Struggles That Women Who Are Naturally Loud Can Definitely Relate To

Throughout your whole life, you've been told to "quiet down" or "lower your voice" despite the fact that you're just speaking normally. Being loud comes with a few perks, but there are definitely some downsides to existing at a louder volume than most others.

Here are some struggles that naturally loud women can all relate to.

Regularly Being Told To "Keep It Down"

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Wherever you are or whatever the occasion, you'll have someone tell you to "keep it down," as if you're purposely trying to be loud and annoying even though this is your normal volume.

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You're "Too Chatty"

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Whether you're naturally a talkative person or you just really give off that impression because of your volume, people will say that you're too chatty for their tastes and might even tell you to pipe down.

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People Assume You're Angry When You're Passionate

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Whenever you start to get excited or involved in a discussion you really care about, people ask why you're yelling at them or trying to fight them about it, even though that was never your intention.

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Everyone Knows When You Arrive At The Party

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Maybe when Ke$ha said, "Well, the party don't start until I walk in," she was referring to the way that everyone notices the second she arrives at a social event because her voice carries.

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You Come Off As Intimidating

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Despite the fact that you're a bubbly, fun person and would never consider your personality as being imposing or threatening, people tell you that they originally found you very intimidating just based on your volume.

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Whispering? You Don't Know Her

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When you're out with friends or at an event, you'll want to whisper a snide remark to a close friend or let them know someone else walked in the room, but your whisper might as well be a normal talking voice.

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People Assume You're Rude

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You might be extremely polite and considerate with your words and actions, but people still immediately assume that you're a jerk just because of your loud voice before they even get to know you.

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Lowering Your Voice Is A Lot Of Work

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People think that you're being stubborn or purposely ignoring them when they ask you to quiet down and they still think you're too loud. In fact, libraries are your worst nightmare.

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People Often Say You're "Bossy"

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While your requests might not be too extravagant or difficult, people think of you as aggressive and bossy when you ask them to do something, while another woman with a quieter voice wouldn't receive the same reaction for the same demand.

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You Struggle At Movie Theaters

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You want to make a comment about a funny joke or a quick thing you picked up on in the movie to a friend, but instead, you stay silent because you know someone will shhh you.

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You're Not Shouting—This IS Your Normal Voice

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When you have a conflict with someone, they say that you're yelling at them, but people always think that you're yelling at them. In fact, people are a little skittish whenever you say something serious.

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Shy People Avoid You

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While some people might gravitate toward you during a party due to the way your voice carries, shy people will avoid you because they're afraid you'll overpower them or just generally find you overwhelming.

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Your Laugh Resembles A Hyena's

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People always talk about your laugh: how loud it is, how funny it is, or how memorable it is. You laugh so loudly that it stops the conversation for a minute until you can get yourself back together.

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You're Worried You're Speaking Over Others

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Whenever you're in a meeting or in a social situation, you are overly self-conscious and hyper-vigilant about everything you say because you're afraid you'll talk over someone else and not even realize it.

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You Don't Even Realize How Loud You Are

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You know what it's like when you're talking with headphones on so you have no idea how loud you're speaking until you take them off? That's a loud girl's life, except there's no taking it off.

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The Volume Translates To The Bedroom

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Unfortunately, living in an apartment building or with roommates inevitably leads your neighbors hearing you get down and dirty every time you decide to have an adult sleepover. It can make for some awkward mornings.

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You Have Trouble With Soft-Speakers

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Since you're so used to speaking and generally existing at your own volume, you struggle to hear soft speakers and really understand what they're saying, but you don't want to be rude and continuously ask them to repeat themselves.

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All In All, Being Loud Is A Good Thing

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At the end of the day, you're loud and proud. You love being able to command an entire room's attention with a single sentence, and your volume actually makes it easier for others to get to know you.

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Men Aren't Critiqued For Being Loud In The Same Way

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While many men are loud without much commentary, loud women are often critiqued and shamed for it. Being loud is, in many ways, a defiance against norms that say women should be quiet and obedient.

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Help Other Women Find Their Voices

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Having a loud voice (literally) helps you to get your ideas across in a lot of places, both professional and personal. You can use your ability to demand attention to help uplift other women whose voices are often overlooked or talked over.