Things You Should Remember When You Feel Frustrated About Being Single

Being single can get pretty frustrating pretty quickly. Going on date after date without really connecting with anyone is exhausting. Seeing your friends and family members in relationships while you’re the only single one can be pretty alienating.

All in all, you can just be left feeling pretty annoyed with your lack of a relationship, but here are some things you should remind yourself of whenever you feel that way.

Every Relationship Has Hidden Problems

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Katerina Holmes

Remember that when you see other people’s relationships, whether you’re hanging out with them in public or scrolling through their social media feeds, that there are problems that you don’t see.

Sure, it might look like everything is perfect and happy from the outside, but that is most likely not the case.

You Have More Time To Spend With Friends/Family

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Rachel Claire

When you are in a romantic relationship, you have much more time to focus on the other relationships in your life.

I am personally truly thankful for the times I was single and got to spend time building close friendships with my female friends and going out on the town.

You Don’t Have Anyone Anchoring You To One Place

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Oziel Gómez

Whether you just want to get a change of scenery or you get a new job opportunity in a different city—or even country—it can be a difficult decision to make if you have a significant other who is tied to your current location.

Being single means that it’s easier to pick up your bags and embark on a new chapter.

Relationships Take A Lot Of Time And Effort

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Anastasiya Lobanovskaya

Relationships can be fun and fulfilling, but that doesn’t mean that they’re easy.

Maintaining a romantic relationship takes a lot of effort from both parties and generally takes up a lot of your free time. You have to be ready to make a lot of sacrifices from how your life currently looks in order to make a relationship work.

You Can Focus Your Energy On Your Hobbies And Passions

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Mikhail Nilov

In contrast, when you’re single, you have a lot more time and energy to put towards the things you personally enjoy doing and your own passions.

You have more time to go to the gym, take up a new craft, work on personal creative projects, or put effort into advancing your professional career.

Being In A Relationship Won’t Necessarily Make You Happy

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Photo Credit: Pexels / cottonbro

Sure, many people gain a lot of joy out of their relationships, but that doesn’t mean that being in a relationship will necessarily make you happy.

If you want to be in a relationship because you think it will make your life feel more complete or make you feel happier, that’s not really the truth.

Being Single Helps You Cultivate Your Independence And Self-Reliance

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Myicahel Tamburini

When you’re single, you are able to lean on friends and family. However, for the most part, you’re forced to rely on yourself to manage your own emotional needs and life problems.

In being alone, you’re forced to take charge of your own life and grow to be more independent and self-sufficient.

You Have Full Control Over Your Finances

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Skitterphoto

When you get into a serious relationship that is going long-term, you suddenly need to think about your combined financial situation. You have someone else to think about whenever you want to make a major purchase.

When you’re single, you have full autonomy over your funds and how you spend them—you can choose when to save and when to make big expenditures like buying a car or going on vacation.

You Have The Freedom To Explore Your Sexuality

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Photo Credit: Pexels / cottonbro

As great as it is to have a monogamous, committed partner to get physically intimate with, being single means that you get to do a little more experimenting.

Ultimately, through doing a little more exploring with different partners, you learn what you’re really into (and what you’re not), so that you can make your preferences clear in future endeavors.

You Avoid A Lot Of The Emotional Turmoil That Comes With A Relationship

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Katerina Holmes

Relationships come with a lot of great emotions—joy, passion, love, comfort—but they also can come with a lot of negative emotions that can leave your heart and head feeling pretty messy.

While single, you might not get the joyful parts of a relationship, but you also avoid the turmoil and distress of being cheated on, having a partner mistreat you, and all the fights.

Your Value Isn’t Measured By Your Relationship Status

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Guilherme Almeida

Our society tends to try and make us feel like being single is less than being in a relationship—that it means that you’re not as valuable or desirable—but that really is not true.

You are so much more than your relationship status, and it’s not a reflection of your value as a person.

It’s Better To Be Alone Than To Be With Somone Who Makes You Feel Alone

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Photo Credit: Pexels / Vlada Karpovich

When it comes down to it, a relationship can be great, but only with the right person. Being in a relationship with someone who isn’t a good match for you leaves you feeling more isolated and lonely than ever.

As frustrating as it can feel to be single, just know that your own company is better than the wrong company and that you on your own are a complete, awesome person.