Guys Share The Exact Moment They Knew Their Crush Wasn’t Into Them

Navigating the world of feelings is a tough thing to do. It’s hard to know how you feel a lot of the time, let alone how someone might feel about you. Is the feeling mutual, or are you out there on a limb all by yourself just waiting to be let down?

If you’re lucky, there are some telltale signs that might let you know how someone is feeling about you…if you pay attention.

Girl, That’s Just Rude

Guy took a girl out for dinner and then drinks. She found her friends and ditched him for her.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / GitchigumiMiguel74

Did she just forget that he was there and had paid for her meal literally 20 minutes earlier? He probably dodged a bullet if she’s going to be someone who can be that flakey.

Just Cut Right To The Chase

Post: I asked her out. She said
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Photo Credit: Reddit / supacal

While she did just come out and make it clear how she felt, she could have done it a little bit nicer than saying “ew.” That just seems just a little bit harsh.

This Kind Of Person Is The Worst

Post: She really only talked to me when she needed something.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / maznshortie1

I don’t know about you, but I can’t stand people who use other people like that. Maybe they don’t know that they’re doing it, but it just seems unnecessarily cruel.

She Just Needs A Man’s Opinion

Post: Went to her apartment. Then I helped her with tinder.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / _Manalishi_

To be fair, she could have just been oblivious to his feelings and thought that he was just being nice to her. You can’t expect someone to read your mind!

That’s A Pretty Sure Sign

Post: When she used to give everyone hugs but only ever offered me a high five.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / ILiveInAVillage

A high five on its own is such a bummer, but the fact that you’d be the only one getting it after everyone else got a hug…? That’s like putting salt in the wound.

What Happened To Letting Someone Down Gently?

Post: When I expressed interest and she recoiled in horror and told me I was embarrassing her.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / parsons525

OK, it doesn’t make it better, but maybe she just wasn’t aware that she was doing that. It could have been like a deep-seated reaction to the situation. Does that make it worse?

How Exactly Did That Go Down?

Post: I went out to a restaurant / bar with four buddies. Some ladies sent over a round of drinks. To my four buddies.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / spiff2268

Did she really walk up to the bartender and say, “Hey, can you send drinks over to those four guys that are sitting with whatever that thing is over there?”

A Classic Bummer Situation

girl asked a guy who liked her if his friend is into anyone
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Cl0udSurfer

The age-old tale of the one you have a crush on crushing on someone who is not you. No, not only is it not you, it’s someone that you consider a friend.

Work Friends ONLY

Post: Gave a girl at work my number on a piece of paper and she handed it right back and said,
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Askafishy

I’m willing to bet that after this went down, there wasn’t a lot of talking at work for these two. It would just kind of kill the friendship, I’m betting. Am I wrong?

“Sorry, I Can’t”

Post: Asked a girl if she wanted to grab lunch together sometime. She said she was busy that day which was interesting as I never specified a day.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / docju

She could have at least waited until he gave her a day to say that she was busy. That would have been the more polite thing to do. You’ve got to let him down easy.

“Oops, Sorry”

Post: We set up a date. She stood me up. When I asked her, she simply said she forgot.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / abaabul_bulsho

How do you forget that you have a date set up with someone? This certainly is a big sign to that person that their crush didn’t find them memorable.

She’s Made A Huge Mistake

girl didn't want to date a guy anymore after she found out that she worked at McDonalds
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Photo Credit: Reddit / dikembebrotumbo

Don’t all girls just love chicken nuggets? Well, this girl could have had unlimited chicken nuggets forever if she hadn’t been so judgmental about this guy. You’re in college! What did she want? For him to be a lawyer already?

…Is It Contagious?

Post: I told them I had feelings for them and they responded with,
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Photo Credit: Reddit / pls-hug-me-im-lonely

Is she, like, dying-dying, or is she just dying in the sense that she thinks it’s so funny she defaulted to the classic girl response to something that was making her laugh?

Well, That’s Not Good, Is It?

Post: Stopped texting first and realized that she never texted me for three days. It was totally one sided.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / kaivan189

I’m not sure that three days is enough to completely write someone off, but I suppose it would depend entirely on how much they talked before that. Still, one-sided relationships are the worst.

OK, I Can Get Behind This One

Post: I asked for her number and she offered to give me her email address instead.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / schnit123

To be fair, if she was just meeting this person for the first time, I don’t think that offering her email address is that bad a thing to do. Maybe she didn’t feel comfortable giving out her number yet.

I Wonder If He Kept It

Post: She gave me a thin paper wristband she has made which said,
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Naistpreora

We all need someone in our lives who is going to give us a paper wristband of friendship, but maybe not the person that you’ve developed feelings for. He probably kept it, though, let’s be real.

This Seems A Bit Extreme

guy left girl at a restaurant because she was on her phone the whole time
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Photo Credit: Reddit / crazygrof

I’m not saying that he’s wrong for being upset that she was on her phone the whole time, but leaving her half-way through the meal and then ignoring her after that seems just mean.

Did He Say “Excuse Me”?

Post: When I accidentally let a fart slip as we got out of the car to her crib and then suddenly had to sleep in the guest room.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / igobydotgatsby

Now, if you’re going to have a long-term relationship with someone, you have to be ready for them to see you at your worst, and that might mean letting a fart slip while getting out of the car.

That’s A Big Word

Post: Someone said that she and I would make a cute couple. She turned up her nose and called me,
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Photo Credit: Reddit / IntrovertedAsexual

That just seems like something she shouldn’t have said about anyone, let alone her friend that she had to have known was into her. No one is that clueless, are they?

Someone Is A Little Full Of Herself

Post: She told me,
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Traveling_Solo

“Of course you’re attracted to me! I’m absolutely stunning and irresistible. You on the other hand are totally out of my league and it’s hilarious to me that you even thought this was a thing!”