While every person in the world has a set of unique experiences, there are a lot of common irritants that we face. As women, we tend to face annoying and/or obnoxious actions from our male friends, family, and coworkers on a regular basis that they don’t do around other men.
These women on Reddit came together to share the most annoying and disrespectful things men in their lives do or say on a regular basis.
Go Away, Idea Leech!
“Repeat what I’ve said back to me but as if they just thought of it.”
It’s even worse, they’ll take your idea, say it a bit louder, and pretend it was entirely their own.
They’re Literally Miniature Labor Contractions
“Write off period cramps as nothing serious. I’m sorry, do you puke because you’re in so much pain on a monthly basis?
“On a further note, my male doctor said it was normal and I finally went to an OBGYN and they found a teratoma on my ovary.”
Some People Just Like To Be Alone
“Thinking I need to have a boyfriend and making it a big deal when I say I prefer being single.”
Throughout history, women who have chosen not to get into relationships or marry have been treated like something is “wrong” with them, and it’s so annoying.
Stop Talking Over Us!
“Cut me off when I’m talking, be it intentional or not. My dad and my friends both do it, and when they see that I’m annoyed, they wait for me to take it back to the start, but… don’t interrupt in the first place.”
Women Know How To Drive
“They give me unsolicited advice about driving and parking even though I’ve been driving a manual car for six years now. I will ask for help if I need it.”
Why Add The “For A Girl”?
“Saying, ‘Oh wow, you’re really good at xyz…for a girl.'”
Can we all collectively agree to stop gendering capabilities? Women play sports. Men are makeup artists. Just say someone is good at something without adding the stupid “for a _____” to the end.
I Will Smile If I Want To
“When I bartended, men were constantly telling me to smile or saying ‘you’re prettier when you smile.’ I would hear that up to 10 times in a single night on the job.”
Do You Guys Hear Yourselves?
“Some of them will trash women and, in the same breath, complain about how women don’t like them.”
I will never forget the time I saw a guy complain that women are shallow because they don’t want to date ugly men and then proceeded to say he’d never date an ugly woman.
It’s Not 1952, Bradley
“They suggest I should have my husband handle it when discussing any home repair or maintenance.”
Maybe this would make sense in the ’50s, when women were pretty much forbidden to use tools, but in the modern era, barely anyone knows how to repair things, regardless of gender.
It Has Big “Sore Loser” Energy
“Get angry when I tell them they’re wrong. A male coworker accidentally used the wrong word to describe something, and a customer was confused. I just casually used the right term and continued the conversation. My coworker was livid with me.”
There’s No Right Way To Be A Woman
“They sometimes criticize me for not being feminine enough… I was raised with only brothers, so I think I kind of walk, talk, sit, and behave like them. Especially when I just try to relax. But apparently, that’s not ladylike enough.”
It’s Pretty Patronizing
“Not every man does that, but a majority of men I’ve encountered questioned when I say something is broken or doesn’t work. They ask if I’m sure that I did everything correct and only after trying themselves do they believe me.”
I’m Right Here
“As a man, I know women don’t like it when they’re asked a question and men answer it for them.”
He’s correct. There’s nothing more irritating than having a partner answer for you as if you aren’t standing right there.
Our Problems Are Valid Even If They’re Different From Yours
“Dismissing our problems is something that annoys me. If you’re a woman, you can’t complain at all about the amount of creepy and sexist dudes on dating apps without men saying they get ignored on Tinder so you should be grateful to even be messaged.”
It’s Okay To Admit You’re Wrong
“Some guys saying things as if they are facts and then when they google it to prove their point and realize they were wrong, they just go silent and drop the subject and hope I forgot about it rather than admitting they were wrong. I did not forget.”
It’s The Selfishness For Me
“Expecting me to want to hear all the details of their lives and give them praise. Meanwhile, they rarely take interest in the parts of my life that aren’t directly connected to theirs, and the praise I get is about my looks rather than any of my other qualities.”
In Summary: Shut Up A Little More Often
“Some act like what they have to say automatically has more value than what I have to say. If we start talking at the same time, you shouldn’t automatically get to be the one who talks first. Don’t interrupt halfway through my sentence to tell me I’m wrong—I haven’t even finished my sentence, and you don’t know where it’s going with it!”
It’s Misogyny, When It Comes Down To It
“If there’s a group movie night with mixed genders there, men will always want to watch a movie that was made for a male audience every time, expecting all the women to just be okay with it but will never watch a movie made for a female audience.”
Take The Time To Really Listen
“This all is literally about women’s experiences, and almost all of the replies are guys explaining that it’s ‘not actually a big deal,’ and ‘why even bring gender into it?’ Shut up and listen.”
Not All Men, But Certainly Many Of Them
“Saying ‘not all men’ when women share their concerns and frustrations. Well, maybe you don’t do it. But a lot of the men I know do. This is a thread asking females to say annoying things that men in their life regularly do.”