People Are Sharing Stories About What It’s Like To Be Friends With An Influencer

It seems that everyone knows an influencer somehow. With TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and Facebook, it’s hard not to know. They’re everywhere, and seeing them in the wild is becoming more and more common.

But what about the people who are “normal” that call them friends? What is it like to be close to someone who lives in their own little world like that? Luckily, someone on Reddit was smart enough to ask, and we have the answers.

The Convenience Of An On-Screen Boyfriend

Reddit Post: I dated one. Not super popular but followers in the 100k range last time we spoke. I remember a lot of getting ignored and only receiving nice gifts/acts of kindness when they could post about it. Asking me to go to nice places (they didn't drive) only to leave me on a bench somewhere while they took pictures. Huge strain on the relationship, especially when they started to get bigger and there was more demand for content.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / 42charlemagne

It’s unfortunate that this person went through that experience. At the start of the relationship, they were probably both happy and had the best of intentions.

But that social media monster likes to sink its claws into whatever it can.

That’s A Big Red Flag Right There

Reddit Post: She hasn't come to anything I’ve invited her to in 5 years because she only goes to events that
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Cirrus-Ramparts

If someone ever said to me that “we are all using each other for something,” it would call into question the entire relationship’s nature from the beginning.

Besides, what would be in this for the friends? Sounds like a bad time.

Every Moment Is Experienced Secondhand

Reddit Post: Friends with a high-profile athlete who is pretty popular on insta.... he is always on the phone... never lives in the moment. If we are doing anything fun? Well, it basically didn't happen unless the world knows about it. It's just annoying ...I can't imagine living for the approval or satisfaction of others.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Neither-Act13551

Let’s get real for a minute. Could you imagine not living in the moment? That all your life experiences would only be experienced when you later watched them on your social media channels?

As Bianca Del Rio would say, “beauty fades; dumb is forever.”

I Promise You, No One Cares

Reddit Post: This was my ex gf. I couldn't eat before she took a dozen pictures. We went hiking and had to turn around less than a mile since she spent an hour taking videos and posting photos. The service connection wasn’t good enough so we went to the trail head. She had to post or else
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Ronachickamonga

This is what gets me about the influencers. This woman literally thought if she didn’t post that, people would think she died or something.

No one cares that much, at least the majority of us anyway. Just admit that this is for your own satisfaction.

Seven Figures? I’m Interested

Reddit Post: Everything is fake. The attitude the mannerisms, everything.It sounds stupid until you realize they clear close to 7 figures a year.One time we vacationed with them and when we were out to dinner they said to us
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Photo Credit: Reddit / dinkleman1231

Let’s break this story down for a moment. These people are mad because their annoying friends vacationed with them in the SOUTH OF FRANCE and posted on social media about it.

The same social media account that made me them seven figures? At a certain point, you just have to respect it.

It’s All Smoke And Mirrors

Reddit Post: One of my best friends dated a really insta-famous guy. He invited us to his house for a Christmas party and this is when I realized how fake social media was. The guy didn't have the car he paraded on social media. He leased it, took several photoshoots with it, then gave it back. His house was in a different city than he claimed. I don’t think it was for security reasons though. He said he lived in a very rich city but his house was in a more modest place. He asked me to send him the videos I took at the party, posted them, and didn’t even tag me because I
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Photo Credit: Reddit / nerdyabout

Yes, just like so many of us had expected, the social media influencer is a faker.

Maybe not all of them. I believe Kylie Jenner is as rich as she says she is. But these people who are just ordinary people like me? I’m not buying it.

This Is Kind Of Sad

Reddit Post: My cousin is a moderately successful instagram model and she absolutely hates it. She hates her fans, finds them all cringey and pathetic, hates the drama and how PC it all is (irl she's very conservative/traditional)Only does it because it's the only way she can make money. She dropped out of school and endorsing products and taking pictures of herself is the only way she knows how to pay rent.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / DME2DMU

There is a dark side to these things. At the time, it probably feels like the greatest thing to happen to you, but the deeper you get, the harder it is to come out.

Maybe she should start being honest with her fans about how annoying they are. Then maybe she’d be less famous.

They Couldn’t Have Shared Their Snacks?

Reddit Post: Sometimes they will buy unhealthy, but 'grammable' food, take photos of them licking it, and then throwing it out.I also have a friend who when overseas will set alarms for like, 3am, to wake up and post their photos from the day at the peak time back home.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / loccyh

This would be dangerous. Think about being woken up at 3 a.m. and how out of it you are.

Would you really trust yourself to post something coherent on your social media accounts at that time? No way.

Maybe They Aren’t Lies To Her

Reddit Post: I was best friends with a now influencer. She's a genuine person but also lies if that makes sense? She very much about empowers women and helping people accept themselves and build their confidence, which is a great platform! However, some of the anecdotes she tells about
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Photo Credit: Reddit / notamonth

How frustrating would it be to see someone who had an easy time going through one of the worst times of anyone’s life talk about how difficult it was for them?

If you didn’t have an awkward, ugly teenage phase, then you haven’t earned the right to cry about it online.

This Is Just Too Much

Reddit Post:  I know a wannabe influencer. She will reply to her own posts from her husband's account praising herself. Then she will reply to those posts as herself thanking him, it's hilarious, like inception for Facebook.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Sydneyfigtree

After a certain amount of time, you would think that people might catch on.

Unless she’s really good at pretending to be her husband…or what if her husband doesn’t even exist?! That would be a plot twist.

The People Deserve To Know

Reddit Post: went to Vegas with my close friend and her cousin a few years back and her cousin was flirty with everyone and made out with a random guy at the club despite being married and supposedly very in love. now her and the husband get millions of likes on their couples tiktok account and it's so lame and phony to me lol. so many people gas them up for being
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Photo Credit: Reddit / hcass-

This is why no one should be envious of another person’s life because it’s probably fake. At least, if you’re basing your opinions on their social media accounts.

Whenever someone comments “goals” on one of their posts, it is one strike against them. How many until they’re out? Stay tuned.

His Social Media Is His Girlfriend

Reddit Post: It's annoying AF. One of my buddies is constantly filming everything we do and posting it. It's to the point where people walk up to me on the street and ask me about him because they've seen me in his posts...I have no idea who they are. It dominates everything he does, and has severely impacted his personal relationships. He can't keep a GF and it's clearly related to this obsession of his. He does occasionally get some cool stuff out of it though.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / S_204

After they approached enough people on the street who didn’t know who he was, you would think that he would stop.

You never know, though. Someday, someone might lie to him and say, “Yeah! OK, I know who you are.” *insert eye roll here*

Dogs Deserve Better Than This

Reddit Post: she got a cute dog who became Instagram famous. Then eventually she took over the dog account and renamed it so it was all about her. She traveled a bunch so the dog bounced around between friends. Last I heard she completely ditched it and left him with her parents. All the while she paid her way into VIP backstage passes for shows and pretended like she was best friends with the artists. Kept social-climbing higher and higher with the help of her ungodly amounts of money due to her startup.
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Photo Credit: Reddit

That dog made her famous, and this is how she repays him? By ditching him at her parents’ place?

They’re probably going to be better parents to that sweet little pup than she ever would be. This person needs to drop names so we can know who we have to go hate.

Yeah, I’ll Go If You Pay For Me

Reddit post: I love her but she has absolutely no sense of real responsibility. everything is a photoshoot or video. She's gorgeous so in every relationship, she’s taken care of. I don’t think she’s ever actually had a job. She’s v like
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Hi_supercute

It’s hard when you love someone who is so out of touch with reality. It causes this tension that wouldn’t otherwise be there.

Of course, the easy solution to this is if all our rich influencer friends would buy us cool stuff. Take pity on me. I’m poor.

Uh…The Food Is Going To Get Cold

Reddit Post: I have a few friends who are small time food influencers (30-50k followers) and eating out with them is a nightmare. I have to wait for them to position the food perfectly and then take photos of every dish from every angle before I can even pick up my cutlery. Sometimes if I'm lucky they’ll involve me in the process and ask me to hold my phone flashlight above a dish.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / HKPea

No one had better stand in front of me and my food, especially if it’s the food I’m paying for in a restaurant.

What kind of spectacle do you think these people make when they go out? Like, we get it, you think you’re famous.

It’s Probably Easy To Lose Touch With Reality

Reddit Post: I know an influencer that literally got herself into debt trying to live up to the role! All for a few free items of clothing that she tries to flog once she's posted a pic in them. Even staged her engagement. So sad.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / AgreeableSherbert369

I can imagine that it becomes so consuming that it’s easy to forget that you’re living in the real world and that no amount of followers is worth your sanity.

Though, I suppose, to some, it is.

The Internet Can Be Very Unforgiving

Reddit Post: They are so stressed. You make one mistake? Career in shambles. You said something years ago that is now considered offensive? There's a significant drop in your revenue. They also have to deal with so much unfounded hate because that’s how the internet is, and it gets to a person.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Invictable1

The cancel culture is real in this world. If you so much as to say something with even a hint of controversy, then you’re as good as done for.

Imagine living with that kind of self-imposed stress?

Sucks About His Marriage, Though

Reddit post: His youtube career has derailed his marriage, if we are hanging out and he is filming it there is A LOT of things to consider and it ruins the activity, but i roll on as i also get free stuff/merch from the sponsors. And i dont mind people asking about him or asking me how is it like to make youtube films. He stopped our channel due to covid and its getting irritating though when people ask when are we continuing with it.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / Karhu_Metsasta

Maybe this is one of those few cases where things turned out alright in the end.

Their marriage may have been on the rocks before he became famous. Who knows. Or maybe she was just sick of playing second fiddle to a YouTube channel.

She Should Have Become Internet Famous For That

Reddit Post:  She wasn't really my friend and I don't think she considers herself an influencer although she had a large following, but it was annoying. She and her friend were constantly trying to block walkways to do their stupid dances. I also tripped and fell while she was recording and she posted it, which is a fun story.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / reallyreallycoolguy6

It isn’t fair that they would capture such an embarrassing moment in her life and post it anyway.

They should have at least tagged her in it so she could be internet famous, too, right?

You Can’t Ruin The Girl’s Aesthetic, Come On

Reddit Post: So incredibly annoying. I actually ended up cutting her off because everything had to be a photo opportunity. We could never just go out to lunch, or see a movie without it turning into a photoshoot. She never did anything with our friend group unless it was 'aesthetic', and even then, she was so focussed on getting us to take photos that a. she didn't get to enjoy the activity, and b. it started bringing everyone else down because they couldn't participate either.
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Photo Credit: Reddit / MutedApricot

Here’s how I imagine that conversation going:

Friend: Hey, want to come over and watch The Bachelorette?

Influencer: Is your life somehow more interesting and aesthetically pleasing than last time?

Friend: No…

Influencer: Sorry! Can’t. xx