Women Share The Moments They Were Ignored Because There Was A Man With Them

If you were to go around and speak to your female friends or the women in your life, chances are most of them would have at least one experience they can recall where they were ignored or overlooked for a man or not taken seriously until they had a man with them.

Women of Reddit decided to share some of their “I am the client, not my husband” moments to show that whether it was in the workplace, at a car dealership, at the doctor’s office, or even in their own home, women can also be the ones who are in charge.

You Come Into My Home?

ignored in own home by handyman who spoke to male friend instead
Photo Credit: Reddit / autumnrenarde
Photo Credit: Reddit / autumnrenarde

That is when we would be promptly asking the joiner to leave the house that we own and we pay for. Take your business to a person who actually speaks to you.

There Are No Girlies Here

female business partner treated badly by customers who think she's just an employee
Photo Credit: Reddit / blondeinsideandout
Photo Credit: Reddit / blondeinsideandout

If someone comes into your business and snaps their fingers at you while asking you to make him a cup of tea, that’s basically him asking for you to dump that hot water onto his lap. It’s fair game.

Oh, You Want To See Hysterical? She’ll Show You Hysterical

doctor won't speak to
Photo Credit: Reddit / TheHitListz
Photo Credit: Reddit / TheHitListz

You might assume that anything to do with the female body, like breastfeeding, for instance, would obviously be something to talk to a woman about, but apparently, you’d be making the wrong assumption.

What If Your Husband Just Left You And Isn’t Coming Home?

woman dealing with roofing company who wanted to talk to her husband
Photo Credit: Reddit / chases_squirrels
Photo Credit: Reddit / chases_squirrels

Who knew that having a husband was now a requirement for getting a roof fixed? I’m learning so much! This woman also quickly learned that that was not the company she was interested in giving her hard-earned money to.

Sometimes Confrontation Is The Only Option

anti-confrontational mom standing up to handyman
Photo Credit: Reddit / Worried-Smile
Photo Credit: Reddit / Worried-Smile

As much as this person’s mother might consider herself to be non-confrontational, sometimes you just need to start a fight. This salesperson seems to have deserved what was coming his way.

Always Talk To Both Clients

lesson learned during internship about speaking to both clients before making decisions
Photo Credit: Reddit / servarus
Photo Credit: Reddit / servarus

Anyone working in a trade or in the service industry or just working with customers in general could probably do well with learning this lesson. When it comes to big financial decisions, it can never hurt to check with both sides of the couple.

Pat Needs To Check Himself

vendor asking
Photo Credit: Reddit / mchia
Photo Credit: Reddit / mchia

“And what does she do here?” Yikes. Note to self: never speak about someone in the room as if they’re not standing right next to me and as if they can’t give me their opinion themselves…

Say Goodbye To That Sale

car salesman ignoring wife even though she's standing right next to husband
Photo Credit: Reddit / Greybeard
Photo Credit: Reddit / Greybeard

“What sort of car would she like?” Gee, I don’t know, why don’t you ask her? She’s standing right next to you, it shouldn’t be terribly complicated to ask the person in question what they want.

He Should Work On His Sales Tactics

salesman rude to woman trying to buy sports car
Photo Credit: Reddit / epi_introvert
Photo Credit: Reddit / epi_introvert

The salesman isn’t necessarily wrong that a lot of couples make financial decisions together, but in terms of his delivery? That’s going to be a big old “F” for execution.

Women Have Wallets Too

money person in relationship
Photo Credit: Reddit / RealCouchwife
Photo Credit: Reddit / RealCouchwife

Women are the ones who often carry the money because we’ve got those handy dandy purses to throw all of our stuff into, like our wallets. The man doesn’t automatically have the money.

Building Those Strong Colleague Relationships

company card paying for lunch waitress assumes it is the man paying
Photo Credit: Reddit / leafypaq
Photo Credit: Reddit / leafypaq

At least the colleague was smart enough to make the right move in this situation. He gets a free lunch and he gets to suck up to his colleague a little bit. It’s a win-win.

But Her Name Is On It Too?!

trying to collect parcel addressed to her but saying husband must be present
Photo Credit: Reddit / CH9791
Photo Credit: Reddit / CH9791

The logic here—or really, lack thereof—is a little bit baffling. A parcel that is addressed to both people should be able to be picked up by either person, shouldn’t it?

There Goes Their Commission

realtor speaking to boyfriend who isn't even buying the house
Photo Credit: Reddit / CybermanCat
Photo Credit: Reddit / CybermanCat

She may have brought along her boyfriend for his opinion and some moral support, but plenty of people bring a friend or companion house hunting even if that person doesn’t have any financial involvement. She still got the house she wanted, so it worked out in the end.

He’s Just The Plus One

husband being treated as supplier even though he's theplus one
Photo Credit: Reddit / celesteb4
Photo Credit: Reddit / celesteb4

A solid answer on the husband’s part, who was purely there to accompany his wife. She’s the one with all the knowledge about what she needs, and the one paying for it. Defer to her.

Please Don’t Make Eye Contact With Me

eye contact with husband while in the home but wife is the one dealing with workers
Photo Credit: Reddit / well_uh_yeah
Photo Credit: Reddit / well_uh_yeah

Leave your gender norms at the door before you step into somebody’s home! Every couple handles tasks or jobs differently and divides the responsibilities in a way that works for them.

Women’s Pain Is Legitimate Too!

chronic pain disease but doctor won't give pain med unless husband or father is there
Photo Credit: Reddit / flagrantgrouch
Photo Credit: Reddit / flagrantgrouch

We’d like to give the medical community the benefit of the doubt and hope that it was just this particular doctor who didn’t take a woman’s pain seriously. We also seriously hope she found herself a new doctor.

But… But… It’s Her Body?

doctor speaking to husband about woman's body after surgery
Photo Credit: Reddit / DundieAwardWinner525
Photo Credit: Reddit / DundieAwardWinner525

Unless her husband also had to undergo surgery to get his appendix removed, it’s hard to see how his comfort level in this situation has anything to do with the question his wife asked about her own body.

It’s Her Treat

boyfriend trying to block waiter from giving him bill so girlfriend can pay
Photo Credit: Reddit / Riodancer
Photo Credit: Reddit / Riodancer

Even after the boyfriend tried his best to not take the bill and not even give the waiter room to leave the bill, he was still somehow left with the check. Clearly, it’s a sign from the universe that he should pay for dinner.

Gender Doesn’t Dictate Knowledge

female mechanic overlooked in car dealer until husband is with her
Photo Credit: Reddit / sj4iy
Photo Credit: Reddit / sj4iy

Are there a lot of women who don’t know all that much about cars? Sure, but there’s also plenty of men who don’t know anything about cars either. Don’t assume someone’s knowledge simply based on their gender.

Didn’t You Know Women Can’t Handle Taxes? Silly Girl

accountant only addressing husband even though wife is the one dealing with finances
Photo Credit: Reddit / _Dandy_
Photo Credit: Reddit / _Dandy_

A general rule of thumb is that you can probably assume whoever the person contacting you is, they’re probably the client you want to address. Why would she make an appointment if she wanted them to only deal with her husband?