, a person with anger issues may lash out and take it out on things around them.
Sometimes things get broken or trashed, being thrown around or punched, but they rarely will acknowledge their behavior was a problem after they have cooled down. It becomes a cycle.