What Are Beta Males And Why Are Women Choosing Them Now?

You've heard of alpha males, but are you familiar with betas? They're the ones who don't break your heart and that you can actually settle down with. Nice guys, if you will.

There's a reason that more and more women are trading in the bad boys of their past for these gentlemen. Let us share some of those reasons with you.

Beta Vs. Alpha

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Forget about men who spend their every waking minute at the gym only for their arms to look like clouds while their legs look like sticks.

Instead, beta males have a more holistic approach toward life and are careful in how they carry themselves. Instead of impulsively texting you for a one-night stand, they plan dates.

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The New Age Of Dating

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Tinder may have brought on a hook-up culture, but already since then, even dating apps have started to be used for more serious relationships.

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Bad boys don't work for women anymore, and women are looking for men who can actually be emotionally available and respect them.

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There's Still Some Stigma

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Unfortunately, when some people hear the word "beta" they sometimes think it means weakness.

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"My old roommate was the definition of toxic masculinity. He told his parents the other night that all other guys who go to the gym are 'betas,' while he is a 'biological alpha' and then proceeded to make fun of out-of-shape people at the gym." —Billiesoceaneyes / Reddit

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They're Not Selfish In Bed

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A beta male's sole intention in bed isn't to show off or to be selfish. Instead, he is careful and wants to make sure that you are comfortable and happy.

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He doesn't try to get you drunk to take you home. Instead, he actually asks what is okay and what you would rather do.

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They're In Tune With Their Emotions

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Alpha males have emotions but they think that they need to shove them down in order to be "manly."

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Beta males acknowledge that feelings are normal, and even human. They are willing to work on themselves and try their best to communicate and be upfront.

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They Don't Feel Threatened

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While social media often pushes us to rely on external validation to feed our egos, beta males find security within themselves.

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They're comfortable with who they are and where they're at in life, but that doesn't mean that they're not open to challenges without feeling threatened.

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They May Be Quiet But They're Confident

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Beta males are quiet yet confident

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Don't think beta men are boring. They may be introverts but they're interesting to the core and once they dabble in a conversation, they're quite confident in how they carry it forward.

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They're Your Knight In Shining Armor

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Beta males have a protective instinct, and they genuinely want to look out for your best interests.

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They're not necessarily comfortable with being in the spotlight, but they won't shy away from it if it means protecting you in the process.

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They're Interested In More Than Themselves

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Alpha males put so much of their lives into seeking validation from others, so they try to be charismatic or good-looking.

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The beta male is instead complimented for his charm, good looks, and charisma. A beta male spends his life establishing a foundation of interesting hobbies and creative activities.

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They Appreciate The Little Things

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Beta males are emotionally in tune enough to recognize when you've gone out of your way to do something nice for them.

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This means that your relationship dynamics tend to be equal and they tend to give as much as they take

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Commitment Doesn't Make Them Run

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If we had to vote on the number one issue we have with men, it's their inability to commit to a relationship. With a beta male, you have no reason to worry about them texting their ex or leaving you for another woman.

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They'll always be honest about where they stand and open to the idea of finding a partner to share their life with.

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They Actively Try To Respect Women

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There has been a movement lately where men have been trying to understand women's experiences more in order to respect them more and give them a better life experience.

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Beta males pay attention to these movements and usually always give priority to respect.

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Beta Males Don't Need To Always Go Out

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Beta males are more often homebodies than big partiers. You never have to worry that they're still holding onto their frat boy ways.

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They make for great Netflix buddies and they might even let you get away with a rom-com here and there.

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They Make Great Fathers

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Beta males make for great models as husbands and fathers. They want their kids to learn how to respect women and break barriers of toxic masculinity.

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If they lead by example, their kids will grow up to be just as confident and respectful as they are.

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He Doesn't Try To Control You

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Beta males actually factor in your opinion. They let you make your needs heard.

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In fact, sometimes you might have to pressure them into telling you what they want too because they're consistently prioritizing your wants over theirs.

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What Do Beta Men Want?

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A beta falls for a woman because of how she makes him feel about himself.

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They're not simply trying to fill a void, but genuinely have a craving for companionship that complements and fits into their lifestyle. You can count on them to have the right intentions.