10 Reasons You’re Single Even Though You’re A Catch
Everyone who's single has thought at some point "what is wrong with me?" but the answer is nothing! Being single always has such a negative connotation attached but it doesn't have to.
Everyone is at a different stage in their life and if they're single, so what? There are plenty of reasons you're single even though you're a great catch. Here are 10 of them.
Being Single Has Nothing To Do With Your Worth
It's easy to get caught up in expectations when everyone around you is getting into serious relationships and every movie you watch ends with some guy winning some girl. I
n reality there is much more to life than relationships and there's no point giving up your single status until it's for the right person and the right reasons. Which of these reasons apply to you?
You're Not The Kind Of Gal To Settle
Some people settle for any guy who's willing to give them a shred of attention, but not you. You're not worried about running out of time because you want to find something real. You know your dream partner is out there, so why settle for anything less?
You Don't Need Validation From Anyone Other Than Yourself
Another great reason you're single even though you're a catch is that you don't need someone to validate you.
Sometimes, you might think it'd be nice to have a partner in crime, but you definitely don't spend all your spare time pining for them. You're too busy living your life and don't let it revolve around finding someone.
You're Too Busy Doing You
Who has time for a boyfriend or girlfriend when you're too busy living your life? You have trips to take, people to meet, projects to tackle, and you have a goal to go to 30 countries before you turn 30. Your schedule is pretty packed.
You're Making Your Way Up In Your Career
Single boss babes are too focused on a career to worry about finding a partner. You love what you do and you're good at it.
That's worth being proud of, so don't worry about being single while doing it. Look at any of Ariana Grande's latest songs—being successful is key.
You're A Social Butterfly
Being single has never been an issue because you have great friends that distract you. Relationships are great and all, but a great group of friends is on a whole other level. Plus it takes up enough of your time that you don't feel like you're missing out on anything.
Your Confidence Can Be Intimidating
You're a great catch, which means you must have a ton of awesome confidence. Having a lot of confidence can be intimidating to others. You're so sure of how awesome you are that it can be scary for some people to meet your standards or give out that same energy.
You Put Yourself First
Being single means being able to focus on yourself first. Before you worry about anyone else, you need to know who you are, what you want, and what direction you're going in.
It's not fair to offer only half of yourself to someone when you're still not completely whole.
You Don't Have Enough Hours In A Day
Between a social life, work, and living a healthy lifestyle, when are you supposed to meet people?
You barely had time to eat lunch today, let alone set up an online dating profile. Don't even get us started on how much time and energy is needed to even find a half-decent person on those apps. Who has time for that?
You Love The Single Life Too Much To Give It Up
If you're a great catch and you're still single, there's probably one main reason for it: you're too in love with the single life.
When your life is going so well and you're having so much fun, it's hard to want to bring someone else into the mix and have to start catering to them and limiting yourself.
You're Simply Not Ready Yet
The biggest reason for being single when you're such an awesome person is that you're just not ready.
Why push something you're not 100% about yet? There's no rush, and there's plenty of living to enjoy before committing yourself to someone else.
Your Guard Is Up
You've lost faith in decent partners and healthy relationships. Past experiences have put you on defense, you'd rather protect yourself than risk another heartbreak.
Except now your walls are stronger than the Great Wall of China and you're not allowing anyone to actually break through them. You keep writing people off too easily.
You're Going After The Wrong People
We all have our baggage, which has nothing to do with how much of a catch you are depending on how you deal with it.
Often, we look for partners who we think can help us through some of our unresolved issues, completely subconsciously. For example, if you fear intimacy, you might be attracted to someone who's emotionally unavailable.
You're Still Hung Up On Your Ex
You might not even realize it until you think about it. Even if you don't think about your ex 24/7, you might be comparing new dates to his patterns and behaviors, you may still be holding on to memories, or you have may have some deeply buried hope that you'll reunite.
On the other hand, you might just still be working through the hurt they caused you.
You're Too Picky
You should congratulate yourself for having standards and not settling. However, you need to make sure that your standards are attainable and malleable.
You might meet someone who doesn't exactly check off every item on your list but who can still surprise you in their own way.
You Hold Yourself Too Highly
Believe it or not, having too high self-esteem can itself become a problem. You may start to think that no one is good enough to be with you.
You might not even realize it, but there's a balance to everything.
You Don't Put Yourself Out There
Even if you simply have the intention of meeting someone, it won't magically happen until you put in the effort to pursue it.
You need to allow yourself to be in situations and places where you get the opportunity to meet new people who might attract you.
You're Under Too Much Pressure
If your friends and family are constantly pushing you to get into a relationship and always ask you why you're not in one, they may be driving the opposite result.
The constant pressure can lead you to overthink and disregard yourself and love altogether.
The Timing Simply Hasn't Worked Out
It's not anyone's fault, but sometimes, the right place and the right time just take a little longer to coincide for some people.
That doesn't mean they're any less deserving, but only that this path in their lives starts at a different point.
You're Not Ready To Share
You've worked so hard for the life that you've built, including your home, routine, finances, and lifestyle. It's hard to imagine finding someone who could add to it, complement it, and yet not disturb it.
Reassure yourself by remembering that it'll be easy to adapt to the right person, and you'll be able to share equally while building even more together.
